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  #31  
Old 9th December 2015, 09:59
jinny jinny is offline
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Default Re: Which we're your 'lost years' and your best years?...

Good question

My lost years are many; all my secondary school years were just a horrible torment.
Then a few good years where my bullies had finally left school & I was in the 6th form, then a year at art college & went out a lot, had my first boyfriend. Didn't realise I was so damaged until my friends all drifted away to Uni & I tried to do the same & couldn't.
All my early 20s were lost, though I had 2 really good years in Wales, failing Uni, but living with a boy I was very much in love with & loving living near mountains & sea.

Since my late 20s got more on track, did a degree, learned to drive, got married, had babbas, got a job.

Definitely more settled and stable, but not sure emotionally any happier?? Love my children, but miss being a bit wilder in a way. Swings & roundabouts innit?
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Old 9th December 2015, 15:52
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Default Re: Which we're your 'lost years' and your best years?...

This hard for me. Every year of adulthood I've felt lost but there were also some good things happening in most of those years that I wouldn't change. I think I'm always going to feel lost in some way, like I don't belong. I feel like an undercover cop trying his best to fit in in a place he doesn't belong waiting for the boss to tell him that the jobs done and he can get pulled out.

My worst years were from 18-28 without a doubt.
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Old 9th December 2015, 19:28
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best is now.
my worst? difficult. probably early 20s when I was in a deep depression
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Old 10th December 2015, 15:29
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Lost years were Age 13-24. High school years were unbearable and full of misery to a point where I struggle to recall one happy memory. Once I left I never managed to shake off those bad times and wasn't really qualified to get a reasonable job so spent my late teens to early twenties drifting through dead end jobs where I struggled to fit in. The few friends I had left from school broke away by the time I was 21. Leaving me living with a sickly father, estranged from my mother and a head full of suicidal thoughts and regrets.
Best years are 25 onwards when I plucked up the courage to go for counselling which gave me a chance to unload the bottled up feelings and get help to put the past behind me. Also done some voluntary work for a while and a reasonable full time job which suits my needs. Best of all was finding SAUK where I've met like minded people, gained a social life, made new friends and even had a few relationships I thought I wasn't capable of. This year has been a bit of a setback but hopefully its just a little blip and the good years will be around for a while yet.
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Old 11th December 2015, 10:40
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Lost years 70-82: Bullying and peer rejection. Development of what was to become a chronic mental illness. Came very close to becoming a long stay psychiatric patient.

Best years: 1983-2002 Left hospital with the person who later became my wife. Had someone who believed in me and helped me to progress a little.
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Old 12th December 2015, 18:10
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Lost years - 5 to 14: My father died when I was 7 after a long illness and then my mother became ill, without sounding "woes me" I feel I didn't really have a childhood and have always felt older than my years and related to older people more than my peers.

31 to 36: I had an accident that left me with minor but ongoing injuries. Main relationship of my life broke up. I was being bullied at work. Had a mental breakdown and yoyo'd on and off meds, therapy etc.

Best years - 21 to 30: Looking back my 20s were actually ok, I lived in Spain for a while, when I came back I went to university as a mature student, ended up doing a Masters. Oddly I was single for most of this time, but was very fulfilled in the other aspects of my life. I started dating again towards the end of my Masters, age 27 and looking back I can see this is where my mental health issues started coming to the surface although I didn't get diagnosed till my breakdown ^.

38 to now (41): I was finally clear of meds, with a lot of help from people here and in the chatroom and meets. I dealt with a lot of ghosts from my past. I took redundancy from my main job and went on to actually have some really interesting contract jobs. I have also done some big trips which I blogged about here. And sustained a relationship for a couple of years.

I wanted to post again because I spend more time in the chatroom and meeting people these days than I do on here, but if it wasn't for this place I don't think I would be here. There were some dark times a few years ago and it was finding people who can empathise that got me through it.
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Old 14th December 2015, 01:13
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Lost years were High School, which saw me turn into a bedroom-dweller. And later, in my twenties before I had kids. Being pregnant was the first time I'd ever felt like I was where I was supposed to be. i.e content.
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Old 23rd December 2015, 23:39
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Lost years 19-24 roughly. Going round in circles. Lonely daydreamer. I know myself now but the best years have yet to come I believe.
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Old 25th January 2016, 16:30
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^ Hope this year will break that trend.
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