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Old 16th August 2019, 19:26
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One of the worst things about being an “adult”..
Is “coffee mornings” with other “ladies”
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Old 16th August 2019, 19:33
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What I can’t stand is all the bitchin..
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Old 16th August 2019, 22:50
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^^ I used to go to SA coffee meets on meetup.com and they were great, no bitching involved. I guess it depends on the women
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Old 17th August 2019, 04:14
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Very wavey out on the Thames tonight. I don't remeber it ever being wavey. #WereAllDoomed
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Old 17th August 2019, 08:41
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It's beautiful day outside today folks.
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Old 17th August 2019, 09:00
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^ That's what I like to hear, Schmosby! I'm really hoping for a not too hot/not too wet day where I can take the dawgs to the seaside or to the woods .
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Old 17th August 2019, 09:05
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too much on my mind, why is life so fng shite
Hope you're okay Skittles. Have you ever thought of doing something like what Mo does - walking people's dogs? An advert came up on social media the other day. It was called borrowmydoggy.com. I think I'd maybe be anxious about that until I knew the temperament of the dog, but it might be nice to go for walks to nice places. Taking dogs for a walk is nice and can be good fun if you have a silly dog. Sorry if that's a silly idea. I won't be upset or offended if you think it's not your cup of tea!
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Old 17th August 2019, 17:17
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I keep seeing that Coke advert where a massive tongue frolics about with a lady. Now, no one's ever been that happy to drink fizzy pop, which only leaves...
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Old 17th August 2019, 17:36
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Dog walking would be something I would like to do (in theory).......
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Old 17th August 2019, 20:06
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Observing the way my boyfriend's mother treats his dad like a piece of shit, it's rather obvious where my bf gets his asshole streak from.
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Old 17th August 2019, 20:13
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Bear’s mother tended to treat his father like shit. I don’t think bear inherited those traits. His siblings maybe have done a bit more though (not sure though)
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Old 17th August 2019, 23:09
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Do people “choose” to feel bad? I haven’t known any...
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Old 17th August 2019, 23:11
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Do people “choose” to be so anxious when consulting a doctor that the doctors dismissive garbage both verbal and written is beyond ugly..
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Old 18th August 2019, 00:12
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^ you’re not a “loser”

I think that word should be banned.

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Old 18th August 2019, 00:26
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I married a bear who doesn’t have SA but who is very content with no social media or many friends outside of work. There will be some A holes who judge him as ..........possibly ... although more A holes judge me since A holes love to cause hurt, grrr..

I won’t say what my opinion of those A holes is.
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Old 18th August 2019, 01:19
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^ A bear? What a big furry grizzly bear?

If your other half is happy and content with having a limited social life then good for him, and it's really no one else's business at all.

However, I think the reason I feel down about seeing the photos and videos of my Facebook 'friends' having a whale of a time with their friends is because deep down I'm not an introverted loner but my SA has forced me to live that way.
I've never wanted a huge circle of acquaintances but just one or two close loyal friends that stand by me through thick and thin. Of course my husband is my best friend and I love him dearly but it feels unfair to expect him to meet all of my emotional needs when he has his own stresses with work, etc.

Maybe it's wrong of me to blame my SA for my lack of any social life and it's simply due to the fact that I'm not a very nice person to know.
I mean, one of my Facebook 'friends' who I used to spend time with in real life years ago had a big birthday party recently and invited LOADS of people. Of course I didn't receive an invite (not that I would have wanted to go, but that's not the point). I think people have only ever wanted me if there was absolutely nothing better in the offing

Sorry for the self pitying rant
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Old 18th August 2019, 01:24
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If I told him he had a limited social life he might bite me, yes he’s a grizzly
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Old 18th August 2019, 01:26
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Maybe they didn’t invite you because they thought you wouldn’t go, I don’t think that is evidence of being a bad person
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Old 18th August 2019, 01:44
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I read somewhere the theory that an extravert usually marries an introvert..
So maybe I’m a “failed” extravert..

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Old 18th August 2019, 02:20
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Keep thinking about how people in their early twenties seem ridiculously young to me these days, barely out of childhood and immature, and how I know it's completely unfair and untrue, yet I still feel it. I've no doubt that most uni age people are far more mature and worldly than I'll ever be, and I myself around age 21/22 was the most adventurous and grown up I've ever been, but I still think stupid stuff like... You were still in nappies when 9/11 happened, the Playstation 2 was like your version of an Atari 2600, all the music I like is now Dad Rock to you... therefore you're a child.

Urgh, this is how people get all self-righteous and reactionary when they get older, isn't it. Sticking my head up my own arse and thinking everyone born after me is a big daft baby.
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Old 18th August 2019, 06:40
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^ I'm starting to think like that about people in their early 30's

I'm often noticing how young teachers, policemen, doctors, etc, appear to be these days, only to be jolted rudely back to reality with the knowledge that there have always been a lot of young people doing these kinds of jobs and it's me who is getting older. It's quite depressing.

