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Old 16th November 2019, 22:47
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Thank you, Biscuits and Orb You're very kind.

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^ Nice one, Merritt!
In a few days, you'll be glad that you were sober so you could remember seeing the band and be able to remember the experience clearly.
That's true, it wouldn't have been a good idea to get drunk. There was a lady a few rows in front who looked super tipsy, getting up out of her seat and wobbling about over the balcony, she got chucked out or moved or put in the bin eventually. Would've been nice to have had something though, to make me a bit more loosey brucie.
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Old 16th November 2019, 23:06
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^ put in the bin hahaha

nahhh, you don't need booze - if you keep going to these sorts of things then over time you'll naturally become loosey brucie (sounds like a category from the Bristol Stool Scale teehee).
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Old 18th November 2019, 13:42
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I've got a flippin interview on Thursday. I'm all over the place & shaking on & off. I'm happy but soooooo terrified. do I have to go??

yes
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Old 18th November 2019, 13:50
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Congrats

Just see how you feel on the day. Even if you don't go into this interview there will be others, so just take it as far as you can. It's all good practice.
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Old 18th November 2019, 17:29
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Thankyou both

^ good idea thanks
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Old 19th November 2019, 01:41
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^
Aw, that's great news, I really hope it works out for you. This could be a really great things for you.

Let us know how it goes.
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Old 19th November 2019, 11:35
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^ Thankyou I will

I also got my haircut today & i actually like it
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Old 19th November 2019, 16:28
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^ it was pretty long & looked half dead. chopped to collar bone length feels so much better. I hate getting my hair done but really need to go often to keep it short
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Old 21st November 2019, 11:46
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I went out to the pub last night with a couple of friends for the second Wednesday running. It was a lot busier this time which I normally struggle with, largely because of the extra noise but I managed to cope pretty well.
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Old 23rd November 2019, 03:31
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I opened up about how I've been feeling and will hopefully receive some additional support in the new year.
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Old 23rd November 2019, 05:18
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^ Well done, newbs. It sounds like that was a very difficult thing for you to do but I hope it results in you getting the help you need
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Old 23rd November 2019, 09:12
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^ thank you
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Old 23rd November 2019, 10:54
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That's great newbs

Sorry this is a bit late. I'm so proud of myself I did the interview, I survived! I think I did well. But don't think it's a good fit for me. some things I didn't like (one of them was how I was spoken to)
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Old 23rd November 2019, 20:05
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Great news newbs, well done. I hope when it begins you find it very beneficial

Well done on attending your interview AireleeBray. They can be scarey!
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Old 24th November 2019, 18:51
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^^^ Aww great news, Airelee!

Sorry that it didn't feel like the right place for you though. Ah well, it's all good practise and will help you to feel a teeny bit more comfortable about the next interview. It's always best to wait for something that feels right and like the kind of place you'd want to work. Better to have found that out in the interview then a week into a brand new job. I'm sure a job opportunity that's somewhere more welcoming will crop up soon
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Old 26th November 2019, 00:56
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I went to a craft group in a different area to where I normally live, I was terrified at first but enjoyed it and stayed till the end.
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Old 27th November 2019, 12:01
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^^^ Aww great news, Airelee!

Sorry that it didn't feel like the right place for you though. Ah well, it's all good practise and will help you to feel a teeny bit more comfortable about the next interview. It's always best to wait for something that feels right and like the kind of place you'd want to work. Better to have found that out in the interview then a week into a brand new job. I'm sure a job opportunity that's somewhere more welcoming will crop up soon
Thankyou your right thank god i didnt accept it then be stuck somewhere I wasnt happy.

well done everyone
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Old 27th November 2019, 16:25
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I'm in Vienna at the moment and went to some strudel-making demonstration today. I was sat at a table at the front and got chosen to answer a question, and when I answered correctly I got called up to help in front of everyone There were probably around 40-50 people watching and it was utterly mortifying at first, I had to put on an apron and paper hat and butter a strudel while the chef was joking around, and the audience were laughing and taking photos. It started to feel okay after a while though, I was trying to be conscious that nobody knew me and wouldn't ever see me again or think about me again as soon as it was over, and from doing that I think I was even kind of enjoying it by the end. I think they normally ask a child to do that but there weren't any in the room, since they gave me a certificate afterwards and let me keep the hat.
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Old 27th November 2019, 23:17
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^ woah big kudos for you for that. I'd find that hard going
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Old 1st December 2019, 22:24
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^well done on that as it's a film people are mostly going to see as part of a crowd
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Old 7th December 2019, 04:07
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^ Well done, hope this will help you in the long run mutedsoul
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Old 12th December 2019, 08:42
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Are you sure it was because of the coat? That does seem like a strange reaction to it, unless you were also wearing a fedora or something. The receptionist turning their head could have been completely unrelated.
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Old 13th December 2019, 11:34
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Social anxiety is about not interpreting reality properly though, isn't it? Believing that situations are harmful when they're not, believing people are judging you when they're not, etc. It's when a person's reactions don't appropriately match the reality of a situation. From what you describe, it just doesn't make any sense. If you genuinely believe that the receptionist thought your new coat was somehow inappropriate for your job role and that you shouldn't be wearing it, and in response to that thought turned their head so as not to look at/talk to you because they were so disgusted, then... fine. It really could have been down to anything at all though, so it doesn't make any sense to assume anything. Just continue saying hello and being friendly as usual, otherwise it'll be how you're feeling about it now that causes a situation with them in future.
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Old 19th December 2019, 18:00
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Had a nice experience working with some children last few days. As the years role by I found there wasn’t an age group that didn’t cause me anxiety in some form, but I think working more with kids might be an opportunity to find some connection to life again. Children are mirrors of our own behaviour, and if I’m withdrawn and quiet I am virtually invisible to them, and that is quite a powerful, although painful, lesson to learn. They’re the most honest therapists.
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Old 13th January 2020, 03:44
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Had a nice experience working with some children last few days. As the years role by I found there wasn’t an age group that didn’t cause me anxiety in some form, but I think working more with kids might be an opportunity to find some connection to life again. Children are mirrors of our own behaviour, and if I’m withdrawn and quiet I am virtually invisible to them, and that is quite a powerful, although painful, lesson to learn. They’re the most honest therapists.
Good post (I added some of my own experiences and thoughts but deleted them). I hope it goes well for you
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Old 13th January 2020, 04:00
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I have certainly felt that people have treated me differently when I have worn ''smart modern'' clothes vs some very old clothes I liked but which were looked down upon by the fashion police. Although my body language etc has also been noted at times by people who look down on anyone who seems different. If I'm feeling relaxed I'm accepted.. if I'm withdrawn etc.. not so much. Just my experience. I did post an ''on topic'' post earlier which I deleted. As in a small achievement. I decided it was ''too small''...
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Old 16th January 2020, 07:41
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72 hours cigarette free !
I dreamt about smoking last night
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Old 16th January 2020, 23:35
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Not today, but yesterday I went to a meditation class just down the road. I've had my eye on it for a while but have previously just done the easy thing and put off going. It was a pretty great experience and I chatted to a few people there without too much of the usual new context awkwardness. Think I'm going to try to make it a weekly thing.
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Old 18th January 2020, 11:12
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^Well done Appear.

I went to town today and bought some new clothes for work. It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
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Old 18th January 2020, 18:19
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I ventured to the theatre today, on my own.
Luckily it's a small theatre and most of the people there were older, which I find much less intimidating than being around younger people.
And I thoroughly enjoyed watching The Buddy Holly story.
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