Cringe memories

[quietguy]

God I hate it when one of those really cringey memories/cringeyiest moments in your life (you know where you made an absolute tit of yourself) pops into your head out of nowhere its the worst! Wish there was some way to completely erase these memories to stop this happening haha
I could be having a great day then this happens and its the absolute worst

[Dougella]

Yes, it is the worst!

[Mellie]

Yep! sure is the worst. too many embarrassing things I keep thinking about.

[blancmange]

Yeeep, I have so many on a daily basis

[Merritt]

I get these all the time. It makes me feel pretty risk-averse knowing that if I manage to make a prize tit of myself, even if only in my own head, it may very well haunt me for literally the rest of my life.

[quietguy]

If only these were real lol

https://images.app.goo.gl/3JZUSvM4LFezafNa7

[choirgirl]

I've had a few of these recently. When I was young, I would get them ALL the time, often about what now seem like minor things. It was horrible. Being a teenager is difficult when you are that sensitive to embarrassment. I also think the fear of making more cringy memories really hampered me in the workplace.

[Mike.Kzov]

It is indeed the worst. Sometimes it can be things from years ago, some embarrassing incident from when I was like 13. Yet the brain enjoys making you relive it in great detail

[Rocket Spud]

For all my faults this is something i rarely (if ever) put myself through. Probably because of age.

[gregarious_introvert]

Everyone has cringe-inducing memories (I know I do - and even more so since I've gained more understanding of social conventions and then review things I did earlier in my life) but try to remember that, whatever it is, it doesn't live as long in the memory of others as it does in your own; the chances are, that you're punishing yourself for something which has been long-forgotten (if it was even noticed in the first place) by everyone else.

Those memories which do persist can usually become funny moments (once the initial embarrassment / offence / outrage has passed), which you can turn to your advantage by recounting with "Do you remember the time I did / said ...". If they don't become anecdotes, then at least they can be learning opportunities.

[Consolida]

Originally Posted by Rocket Spud

For all my faults this is something i rarely (if ever) put myself through. Probably because of age.

Although my general anxiety is still severe, since I've gotten older I don't tend to worry as much about making a fool of myself and seldom relive those horrible times that I did. Maybe that's one of the rare benefits of getting older!

[Blackflies]

I actually like relieving those moments. Laughing at myself to myself tends to break the ice.

[SpaceMonkey]

Pretty much every shower and every time I try to sleep.

[Mo34]

Originally Posted by Rocket Spud

For all my faults this is something i rarely (if ever) put myself through. Probably because of age.

Originally Posted by Consolida

Although my general anxiety is still severe, since I've gotten older I don't tend to worry as much about making a fool of myself and seldom relive those horrible times that I did. Maybe that's one of the rare benefits of getting older!

Yep, for me it has definitely lessened with age. I rarely bother about such things in the way I might have done 20 years ago.

Wisdom? or just a form of resigned jadedness

[Blackflies]

Originally Posted by SpaceMonkey

Pretty much every shower and every time I try to sleep.

There’s something about water that just makes you bathe in your own sin for a few minutes. Guess it’s the psychological baptism element. Leave your troubles in the waves or shower pool.

[choirgirl]

^^I don't think it's either. I think it's just biology. I think we are wired for shame to kick in hard at that age. It's probably all part of learning to be a social animal and learning how to work with the group. Once that job is done, that system calms down.