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I've had to go back to living with my parents for most of the past 2 years after having been independent for the previous ~12 years, and it's been pretty humiliating and depressing tbh. I'd like to be able to just move back to where I used to live and then start looking for work there. But it's very difficult to move to somewhere when you don't already have a job since landlords won't touch you (or they request daft amounts of money up front). And it's difficult to get a job somewhere when you're living 400 miles away. Add to that all the trouble I'm having with finding job references and the work history checks and it all makes me feel decidedly trapped.
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Thanks Dannysbabe for the idea of voluntary work, got an interview with someone tomorrow who helps people with mental health problems get into voluntary work as a start,im petrified but my daughters coming to support me (and to make sure i dont do a runner!) The Prisoner
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How did it go?
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i live at home and stay in it unless my bf comes round to pick me up and we do go out most friday nights, i wouldnt go without him though, too scary!
i do wish i was well enough to work/deal with working...im getting there but its hard. |
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aw thats briliiant! good luck!
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My partner and I stay at home most of the time and very rarely socialise. I really cannot be dealing with all the shit that comes with going out - too many nasty prats about being stupid nasty tossers. I'm getting too old for that these days and quite like sitting by the fire in my smoking jacket and comfy slippers, puffing away at my pipe (ooh er). So I'm only in my forties but it isn't that bad - I'm looking to employ a nurse next to help me with a few bodily functions when the misses ain't looking...
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I'm not saying I think I can get away with not working, but it doesn't stop me wishing I could Every day I go to work, it hurts....it's awful. Is life this awful worth living? I can't bear working at this place any more, that's for certain, I'd do anything to get out of here. I don't know what to do now though. I think I'm in deep doodoo... |
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Hi Dannysbabe,
saw a lovely lady yesterday, shes taking me to a local garden nursery on friday where most of the staff are volunteers who have some kind of disability, helps everyone to be in a working enviroment. im absolutely petrified but another part of me is excited im going to make myself go cos shes really making an effort to help me The Prisoner |
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i have worked part time most of my life, with periods of being alone eg when a student - found sa unbearable sometimes, but also found that when i stopped having to see people every day - always with enormous relief! - that my sa just magnified ridiculously.
have been off work now probably about a year, got physically ill so missed a lot, then depression/sa made the thought of going back absolutely intolerable and have been off work ever since. however thought i'd use the time to put some work into my mental health, so have been going to counsellor, and various other things to build myself up. thought about trying vountary work. part of the problem i always had with paid work was that i felt so guilty about not being good enough, particularly if i ever had sick days from depression, and the thought that i was getting paid not to be there made me feel terrible, and guilty, and that everyone would hate me! got totally paranoid about that aspect of it. anyway, am waffling, but what i was going to say was that have started volunteering - first at a city farm - gardening, and similarly to yours people work there with mental/physical health problems. that was ok, do a couple of hours a week, also have just started volunteering in an adult literacy class. and what i have found is that volunteering goes a long way to sorting out this worry about not being good enough - you are doing them a favour by being there, and in some environments they just love you for going! - this is what i get in my class, they are all clamouring for my help and attention, and they tell me how lovely i am and stuff, and this is such a huge self esteem boost, and really valuable in countering sa feelings. anyway hope your volunteering works out for you, if the first doesnt seem right keep trying different things and i am sure that you will find one that makes you feel good |
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Hi everyone,
just wanted to say i went today about volunteering at the garden nursery, they were really nice, going to give it a go on wednesday morning to see how i like it, i didnt manage to say much as i was so nervous, but i think it will get better if it can stick with it. |
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Well done Jackie, good luck for Weds
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I'm 31 , I do work but stay at home mainly in the evenings and on a weekend.
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