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Job option advice!
So when it rains it pours!!! Lol for anyone who has read my previous posts, you will know that after almost two years of applying for jobs I have finally managed to get a job! The dilemma of a couple of days a ago was whether I should go for the third interview (job c) even though I have accepted a job (job b). Anyway today I get a call from job 'a' insisting I should work for them!!!! So here are the options.
Job 'a': Assistant surveyor. Full time, flexie time. Seems varied and busy. £20,000 pa Job 'b': Receptionist for Magnet head office. £min wage 22hrs p/w (130pm to 6pm) Job 'c': Receptionist for the NHS (mental health section) 12.5hours p/w (min wage) Personal situ: a lone parent who has always been a part of my daughters life (ie who has always been there for her now 9yr old daughter), who has an extremely disturbing relationship with work, who holds a degree in psychology. Who has extremely low self esteem - arghhh!! I had accepted job 'b' as p/t but after a lot of reflection am thinking with job 'a' and job 'b' - would there be much difference? Ie. with job 'a' I could go in early and finish early? With job 'b' starting at 130 means I really can't do much with my daughter anyway. Ie start day is next Monday, my current child care arrangements are my daughter is staying with my aunt from Monday to wed (she lives 2hrs away from my home), then thurs and fri with my mum (she lives 1 hour away) - tried calling various childminders but none will take my child just for the afternoon as apparently it would disrupt their day (which can understand as they would have to wait in for my daughter to arrive)!!! So seeing as I won't actually see my daughter anyway Mon-fri hols should I just take job 'a'. Even when school starts if I took the full time, I could effectively need to rely on childcare less with the full time position!! Or should I just hang on to interview number 3 - the ideal one, but then I might not get it!?? Arghh also in an ideal world I would be at home with daughter but grrr to job centre I have to take one of these positions, which I know I do need to work as at the mo am a social hermit, ie I literally dont leave the house unless daughter is with me!! So socially I do need to get out in this world!! Any solutions or ideas would be great! |
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Re: Job option advice!
It seems to me that you've ruled out job B with sound logic. The flexi hours from job A will be handy in dealing with day to day time management and the increased wage will be a bonus in helping your financial stability.
Maybe accept job A and if job C get back with a positive response, you can accept them and quit job A, if they do not get back with positive news, you have not missed out on job A? People have said they feel bad about starting a job but then quitting it for another option. I don't see this as a problem personally as an employer would have no hesitation in taking someone on and then letting them go after the first month, to have someone else fill the role. Their loyalties are to the position, your loyalties are to yours and your daughters wellbeing. Do you feel you would be able to cope with job A? If not, maybe wait for job C and let the others go. Maybe by the time they get back, the other two roles might be filled? Another bonus with the flexi time is that you might be able to stock pile hours, so you can take free time off during other days to have a day or so a week where you and your daughter can do things together. Some people woirk 4 day weeks to have 3 day weekends, by elevating their hours during those 4 days. Or maybe if you get a free day a week, you can split them in to two half days. |
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Re: Job option advice!
So from Mon-Fri what time do you collect your daughter from your Aunt/Mum or when she is at school?. Job A seems better as it's better pay and flexi time and allows you to spend more time with your daughter in the afternoon after school. However do you think you will be able to cope with it being probably harder than the other 2 jobs?
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To be honest don't know how I would be able to cope mentally with any of the jobs, whether p/t, full time or even just a couple of mins! I literally need to work, have no other option. Johnni, there would be two weeks left of the school hols so would be literally just for the hols would have to be away from my child (which the idea of it is already killing me inside, as since she has been born I have only spent 2 nights away from her - she is not amused either but appreciates the situ).
Geminus: lol think you have posted on my previous post, very wise and practical advise - and lol think were both hanging on to that job 'c'! GRRR hate having SA, as if I didn't would be a fun time to negotiate. Decision making on tedious matters so easy but I think when you know its a matter of having to speak to people a nightmare!! |
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If you don't think you could cope with working FT then maybe job C is the better option. It would be less pay then the other 2 however, can you live off that wage you reckon?.
What do you reckon your chances are of getting job C? |
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I'm a bit of a serial poster, its an addiction
Ummm, I take it all back now. Having just read your other post, I'm not surprised this is such a large thing to face let alone handle and I don't think any of these jobs would necessarily be a good idea for you right now. I feel there are other things you would better benefit in achieving first and I feel these things are important. I think your best step is in appealing the job centres decision and also assessing whether you can be placed on other benefits that take you out of the work-group for the meanwhile... or at least take in to consideration your full circumstances and operate around those to be sensitive of your needs. There are groups you can speak with in order to receive advice and support from them in setting up the things you need to set up but I think in all honesty, this is your best option for now.. and screw anyone who tries to pressure you in to something you are not ready for. They won't be there to pick up the pieces if it all goes wrong. Christ jess, I'm flabbergasted. |
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Having read your other thread i agree with Geminus in that maybe getting a job now might not be a good idea as you've had to deal with alot in the past and i guess you still do which imo will directly affect how you will behave in the workplace in the future.
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Seeing as you have to take on of the positions, I would take Job C as i could picture it being very laid back and a calm atmosphere, not to hectic, and would probably be quite quiet during periods of the day.. Do it for your daughter, I'm not so good at giving advice, but when you set your mind to do things for your loved ones, you tend to pull through for their benefit
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Given your degree in psychology, and the fact that it is part-time, I would think job "C" would be most suitable. But how would this job be for you given your SA? Are you comfortable having brief scripted conversations with strangers? If so, then job C might be okay for you. (I've gathered from other threads that what bothers SA people the most is unscripted office banter. I would think that job C would not involve such banter.)
Regarding your other post, I would also consider the extent to which each of these jobs would place you in a position of vulnerability. |