Magnified depression/loneliness after social events

[Alex652]

I am lucky enough to go to social events every now and then. But, I've noticed my loneliness and depression is magnified after the event has finished. I guess its partly due being overwhelmed with socialising, and I go an analyse the whole event. Did I say enough? Did I say the wrong thing? Was I annoying?

Wish I could just switch my brain off sometimes lol.

[Alex652]

Thanks! I really should think of the positives.....

[Nat88]

I constantly over-ananlyse things I've said when I've spoken to someone. It doesn't have to be a social event, just chatting to someone in the street. I get to the point where I despise myself, even feeling suicidal over it, telling myself I will never change and I can't even make simple conversation. It's a killer, so I fully sympathise with you.

Like biscuits said, focus on the positives. If you made someone laugh, or if someone came over to talk to you, for example. I'm sure others don't see you in the same light you see yourself.

[timmyb]

The only time I feel lonely is after a successful social event, the more successful it is the lonelier I feel. Not for the first few days after because I'm in the afterglow but inevitably the loneliness and depression will follow.

[AnathemA]

I get a lot of this. Like timmyb says, the better the event, the more difficult it is to re-adjust to being on your own afterwards. Not really sure what to suggest. They usually tire me out so much that 'more socialising' is actually the last thing I want, so it ends up with me being dissatisfied either way.