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Old 15th December 2012, 19:43
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At this rate, never. I'm too much of a loser to ever get into a relationship, and too much of a negative asshole to ever be suitable for one.
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Old 15th December 2012, 20:25
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i was 19 when i got with my first and only girlfriend which lasted for nearly 4 years. A massive learning curve for me.
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Old 15th December 2012, 21:38
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Old 15th December 2012, 22:33
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I started seeing my first (and as of yet only boyfriend, we're still together) when I was 19. I wasn't even interested in dating until I was about 16, yet at the same time I felt a bit like the odd one out when all my friends were dating. Even more so when I got to about 18 and all of a sudden everyone I knew from school were either having kids or getting engaged.
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Old 16th December 2012, 12:39
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I'm 30 & never been in a relationship. I've had a few female friends over the years but just friendship. Most people I work with are all in relationships, I think I may be the only guy whose single. I sometimes wished I met someone when I was 17/18, but I don't think anyone can say there's a right or wrong age to start a relationship.

I would prefer to meet someone I like & I'm interested in, then to get with someone just to have a girlfriend.
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Old 16th December 2012, 13:55
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15 but I had been a cheeky chappy with girls at a much younger age than that just that 15 was when anything with any substance developed with a girl.

It's a shame it has all dried up for me now.
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Old 16th December 2012, 14:44
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Ive kinda been out with 2 ppl when I was 9 Although only 1 of them had actully asked me out so only 1 official I dumped her about a week later cus my friends were saying things about her XD

Not been out with any1 / done anything since except kissed someone when I was about 14 on a sofa. (Both VERY drunk)
Have been asked out quite a few times tho / had ppl come onto me but I make an excuse to leave ^_^
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Old 16th December 2012, 15:26
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I was 16, I liked the girl for a while but was too SA to ask her out but luckily her friend told me she liked me as well and that I should ask her. I didn't last very long but I'm glad I got the first one out of the way at the age I did.

That's actually the only time I've ever asked a girl out. Every girl I've been with since (not many) has made the first move. As nice as that is it hasn't happened very often and there's been more girls I've been interested in that I haven't pursued, more due to low self esteem than fear of rejection. I struggle to see why any girl would want me even though some obviously have.
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Old 16th December 2012, 15:48
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about 10 though it wasn't anything serious only peck on the cheek swapping sweets kind of thing. i haven't had a relationship since and i'm 41 now. its highly unlikely to happen now and i've accepted it.
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Old 16th December 2012, 19:10
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I was 21, it only lasted a few weeks so I'm not sure it counts. Haven't had any chances since, or just drunken kisses on nights out and nothing more progressed. You still have lots of hope OP, you're 23, not 33 or 43, by then things are looking bleak, I know...
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Old 16th December 2012, 19:12
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Erm...if i remember correctly first proper one was early twenties.
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Old 17th December 2012, 02:16
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I was 16, I liked the girl for a while but was too SA to ask her out but luckily her friend told me she liked me as well and that I should ask her. I didn't last very long but I'm glad I got the first one out of the way at the age I did.

That's actually the only time I've ever asked a girl out. Every girl I've been with since (not many) has made the first move. As nice as that is it hasn't happened very often and there's been more girls I've been interested in that I haven't pursued, more due to low self esteem than fear of rejection. I struggle to see why any girl would want me even though some obviously have.
Wish a girl would make the move on me, unless they do I have zero chance of ever having a relationship, the thought of an attractive girl talking to me is just about impossible for me to comprehend. Though just wondering how have girls made the move for you, do they just come up to you and start chatting/flirting?
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Old 18th December 2012, 00:31
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Not sure what the criteria for a proper boyfriend/girlfriend is.... but mine was 21 and it was shit! Second and last one was when I was 26.
Both were through meeting on the internet, yahoo chat and myspace, if it wasn't for the internet it would have never happened. Sure I used to get slavverrrrred drunki and go clubbing but that scene isn't for everyone.
God bless the internet!
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Old 18th December 2012, 00:40
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Oh and I think you can definetly change in a positive way after 23, but it's much more down to yourself to do, it won't happen automatically like when you're a child turning into an adolescent and adult.
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Old 19th December 2012, 02:17
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25 and never had one. No ones ever been interested in me.
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Old 19th December 2012, 15:03
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Met my current partner when I was 24. He is the only person I would consider to have been in a "proper" relationship with, since there is mutual respect and we plan on marrying.

