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#1
8th May 2012, 10:30
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What advice would you give yourself?
Inspired by a post I made on another thread.
Advice to me... Don't worry about what others think of you. For everything you do someone will think you're a fool/idiot/stupid/genius/weak/strong etc etc. What they think is their business. Only you matter and you should think you're OK. Don't worry about stuff. Somehow or other things work out in the end. You're still here aren't you? Never expect an outcome. You'll only be disappointed if it doesn't happen. See and appreciate the good in others. They mean a lot to you and you need them. Do things to help others. You'll get what you give. Enjoy every single little thing you do. However small. Stop comparing yourself to others. There'll always be someone you come off second to. Accept and acknowledge your weaknesses. You're useless in some ways but that's OK. Stop wanting to put others down because you feel inferior. Don't get so annoyed by other people's weaknesses. They're human too. If in doubt, do it. Do something. If in doubt, say it. You might make a fool of yourself, but what the heck, forget it and move on. 
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#4
8th May 2012, 11:50
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
you dont have enough friends for them to give you a swift kick up the arse..your gonna have to do it yourself
stop hiding away from everyone and everything keep in contact with people who actually seem to give a shit about your instead of whining about others who dont you probably dont need a girlfriend! just spend the money on yourself you seem to get more enjoyment out of it grow a pair and learn to drive...everytime you get on the bus you want to snap ..its probably not healthy! (i could probably go on for days with this but..)
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#6
8th May 2012, 12:51
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
dont ever think that this is the day you really arent going to cope anymore - you have felt like this many times every day in the past but its just anxiety- even though you feel like screaming and breaking down remember that a nervous breakdown is just an overworked nervous system and it doest mean you arent going to be able to move - keep moving if you feel like you cant anymore - dont lie down - you can do anything you want if you keep moving... and no matter how bad thoughts get - the next few minutes they could change drastically - you are worrying too much about fear and not the actual doing--------- just keep on keeping on......
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#8
9th May 2012, 02:47
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Stop making excuses to friends when asked to do something...starting today as ive been asked to go play 5 a side football for an hour before i start work.....havnt made an excuse yet except i might not have had enough sleep before my nightshift(which wouldnt be true)so screw it i will go play tommorow
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#9
9th May 2012, 10:12
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Grow up.
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#10
9th May 2012, 12:45
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
just go, just do it and don't be scared!
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#13
9th May 2012, 14:40
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Don't open that door...!
There is an evil, hitherto unbeknownst to man, turn and flee before it's too late and you have touched the handle and lost your version of reality... Oh, too late... 
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#14
9th May 2012, 14:52
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Stop running away just walk, it looks less shifty
Tell people some things but not others Stop going over the past in ur head, it's daft Stop going over convosations it's daft Start fighting for what u believe, it's gives u peace of mind Accept the good and the bad that's happened and move on but don't forget Follow ur heart not always ur head Listen to ur heart not just ur head, one day it might stop trying to be heard Listen to those around u b4 u disregard what they say Realise what good u can do Accept ur self Love urself Help ur self And do this for other if they diserve it Don't be so quick to judge
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#15
9th May 2012, 19:05
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Have a day off.
Stop trying to fix the future. Do something you enjoy. Do some kind of therapy to relax. Or if you can't afford that (which I very much can't) then find a way to spend some time BY YOURSELF, where you don't have to TALK to ANYONE. or LISTEN to ANYONE. And don't feel quilty about it, thinking you should be doing something that needs doing instead. In fact, stop feeling guilty altogether. Go swimming, you like it. STOP FEELING GUILTY and stop listing all the things you're not doing well enough. start reading a new book, it helps you switch off Stop feeling guilty every time you have something nice to eat! What a good idea for a thread, it makes you look at things a bit objectively. I knew I was very sressed and anxious, but I didn't realise how much guilt I feel about things day to day.
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#18
9th May 2012, 21:37
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I love this thread.
If we all took are own advice we would be cured. I'm going to try and take my own advice as if I was advising a friend.try not to worry about things so much. Take everyday as it comes. Be yourself. Don't care what others think of you. Good things will happen. You will achieve it if you put your mind to it.
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#20
9th May 2012, 22:27
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
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#22
10th May 2012, 13:53
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
If I could go back in time I'd advise myself to start trying to get better sooner and not leave things to progressively get worse.
1.There isn't one single embarrassing thing that I've experienced that I haven't successfully lived down 2.Most of those embarrassing experiences have been down to panic and tension 3.Nothing is worth THAT much anxiety! 4.Don't trust people so readily, staying loyal friends with them will not eventually change them into good people 5.Don't be so aloof/detached/cold. Relationships between friends and family are the most important things in life.
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#23
10th May 2012, 14:22
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Dandelion10 - That is a great list and one that feels very personal to me.
I would add: + Leave the house at least once a day. I spend so many days sitting by myself no-wonder I have social problems!
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#24
10th May 2012, 20:01
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Toughen up!
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#25
10th May 2012, 20:15
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
1) Stop looking for other people to give you a sense of worth and esteem
2) Get out more and don't spend all your time thinking up varied and often illogical reasons why you can't go out and do the things you really want to 3) Stop investing such importance in every tiny minor detail of other people's behaviour towards you 4) Stop blaming others for your mistakes 5) Avoid hiding away and denying yourself the chances to grow 6) Realism and extreme self-defeating pessimism are not the same things 7) Be yourself and don't think that someone could never like you for who you really are, only when you pretend to be something you're not for their benefit 8) Express your feelings instead of expecting others to develop mind-reading abilities and intuit what you want
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#26
10th May 2012, 20:36
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
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But "realism" can be an elusive concept too.
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#27
15th May 2012, 15:01
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Let other people get on with it. If it bugs you but doesn't affect you, it's none of your business. Keep your nose out. You gain nothing by chipping in. In fact it could make people like you less. Don't do it! Stop it! Stop it! Stop it!
You're going to carry on doing it aren't you? Probably. They might respect me for giving my opinion. Oh I don't know, just stop it. Mmmm.
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#30
15th May 2012, 21:12
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Re: What advice would you give yourself?
Just f***ing sort it out girl.
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