Why aren't you in a relationship?

[Toxic]

id probably just hand the £20 over and go home

aint getting that back! ..be cheaper than what id spend on drinks anyway

[Defiance]

Originally Posted by Johnni

^ You ever end up dating any women you approach?

another thing i need to fix is asking for numbers off women i approach in bars. even when the interaction is going well (flirty), i don't seem to ask. i think maybe i might need to do the 20 quid thing again to make sure i ask for numbers as asking for numbers is something i am currently not doing.

[Dandelion10]

The reason I'm single is because I don't think I can actually have a relationship at present. It hurts me when I see couples but I try keep an open mind, judgements set in only with ignorance.

When I'm ready I'll do a spell for my soul mate, I've done spells for everything and they always work. I asked for money and got over £1000 tax rebate, for a flat and got that too, I asked for help in overcoming my compulsions and the next day I saw a 'Healthy Minds' table set up in Halifax library full of leaflets to self help groups which is there every week. I spoke to the woman sat by the table and she understood, offered me advice-it made me feel so much better.

So as well as being grateful to the cosmos for granting me that I'll definately be going to those groups and I'll ask for a soul mate when I'm a little better. I do have a partner, the officer but we only talk on the phone and I think he's keeping his options open, plus when he does show up or knock on my door I'm terrified to answer.

So there's a while to go yet, I want to get a book published first so I can get some cash and put it into other types of therapy.

[AnathemA]

Do you mean that they made it clear from their body language that they weren't interested, or they simply ignored the signals? Because a lot of men have LITERALLY NO CLUE when a woman is sending them signals that the woman may think are obvious. And if there's any doubt at all, a shyer man is likely to assume he's imagining it.

Damnit, I posted in the worm thread.

[Johnni]

Originally Posted by Dandelion10

The reason I'm single is because I don't think I can actually have a relationship at present. It hurts me when I see couples but I try keep an open mind, judgements set in only with ignorance.

When I'm ready I'll do a spell for my soul mate, I've done spells for everything and they always work. I asked for money and got over £1000 tax rebate, for a flat and got that too, I asked for help in overcoming my compulsions and the next day I saw a 'Healthy Minds' table set up in Halifax library full of leaflets to self help groups which is there every week. I spoke to the woman sat by the table and she understood, offered me advice-it made me feel so much better.

So as well as being grateful to the cosmos for granting me that I'll definately be going to those groups and I'll ask for a soul mate when I'm a little better. I do have a partner, the officer but we only talk on the phone and I think he's keeping his options open, plus when he does show up or knock on my door I'm terrified to answer.

So there's a while to go yet, I want to get a book published first so I can get some cash and put it into other types of therapy.

You serious?

[GhostOnMagneticTape]

I'm undesirable and unattractive in my present anxious depressive state of mind and I rarely socialize so my chances of meeting someone are very limited plus I can't deny I'm picky.

Edit - Plus I don't want to make the first move...

[Swiss]

Tbh, the thing that freaks me out most about a relationship is just the thought of spending time with someone. 1-on-1 situations spook me totally - I can barely carry a conversation with most people without resorting to pointless chit chat or random questions and the thought that I'm boring someone or being a burden is overwhelming. And then there's all the other stuff as well (like fear of rejection^^), I dunno, it's been so long since I even came close to being in a relationship I've sort of forgotten.

[diplodocus]

Originally Posted by mark101

I honestly would'nt get hung up on stuff like that,despite what porn or shallow people have led you to believe,women aren't actually obsessed with big dick's.

Very true, I think it's men that are far more hung up on penis size.

[Peyre]

Originally Posted by cbear

The person I truly want is someone I cannot have.

Yes. This too. The worst thing is...I know she loves me, but she feels trapped in her current abusive relationship, and I've been unable to convince her otherwise. She knows full well about my anxiety and depression and she probably thinks she is safer in her current relationship...safer in an abusive relationship...quite a blow eh?

[Johnni]

Originally Posted by mark101

I honestly would'nt get hung up on stuff like that,despite what porn or shallow people have led you to believe,women aren't actually obsessed with big dick's.

Originally Posted by diplodocus

Very true, I think it's men that are far more hung up on penis size.

I agree that actually men are more hung up on penis size than women are and unfortunately alot of women also have a similar hang up wanting to be stick thin thinking us guys want them to be.

[Szarlej]

You got it so right Jonni and of course man are more hung up on the penis size. We are the ones that stuck with it for the rest of our life

As my ex use to say , no matter the size but how you use it

[Fluppy]

(Aw, my smilies were a few posts too slow)
Uhm, -hides-

[Toxic]

its all porns fault

i mean how many average size penis do most men see? maybe if you go to a gym and use the showers or something? i have no idea i dont frequent them areas

given if your not particularly interested in looking at another mans junk its quite depressing as you will only have come across the donkeys in porn, then you look down and wonder where did it all go wrong

which means its ok to be tiny compared to the ones in porn right...right.....right?

