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the ones in my city are for everyone, although there is the option to go to professional events. Quote:
probably because when i am socializing it's usually all male as my friends are all male, and SAUK meets are all male ...well almost. |
#156
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I haven't been on a dating site for a while as I wasn't exactly getting much interest, but I've still had more success online than I've had through any other avenues (i.e. I actually got a date). If just going about your day to day life as normal doesn't work for meeting people (and it doesn't, at least for me), then you've got to do something different, and it seems to basically boil down to either internet dating or going to bars as Defiance does. You have to be pro-active in some way or other, anyway. |
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Does anyone here seriously believe that just getting a girlfriend/boyfriend will make their life automatically better? |
#158
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i might go to bars/clubs once every two weeks on average. the last and only time i went speed dating was in february, i am planning to go try it for the second time soon. Quote:
however it sounds like you're trying to berate people for wanting a bf/gf |
#159
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Remember we have different SA, what doesn't work for you might work for me. |
#160
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I think the majority of people just want to feel wanted, and want a close friend as well. It's not a problem unless you become obsessed about it and decide that it will be your "cure". I never set out to find a partner but met my ex at uni and we were together for over 7 years. He was integral to my overcoming my SA because he was so confident and happy and practically gave me free CBT lessons every day we spent together. He was constantly challenging my negative thinking patterns, challenging my stupid assumptions of social people, and helped me try new things. You could argue a close friend who isn't a bf or gf could do the same thing though. |
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What happens if i went on PoF and find a partner tomorrow yet i hardly go out and still feel too anxious going to places or talking to people. Unless she is very understanding and patient the relationship will be seriously strained. |
#162
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I'm not under any illusions that having a gf will cure my SA, but so much of my condition is related to never being with anyone and being desirable that having a gf will improve my state. Why is it folk get pulled up for assuming a lot with other people's SA, but NEVER when it comes to this subject ? |
#163
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If I'm honest, I'd love to meet a girl with SA, anyone wanna jump into a relationship? HA
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felt physically sick when i was on the sign up page about to sign up. had to lie down for a few minutes. tried not to think too much about it till the event. got to the event, went into the bar, was somewhat nervous (about 6/10). bought myself a drink, and then got chatting to some guy there. after the first speed date my nerves had gone away. after all the speed dating had finished i was too SA to go upto the women and basically spent all my time talking to that guy. we made friends, and now i sometimes go clubbing with him. |
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Do you not agree that some people here think it will cure them? Was what I said offensive? If so, just say so. If I assumw anything wrongly then I'll concede if I'm told I'm off the mark. |
#166
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Hmm, on re-reading you did say that. I suppose I jumped a bit there. Arse about face.
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I thought my post actually defended you as well, so it surprised me.
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Sorry
(said grumpily ) |
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S'ok! I may have some strong views here but I never want to actually upset anyone. Just to challenge them and get them to new ways to kick SA in the shins!
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"Automatically better" as in "an improvement on being single and lonely"? Yes, certainly. Why else would the vast majority of the human race seek out relationships? |
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My experience with internet dating is that in the past 8 years or so it has drastically over saturated itself.
I first tried internet dating maybe about 12 years ago and it seemed to be more a social network thing back then where there was this wonderful tool to get in touch and meet with people. The girls I chatted with back then seemed more genuinely interested and all in all decent people where you would strike up a conversation and maybe after 3 or so messages work out if both parties would be interested in continuing and then work towards a date. This is in contrast in more recent years where the decision to if people would like each other enough to correspond seems to be made before any reply has even been made...it seems that suddenly we all got psychic!! I know that this is down to the sheer number of people online dating and with this age of technological convenience people are overly picky to meet requirements, this is true not just in dating but a lot of online activities (like shopping; we dont just buy things like we do in shops, we read reviews, make comparisons, price match and spend loads of time researching without actually buying anything before 3 months later making a spontaneous purchase on ebay). |
#172
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I was thinking the other day about how in the past I've met up with so many people on social networking sites and relationships have started from them.
I know people don't have the intention of meeting people on them or dating but i still think its better than dating websites....i met someone on friday from one |
#173
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Meet me then Pandapop
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what was wrong with the plentyoffish men? lol. I would try meeting people off social networks but seeing as plentyoffish worked so badly for me i do not think this would work great for me either. hmmmm, but i'm curious now. so how would i meet people? start hassling peeps off my friends friends list? i'd soon get them unfriending me lol, edit: just looked on google. some interesting info has just on strategies came up there but i'd still like to hear your opinion. also where is the facebook search where you get a list of random people. what if i don't know their names???, how do i get a list of truly random people. |
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I think dating sites are a big nono for me because people have the intention of meeting where as i really don't lol.
Where as if i go on a social network site (i don't mean facebook btw i dont see how you could meet anyone off there lol) one with a profile and forums i can make online friends with people who maybe close to my area. Just in the past and last week i connected with someone from one of them and we met up a week after of talking, now this isn't always the case but its worked for me. All week we pretty much were texting non stop and talking from when we woke to sleeping so i knew we'd have great chemistry in person. I used to do it loads when i wasn't this agoraphobic mess. |
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Although Pandapop did'nt say it was Facebook people do meet up from facebook via being in the same groups etc. You don't need no strategies for sites like social networking as you end up clicking with someone when you probably are'nt looking for it. You may meet them off the forum from the site or other aspects of the sites like groups or a chat room. |
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i don't think this would work for me that well, yeah i can get on with people from forums fine ..but there's a difference between getting on well and them actually fancying me. i would be fearing a rejection incase they said no ...then i'd still be bumping into them on the forums all the time. i've never ever asked out someone i'd met on a forum i can imagine befriending someone, making a move and then them not being interested ..and then i would likely feel awkward and probably hardly speak to them much Quote:
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i very much doubt i could lure a woman off a site lol, i don't think they would come, and i definitely don't think they would come if i implied it were a date, heck the only way i think i'll be able to do it is if id trick them and say erm it's to look at museums or something lol and it would probably take months before they'd be willing to meet up with me. it would be almost like grooming or something ..lol |
#179
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hmmm.. my ****ed up mind has thought of another strategy johnni
1. befriend any girl off a social networking forum. infact i might even go for a larger lady as these ladies seem to be more partial to me. 2. suggest going out somewhere just as friends, 3. get her to introduce me to her hot female friends 4. Profit! although i can see the potential for things to go wrong like the girl i meet from the social networking forum aint probably gonna be too thrilled if i get together with her friend and the friend might feel awkward about seeing me as it might piss the first girl off |
#180
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You over think things so much.
I guess i don't join up to social networking sites hoping to meet people. I just do it to socialise and if someone messages my inbox and i get on with them its a bonus. |