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nah lol id say over 35 and you will stuggle you can still work your charm on teh ladies
and since when was 24 considered old lol i still act like a 5 year old and im 21 |
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I always thought of myself as ugly (I was quite perversely proud of it, in fact), but nowadays I think I just look fairly normal, apart from my bizzare body language, anyway! But to be honest, I don't really experience attraction myself, so I feel a bit disconnected from the issue.
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Yes, but I dont think it matters, theirs an overweight bald guy i know that has an amazing girlfriend, looks only help in context to the person, thinking its all looks is something culture has ingrained in us, just look at the adverts all over the cities with "attractive" models posing as if to undermine our own ability to sense and recognise beauty.
I always thought of myself as ugly at a young age, which ruined alot of prospective relationships, it didn't help when people where intersted in you to inadvertantly push them away for fear of being judged.... |
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Personally, I'm not sure how I see my attractiveness/desirability. I'm sort of neutral on it. I know that there will always be someone who finds you attractive no matter who you are. I could look better, but I could look worse. I think I'm an decent person and treat others accordingly. Maybe that has an attraction for some in itself. I don't know. I've got a long term partner, so I must be doing something right, so I don't give this kind of question much thought generally. How you see yourself can matter a lot though. If you perceive yourself in a negative light you will tend to hide yourself away, be that physically and/or personality wise. So people don't get to see who you really are. All the good you have to offer is hidden as you try to hide what you perceive to be the bad. I suppose this sets a self-fulfilling prophecy in motion where you feel undesirable so keep yourself and personality under wraps. Doing this can reduce the chances of meeting and getting to know potential partners. You feel a failure, and this backs up the original negative self-perceptions you held and strengthens them further. |
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Hard to say. I look OK in the mirror, but disgusting in photos. The weight gain and hair loss doesn't really help, but I don't think I'm ugly.
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I used to before my sad got to this stage. I've been single for 9 years apart from 2 brief mistakes. I've given up now. Xxx
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maybe if i could relax enough to be myself and have a proper conversation
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I'm not an attractive man and I feel it's really held me back. At best I could be called plain but plenty of people have ridiculed my appearance. It is really heartbreaking to see the speed and warmth of the welcome afforded to handsome guys when they start at the office whilst I am left out of things. I've always been told that it is confidence that is the key but that just rings false to me. |
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I really liked the guy a lot, everyone did, and you just looked past the appearance and liked the guy for who he was,..I'd also say that someone good looking will easily be ignored or dismissed if they have no personality, I know it's a cliche, but it happens to be true. |
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I was on my way to a gig with a friend and we popped into a pub in town. There was a girl working behind the bar who was certainly not classically good looking. She was a very ordinary girl with very ordinary looks and dress sense. You know what though? This girl simply owned the entire pub with her warmth and friendly attitude with customers. Her confidence was obvious, and the customers lapped it up and were falling all over themselves to be served by her and give her tips. She was simply amazing to watch, and she came over as extremely attractive despite being (subjective I know) rather plain to look at. I seriously doubt many would give her a second glance in the street, but the way she came across personality wise was amazingly attractive. I think how we put ourselves across makes an amazing difference to how we are perceived by others. I've also seen very ordinary guys who come across in a very attractive way and have few problems attracting the ladies. Looks only get you so far, especially with quality people. After that, personality is crucial. Ultimately, for anyone sticking around in your life for a long time, personality is generally what will keep them there. The novelty of looks soon fades if a person hasn't got a warm personality and some personal qualities. Last edited by Ajax Amsterdam; 21st December 2011 at 17:56. Reason: The usual. Poor spelling. |
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Advice to younger (men) people here - Chatting to women online, noooooooooOOOOOooo... avoid it unless you want to be head screwed and deluded. |
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Maybe it's similar with some who also have social anxiety issues of their own too. If they don't know how to handle their own issues on the subject, maybe dealing with others with similar issues can feel even more difficult? Who knows though, I'm just guessing there. Take care. Quote:
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people who were blessed with good looks have it so lucky that its not even funny. i mean its just a big advantage to have, you can hide your worries easier, people will gravitate to you more in an approachable way. you'll have more attention. more of an advantage in a job interview. favourable in many ways. good looking people are usually happier and have swagger because they know that their looks give them swagger.
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