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So tired that I don't feel tired anymore.
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X factor cheered me up, we all need mercy! Lol
Hope you feel better soon IRIS you too soulseeker and whoever else is having a rough time at the moment. Sparks. |
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^ You're welcome lol.
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Sorry just forget it. I can't really expect any responses other than 'go out then'....this is exactly what makes me feeling hopeless..hearing stuff like that. I do appreciate your reply..but well gah. I just need to know ways in which I can change my thoughts about myself (mainly skin)..but it's ok im just so frustrated..nobody can give me answers I know. |
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It's taken me years to get to the stage I am now, and I've still got pretty bad SA, but it used to be utterly shocking. I've been gradually exposing myself to different things over the years and it's helped a lot. I've still got a lot of issues to deal with, but I'm making progress. You have friends here, and I'm sure they'd support you and congratulate you on any bit of progress you'll make, which will help a lot. Push yourself. |
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You know what though..it's not about being scared to do this that and the other. I could do anything you asked me..there isn't a single thing I couldn't do. I could even go to a group meet and act like a freak all the way through if I wanted to. It's not about any of that..im not scared of anything 'outside'..im not even scared of humans, interaction, anxiety, weirdness or stress. No..I'll take that all on the chin like everybody else. I just want my god damn brain to stop thinking about my skin. Because none of that 'exposure' we talk about works. I've been out and about in the past..and it still doesn't change the horrible opinion I have of myself. My skin is without a doubt..not the best..far from it. But it shouldn't stop my life in it's tracks? It does though..and nobody understands. You, anybody else here or myself does not understand how I stop obsessing. This isn't SA remember..yes I have SA..but that is not what makes me despair..this obsession with 'myself' my skin is what is crippling me..and I dont know how to stop obsessing. Doing things isnt enough to distract me...there has to be another way? It's not fair..if I do things..yet I dont see any change in the obsessions. So how do I make them stop? |
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..and what do you mean 'If your SA and BDD is really as bad as you say it is'? |
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stop being a big plonker and get on with life. NO ONE is going to do it for you. before you know it you'll have wasted another 11 years sitting in your bedroom tossing your life away on the internet and you'll still be wining about your skin. |
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Weren't you in work last year soulseeker? Whats the difference in your mind between work and going to the shops?
I might be wrong about you being in work last year or the year before though. |
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My skin is nowhere near as good as it may look in that pic. I just want to stop thinking about it..and I cant..which leaves me hopeless. Is that not something anybody would despair about? Anyways..I'll pull through..just a rough time. |
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Hmm, I know how you feel SoulSeeker. I feel the same about why I can't just go up to girls in bars and ask for dates. I think some folk on here are being a little forward with you because they feel that you post such things but you are obviously unable to do anything about it. I recommend reading Gillian Butlers book, I always do recommend it, and then just trying some of the things she suggests. I know how hard it is believe me, but you are quite an attractive man based on your photo. Becky - that bad? I volunteer!!
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Come to a meet-up which is close to you and make friends, and then you can talk to someone about in person, and there is a better chance of them understanding you. Push yourself to go, asking for advice here isn't going to help that much, but having a friend will make you feel a lot better. |
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All of this because I was/am silently suffering. Warmer there is a huge difference..which splits work from shop/socializing/enjoying myself/or whatever. I could explain..but it's just simply not worth it. Work became too much aswell in the end. |
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My sa varies allot in different situations, that might seem to same at first glance
For example different shops and their layouts can make a big difference to how I feel. Paying at supermarkets recently has felt the worst to me, a convenience store or petrol station im okay with. I just don't know what to do with myself when queuing and paying at the supermarket checkout, I dont even know what to do with my mind i pretty much just go blank. Never mind =P. |
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Soulseeker I see where you're coming from and I can relate to you having a difficult time accepting peoples comments which say your skin is fine because no matter how much reassurance you get on here its not going to fix the way you look at yourself because I'm the same way. So I'm not going to say your skin is fine because its pointless really but ask yourself is it going to dramatically improve all of a sudden? Like one day will you wake and be happy with it? Not likely lets be frank its not going to go back to the way it was when you were born and be that smooth and soft etc or look like the airbrushed celebs in the mags but I look at it like this. Its the best its going to be right now as I would of thought with age its just going to get worse as that's just natural isn't it....So work with what you have and try not to worry about it because its the best its going to be. I say that because I imagine you try your best to take care of your skin considering how concerned you are about it and apply lots of things to it but still are not happy right? The best thing you can do is try too accept it I know that's easier said than done believe me because I cant accept things about myself. But that's the way it is and it could be worse, I hope you're CBT helps you progress I'm starting counselling at some stage too so I hope we both make progress. I doubt any of what I said made sense but I tried lol. Regarding the shops I can't do that either unless its just paying for fuel as I have no choice so I go to the Asda station where you don't have to get off your bike to pay which I do 95% of the time lol. In that 5% where i have to go into the petrol station even though I have a helmet on I'm still shaking like crazy, sweating, light-headed, tight chest, lump in my throat....Its horrible but avoiding it is not helping me and I know that. As for an actual shop I never ever go in one EVER! Its scares the hell out of me, maybe that should be my next test go into a shop and buy something! If its nice 2mo I'll do it while out on my bike and record it! Lol my hearts racing at the bloody thought of it lol. Do you want to give it a try with me? We can both try and do it tomorrow and use each other as motivation I'm willing to give it a shot if you are? Like I said in one of my videos, imagine the feeling after you have achieved it and compare it with the bad feeling you will have for the 10 mins it takes to expose yourself to a situation you find uncomfortable. The feeling after is worth it that sense of relief and being proud! Let me know if you're willing to give it a shot with me. Feel better soon mate. Sparks. |
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I don't believe a webcam can just miraculously turn you into a good looking bloke if they've managed to make one of them they'd sell a ****ing million. |
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Anyway, I didn't realise you were already doing CBT, Soulseeker, so I apologise. I haven't been on here much lately and I was only going by your past posts where I've seen you consistently complain about the same things. Anyway, no harm intended. |
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I just want to scream now..im not delusional BFG..dont make me out to be some nutter who is seeing things...it makes me feel worse. I can't post a pic..coz it's one of my biggest fears..i can't post an exposed pic at this time..i just cant..simple as that. Im not lying though..why would I do that? I think you are a caring mate..and I appreciate that very much..it's kind. But you have to understand that what i see is there..whether it's very noticable or bearly noticable..it is there none the less and halts my life.
Sparkie - I will do this..though not tomorrow. Now I guess a lot of people will read this and think 'ffs'. Well so be it..I cant stop you viewing me the way you want to. I need to attend this next session on Monday..and tell her how i've felt recently..then go from there. With this session being so close..I hold too much fear at this time of pushing mself in any other ways..like what you suggested sparkie. I think it would be awesome to come out with you on your bike in the future aswell...but i would have to build up to it. I think I need at least another month of attending these sessions..before I can do anything..im simply too unstable. =( |
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