To accept yourself

[twram]

I found this to be a bit of a "wow" moment when I read this from Diagonally-parked in a parallel universe working through social anxiety by Signe Dayhoff:


To accept yourself you must do 3 things:

1. Separate yourself from your behaviour
2. Assess your behaviour non-judgmentally
3. Accept and respect yourself irrespective of your behaviour


To me it says, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT, SA is an illness and any behaviour that's attributed to the illness isn't your fault. What you think?

[BritishPeace]

Sounds about right

[umm]

I dunno. It all sounds a bit glib and hard to get my head around. But that's probably just me. I tend to prefer practical advice.

For me the big wow came when I realised I didn't have to grovel and like and kowtow to everybody, and that most interactions are really just power struggles wearing top hats. I went from being insecure around people to being secure and on my own. In the long run it's actually been a good deal.

[Coffee]

I think it depends on interpretation.

If you use it as a means to separate yourself from your problems in order that you can actually work on your problems rationally and proactively, then it's great. If you use it as a justification not to act because it's a label or illness out of your control then it's not so great.