What do you want?

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

????

[Paladin]

I don't feel I know. Surely you need to know which direction to go in, in order to go somewhere with your life, to be happy? My friend said 'if I didn't have goals in life, I'd go mad'

[black_mamba]

I don't want any of those things.

I want my body to stop making me feel sick in social situations.

A decent female best friend who could challenge me (in terms of pushing my limits, socially or in general) would be nice though. Not gonna happen.

[T]

Well i just want to stop panicing in certain situations like BM has said

[black_mamba]

Yeah it's tiring. I feel like I'm winning with my brain, but my body won't listen.

[T]

Originally Posted by black_mamba

Yeah it's tiring. I feel like I'm winning with my brain, but my body won't listen.

Yep i feel like this too

[no0ne]

sod the stuff on the list i want one of these.

[senstar]

i want to not be afraid of people

[no0ne]

Originally Posted by MaskedGirl

In that case I really , really want a ......

good choice lets be materialistic and happy

[Mr_Bean]

just a big mac and fries for me please.

Actually, in seriousness, I guess the answers would be just for normality. It's the abnormality of being distant, and being single that I suppose is distressing.

[no0ne]

oh and i want a full time 9-5 normal job as well as the turbo hayabusa please got the stuff on the list that i want.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Stick to the poll options please people.

This is no time to joke, no laughing matter.



*delivers right uppercut to BFG's balls*

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by Stardog99

I don't feel I know. Surely you need to know which direction to go in, in order to go somewhere with your life, to be happy? My friend said 'if I didn't have goals in life, I'd go mad'

I can't make up my mind or make decisions.

There are too many negatives and I'm afraid to go with anything in case I feck up, made the wrong choice, get rejected

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by senstar

i want to not be afraid of people

[no0ne]

Originally Posted by Frustration!

Stick to the poll options please people.

This is no time to joke, no laughing matter.



*delivers right uppercut to BFG's balls*

[black_mamba]

Originally Posted by Frustration!

I can't make up my mind or make decisions.

There are too many negatives and I'm afraid to go with anything in case I feck up, made the wrong choice, get rejected

Stardog has made a good point though - if you don't have a goal to aim for then you can only be wandering aimlessly through life.

I'm not talking about crazy epic aims like climbing Everest or winning an Oscar, I mean more down to earth things like: aim to get a part time voluntary job in 6 months and see how it goes.

I always have goals in sight and if I didn't, like Stardog's friend, I would end up very very messed up, despressed, and just lost.

You say there are too many negatives but you're living a life you dislike as well, which is a big fat negative too. Also, when you try to change, or try something new, I appreciate you are nervous about things going wrong but things can and do go right, esp. if you put in the time and effort to make things work.

Regardless, things go right AND wrong for everyone and accepting failures, coping with them, being able to move on and learn from them rather than taking them personally, these are the traits of people who get on in life and get what they want.

Is it really so scary to change when the position you're in now is not appealing? I can't understand that at all.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by senstar

i want to not be afraid of people

Originally Posted by black_mamba

Stardog has made a good point though - if you don't have a goal to aim for then you can only be wandering aimlessly through life.

I'm not talking about crazy epic aims like climbing Everest or winning an Oscar, I mean more down to earth things like: aim to get a part time voluntary job in 6 months and see how it goes.

I always have goals in sight and if I didn't, like Stardog's friend, I would end up very very messed up, despressed, and just lost.

You say there are too many negatives but you're living a life you dislike as well, which is a big fat negative too. Also, when you try to change, or try something new, I appreciate you are nervous about things going wrong but things can and do go right, esp. if you put in the time and effort to make things work.

Regardless, things go right AND wrong for everyone and accepting failures, coping with them, being able to move on and learn from them rather than taking them personally, these are the traits of people who get on in life and get what they want.

Is it really so scary to change when the position you're in now is not appealing? I can't understand that at all.

My position now is safe though and Im bloody tired to death.

I'm makeing excuses I know.

[E Dub]

Originally Posted by BFG

oh and i want a full time 9-5 normal job as well as the turbo hayabusa please got the stuff on the list that i want.

Turbo hows that legal is the standard bike not quick enough for you? How much bhp does that kick out?

[black_mamba]

Originally Posted by Frustration!

My position now is safe though and Im bloody tired to death.

Safe from what? Tired in what sense? Mentally?

[no0ne]

Originally Posted by E Dub

Turbo hows that legal is the standard bike not quick enough for you? How much bhp does that kick out?

depends on how much boost it's running but about 250bhp ish. No not quick enough for me i'm a fat bastard needs the extra bhp to push me along. standard ones too slow.

anyway back on topic before mien fuhrer gets stroppy again.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by black_mamba

Safe from what? Tired in what sense? Mentally?

Safe from more failures, arseholes, relentless piss takers and a boatload of other things.

I'm mentally drained yes, and also physically drained by all the damn PTSD like symptoms I suffer from.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by BFG

depends on how much boost it's running but about 250bhp ish. No not quick enough for me i'm a fat bastard needs the extra bhp to push me along. standard ones too slow.

anyway back on topic before mien fuhrer gets stroppy again.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by lilly

maybe safe from posibility of rejection?

Yes.

[diplodocus]

Don't get your poll choices. What's the difference between?

A GF only and
A GF and no friend(s)

[black_mamba]

Originally Posted by Frustration!

Safe from more failures, arseholes, relentless piss takers and a boatload of other things.

You're also devoid of all the successes, decent kind people, relentlessly warm-hearted individuals and a boatload of other things.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by deeshow

Don't get your poll choices. What's the difference between?

A GF only and
A GF and no friend(s)

I know, I ballsed it up.

[danielv]

Originally Posted by deeshow

Don't get your poll choices. What's the difference between?

A GF only and
A GF and no friend(s)

option 1 implies that you already have friends

option 2 means that you want a relationship, but dont really like socialising outside of it?

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by MaskedGirl

Fusty , pick one challenge at a time and go for it. Some people can't use the phone so work on that issue by making 3 social calls a week , if you hate going outside then maybe going to the shop is a good start?
I'm drained at the moment and finding it hard too but hang in there and i'll send you a biscuit

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by danielv

option 2 means that you want a relationship, but dont really like socialising outside of it?

Yep.

I'm torn between many options so I picked the last.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by black_mamba

You're also devoid of all the successes, decent kind people, relentlessly warm-hearted individuals and a boatload of other things.

Stop being such a smarty pants.

Maybe you're right, but even when I was at my most normalist (is that a word?) I never experienced much of the above.