Sometimes wish I'd never bothered with anyone else and stayed single until I met my current partner, then I wouldn't have got messed around so much by lads when I was younger. I had 2 previous long-term relationshps, one of 3 years and one of 2 years. They were both unhealthy relationships. I thought I should just go out with anyone who asked me, even if they were not very nice then they used to say horrible things to me or chat up other girls and I'd feel even worse about myself. Wish I had stayed single and got a BF when I was ready instead of wasting my time on those idiots.
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Old 19th December 2012, 15:45
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18 technically it was a relationship and it taught me alot but the sort of thing you look back on and think, thank god I didn't have a baby with him.
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Old 19th December 2012, 19:15
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Got my first and only proper girlfriend to date at 19, lasted until I became really ill with SA at 23. Been single for 6 years now, not holding out hope of finding another girl any time soon. You have to like yourself before you stand a chance of having anyone else like you and right now i really dont.
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Old 19th December 2012, 21:43
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18 technically it was a relationship and it taught me alot but the sort of thing you look back on and think, thank god I didn't have a baby with him.
I sometimes wish my best friend had thought the same as you with her last bf. I now have to hear how much of a bad dad her ex is to their daughter. She's 20 now but had her at 19.
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Old 19th December 2012, 22:16
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So your not a fan of the glue sniffing druggies then
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Old 19th December 2012, 22:20
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Not really, no. I found the smell of the glue on the other person just a little bit off putting for me.
No surprise you didn't stick together
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Old 19th December 2012, 22:22
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I'm just wondering if it was Prit Stick or PVA glue?
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Old 19th December 2012, 22:27
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I don't know what type of glue it was, but he used to put his head in a bowl and cover his head with a towel lol Classy!
Did you ever just think he had a cold when he did that then?
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Old 19th December 2012, 22:32
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No surprise you didn't stick together
Badum-tish!
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Old 19th December 2012, 22:37
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Yeah definitely......he was just steaming out his cold and it turns out he had alot of them by the sounds of it lol
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Old 20th December 2012, 21:39
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Agree with others...23 is still young, but look to develop relationship with girls. I'm now 31 years old and have only had 1 relationship which was at best rocky. I would also say I have never been properly in love. The older I get, the hard I feel it is meet other girls and develop a relationship.

If you are up for the challenge, then you are fine!
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Old 20th December 2012, 21:45
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I was 19 and a half, we were together for 2 years but didn't get on that well, we argued a lot. I guess we were comfortable enough with each other to sometimes have a laugh or argue and insult each other! I think we were together for that long because we didn't have anyone else to hang around with much and it was someone to go out places with.
I wonder if I'd have a more successful relationship if I had a good friendship with someone first, I don't know.
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Old 21st December 2012, 11:50
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i'm 28 and i've never had a girlfriend. as extrordinarily sad as that is, and i mean this. i could go my entire 20s without having a relationship. its just tragic. y'know, but i know the most important thing is to laugh at ones self and to be helpful, nice.

But the reasons for me for never having a relationship? as far as i can tell.

- Physically i feel very generic, average, nothing really stands out. This means that i have no real physical confidence in myself, i have no swagger. So when it comes to sharing my body with someone else, i just can't picture it happening.

- I have very low self-esteem in this area. By this i mean that i can't imagine anyone being interested in me. Usually the more confident guys always get the attention from girls and i'm stuck either in the middle/bottom appeal wise or i'm not even thought about. Every single time, in every environment.

- I can inititiate relaxed conversation but i don't sustain it enough throughout an entire day.

- It just doesn't happen, for whatever reason. its just really sad.
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Old 21st December 2012, 20:39
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Default Re: What age were you when you got your first girlfriend/boyfriend?

I met bumped into a guy at work today and he said to me 'What is your girlfriend getting you for Christmas?'. I mumbled 'errr, I haven't got a girlfriend'. The guy laughed and said 'why not?!'.

I felt so embarrassed, as if I was abnormal for being single. If only he knew I hadn't had a girlfriend for 8 years!
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Old 21st December 2012, 20:44
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I would have said, "It's going to be a surprise."
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