I do think that a lot of the teenagers and people in their early 20's today are far more worldly wise than I was at that age - but then again, I was incredibly immature for my age even among my peers. That's what suffering with SA from a young age can do to you. When you find it difficult to interact and socialise with people it somehow emotionally stunts you in your development - perhaps it's because you miss out on so many of the experiences - rights of passage even - that everyone else encounters. Inside my increasingly ageing saggy body I'm still the scared, needy 14 year old girl.

My 16 year old is far more streetwise, mature and wise beyond his years than I have ever been but then he isn't shackled by SA chains, thank god.

I'm just waiting for there to be a Prime minister that is younger then me. Then I will know I'm old!
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Old 18th August 2019, 12:30
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However, I think the reason I feel down about seeing the photos and videos of my Facebook 'friends' having a whale of a time with their friends is because deep down I'm not an introverted loner but my SA has forced me to live that way.
I've never wanted a huge circle of acquaintances but just one or two close loyal friends that stand by me through thick and thin. Of course my husband is my best friend and I love him dearly but it feels unfair to expect him to meet all of my emotional needs when he has his own stresses with work, etc.
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I do think that a lot of the teenagers and people in their early 20's today are far more worldly wise than I was at that age - but then again, I was incredibly immature for my age even among my peers. That's what suffering with SA from a young age can do to you. When you find it difficult to interact and socialise with people it somehow emotionally stunts you in your development - perhaps it's because you miss out on so many of the experiences - rights of passage even - that everyone else encounters. Inside my increasingly ageing saggy body I'm still the scared, needy 14 year old girl.

My 16 year old is far more streetwise, mature and wise beyond his years than I have ever been but then he isn't shackled by SA chains, thank god.

Swap out husband for wife, girl for boy, 16 year old for 14 year old, and this absolutely describes me to a T
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Old 18th August 2019, 14:48
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I’m still a scared and needy 14 year old girl inside too
I hadn’t really thought of it that way before..
Having severe SA and maybe depression, this isn’t our “fault”
How do we help this scared and needy child inside us?

I saw one GP quite recently who was friendly. She looked at my medical notes and said something like “you don’t look xx age” ... as in she thought I looked younger. She said to “stick with the girls” and to consult her or another female GP at the practice. She told me she was going to a different surgery later on and said she wanted to “take me with her” .. she was probably about 30. But then she left the surgery and moved far away. I think she may have fallen out with the extremely arrogant and rude senior partner there. The one who labelled me...
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Old 18th August 2019, 18:23
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I’m too shy to post an introduction. But hi.
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Old 18th August 2019, 18:27
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^ Hey Mountainstream..! Welcome. Loving your name.. sounds all peaceful and tinkling
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Old 18th August 2019, 18:30
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Thank you anewyear.
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Old 18th August 2019, 22:29
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Swap out husband for wife, girl for boy, 16 year old for 14 year old, and this absolutely describes me to a T
Ah, it's nice to know I'm not alone with this then


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I’m still a scared and needy 14 year old girl inside too
I hadn’t really thought of it that way before..
Having severe SA and maybe depression, this isn’t our “fault”
How do we help this scared and needy child inside us?

I saw one GP quite recently who was friendly. She looked at my medical notes and said something like “you don’t look xx age” ... as in she thought I looked younger. She said to “stick with the girls” and to consult her or another female GP at the practice. She told me she was going to a different surgery later on and said she wanted to “take me with her” .. she was probably about 30. But then she left the surgery and moved far away. I think she may have fallen out with the extremely arrogant and rude senior partner there. The one who labelled me...
I'm guessing it might be quite common for people with SA to feel emotionally younger than their years. Although a lifetime of regrets, disappointments and heartaches have unquestionably taken their toll and in some respects made me cynical and world weary, deep down, I still feel that I haven't advanced very much at all on an emotional level. I'm more like an insecure teenager than a middle aged woman. Actually, I would say I'm more like a toddler (accept not cute) as the teenagers I come into contact with these days appear very calm and collected, and mature.

Don't you find it quite flattering when people think that you look younger than your age Bluebear?

It used to drive me crazy when people thought I was a lot younger than my years but after I had a child I suddenly seemed to age 20 years over night! I would give anything to look young for my age again, so long as folk didn't start talking in that patronising way that they tend to do when they equate a young looking, awkwardly quiet person with being a tad simple


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I’m too shy to post an introduction. But hi.
Welcome to the forum Mountainstream
I still feel shy after years of posting (off and on) but everyone is very understanding and supportive here so please don't feel afraid to post. It's far too quiet here these days so to have some new members posting would be lovely
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Old 19th August 2019, 03:04
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Welcome, Mountainstream
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Old 19th August 2019, 11:23
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Was just sitting thinking how life is a bit shit and generally feel like I'm running out of reasons to live. Then I hear a knock at the door and open it to a sweet old couple grinning from ear to ear, one of them thrusts a leaflet my way and says "we'd love to see you there", it reads..
YOU ARE INVITED 2019 to 'love never fails! convention of Jehovahs Witnesses'. Totally ****ing bemused.
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Old 19th August 2019, 12:53
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^ Well done with your phone call.


Wow a painting and drawing group for health, that sounds so good
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