[ghost.of.an.englishman]

Originally Posted by diplodocus

Very true, I think it's men that are far more hung up on penis size.

Originally Posted by Johnni

I agree that actually men are more hung up on penis size than women are and unfortunately alot of women also have a similar hang up wanting to be stick thin thinking us guys want them to be.

This is a bit of a bizarre thing to get into an argument about, but I think guys' worries about this are half justified.

I doubt when women fantasise they imagine a small guy, now do they.

[Szarlej]

What men think what women fantasise of and what really goes on in the head of a woman might be two different things.

Remember they are from Venus

[Johnni]

Originally Posted by nineofswords

i'm not hung up on my penis. I can't even get it over my shoulder.

Originally Posted by NRG.89

Well I'm definitely not hung.

Boom!

Behind the laughter, a hint of sadness.

Lmao. I've had too much to drink, whatever, fml

Took a few posts for someone to point out everyone is using the word 'hung' on this context. Dissapointed somewhat it took so long.

[Toxic]

funny really

in my list of reasons i hadnt actual considered my little man being a problem

i would have been more bothered about him being overly excited kinda like my dog, when he was a puppy..wayy too excitable when getting played with, used to piss himself

now i shall add not hung like a donkey to the list, just incase!

(although being serious i would like to think if i got serious enough with someone i would know them well enough to know they wouldnt be the sort of person that would drop me because of potential size issues..if they are id be a terrible judge of character! )

[We_Hate_You]

Originally Posted by mark101

Notice there wasn't a rush of women to reassure anybody,just guys trying to convince guys

Exactly. A comment from a female just saying something like "small penises are better" would be nice. Come on, don't leave us hanging (no pun intended).

[Tom123]

Originally Posted by no-moving-lines

This is a bit of a bizarre thing to get into an argument about, but I think guys' worries about this are half justified.

I doubt when women fantasise they imagine a small guy, now do they.

How many men fantasize about women with stretch marks? Or ones with one boob that is slightly smaller than the other?

Yeah, some women don't want a small penis, some women may even laugh at you for it but likewise there are plenty of women who will accept it as part of you and be more than willing to work with it.

[Johnni]

Originally Posted by no-moving-lines

This is a bit of a bizarre thing to get into an argument about, but I think guys' worries about this are half justified.

I doubt when women fantasise they imagine a small guy, now do they.

Well we both said how its seems men are more hung up about size than women rather than it's only men.
Some women may want a python the same as some men will want a women to have massive breasts.

[Szarlej]

Originally Posted by tomtom123

Yeah, some women don't want a small penis, some women may even laugh at you for it but likewise there are plenty of women who will accept it as part of you and be more than willing to work with it.

.... I'm telling you it's there.... you don't need to put the glasses on .....

[Cowburn]

Because no one will ever love me, simple as.

it's not rare to hear some women say that they do not like it too big. Apparently it hurts and also they can't put it in their mouths fully- might make them gag, or whatever.

Penis size is nothing to worry about.... what you should worry about is how long you can last. Premature ejaculation is less pleasing for a woman than a small penis.

[ghost.of.an.englishman]

To Johnni and Tomtom, fair enough, that***8217;s sort of what I meant by half justified, I can***8217;t have been clear enough.

[Szarlej]

Originally Posted by tomtom123

what you should worry about is how long you can last. Premature ejaculation is less pleasing for a woman than a small penis.

No one likes when they clean the table when you haven't even unfolded your napkin.

For some men the problems are quite reverse though

[Fluppy]

Having the largest tool in the shed usually matters more when u do alot of gardening.
If your seeing to more than one bush..umm.. it depends if you're seeing to several bushes or one garden, and its the same if the gardener is seeing to trees..apart from having a different set of tools for the job.
I suppose it depends what kind of task the gardener is looking for aswel.
Stamina is usually important when you're working.
Wait, wrong topic.

( i need to mow the lawn tomorrow)

[Johnni]

Originally Posted by Fluppy

Having the largest tool in the shed usually matters more when u do alot of gardening.
If your seeing to more than one bush..umm.. it depends if you're seeing to several bushes or one garden, and its the same if the gardener is seeing to trees..apart from having a different set of tools for the job.
I suppose it depends what kind of task the gardener is looking for aswel.
Stamina is usually important when you're working.
Wait, wrong topic.

( i need to mow the lawn tomorrow)

[Ajax Amsterdam]

Originally Posted by Fluppy

Having the largest tool in the shed usually matters more when u do alot of gardening.
If your seeing to more than one bush..umm.. it depends if you're seeing to several bushes or one garden, and its the same if the gardener is seeing to trees..apart from having a different set of tools for the job.
I suppose it depends what kind of task the gardener is looking for aswel.
Stamina is usually important when you're working.
Wait, wrong topic.

( i need to mow the lawn tomorrow)

You're funny.

[Saponara_Immobile]

If it was ten years ago I'd make a joke about Charlie Dimmock's water features.

[Fluppy]

Originally Posted by Johnni

loool