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#272
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Why not invite the ages 4 to 10, maybe they are already here
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#273
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Anyone else never “answered back†as a child?
Maybe I’d have “grown up more normal†if I had done.. |
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I’m so freakin hungry. My honey pot is empty
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Blowin in the wind ...
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#276
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Where have all the flowers gone?
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#277
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^^Maybe quite apt for this old folks section...
https://youtu.be/ZgXNVA9ngx8 I shall have this tune in my head for the rest of the day now. I totally blame you for this Bluebear |
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#279
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If 30 is ‘old’ this world is completely bonkers..
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#281
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^ I guess it depends on the individual newbs.
I've always been a worrier but it's got a lot worse over time. I will worry about anything and everything. I definitely worried more after having a child and it doesn't lessen as they get older. Although I've only been officially diagnosed with having SA I wonder if I am also suffering with a general anxiety disorder because I can't imagine 'normal' people worrying this much. Do you feel that you worry more than you used to newbs? |
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#283
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I'm thinking how boring and juvenile cliques which judge and exclude others are. I guess that's why I find this forum useful as there are so many kind people here who are supportive to all.
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I think I need to stop watching documentaries on the Universe. It does sort of lead your brain down the path to some odd existential crisis.
I do kind of hope when you die that you don't just wink out and the mystery of it all is revealed. I'm gonna be mighty pissed if not |
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How social anxiety has ravaged my life. It's all very depressing. Luckily I can take pleasure in the small things.
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Thanks Dougella.
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How anxious and on edge I felt earlier today. As a passenger I felt very on edge, I'm not usually this bad, it's sad to see how this has become more of a issue recently, I was glad to get out of the car.
Also being around lots of people was an almighty struggle, socialising with lots of people at once is hard, Christmas is just a stressful time of year. |
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I’m thinking why would I disclose where my cave is.
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Why would they be any different to who they are? I cannot change them and they cannot change me.
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That all my problems are tangled up in one huge ball and have been for years. And if I try and pull on one thread it just gets stuck. I need to deal with several threads at once. How?
Also I've been reflecting on my life and formative years in particular and I have concluded I need a shedload of person-centred therapy. I laugh in the face of CBT. It's not going to be cheap. |
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According to 192, one of my friends from uni was still living in the same city three years ago so I'm guessing he's probably still there. I just need to borrow someone's Facebook account now. With the other one, the trail goes cold about ten years ago. I assume she either married or left the country. What would I do if I found them? I would still be too embarrassed to make contact.
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^ Hope you don't mind me asking, but why are you embarrassed to make contact with your old friends?
If it's anything to do with feeling embarrassed that they may have 'progressed' further in life than you then you really mustn't let such thoughts stand in your way. In the distant past I've allowed one or two friendships to fall by the wayside because while they were going to Uni, getting great jobs, getting married and having families, at the time I hadn't even moved from first base and I felt too ashamed to admit this to them. Looking back, I realise friends worth having wouldn't have thought badly of me for any of that, plus the folk who appear to be successful and have it all are often feeling as inadequate and miserable as the rest of us. If this isn't the reason why you are worried about contacting your old friends then please disregard everything I've just written Quote:
No offence to SAUK, but (if I'm still alive) I seriously hope I'm not coming here at 82! |
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^Consolida, it's so kind of you to post this when you have your own worries, especially with the uncertainty over your mum's health.
Yes, it's the they have progressed further in life embarrassment. And even if they don't care, I care. And they were already progressing further in life back then. And I liked your post on how you'd lost contact out of shame because I could totally identify with it. Basically the only friends I've kept in contact with are living near by. I'm not bothered about not ticking all the boxes of life. I knew back then when I lost contact I wouldn't be ticking the marriage and children boxes in case you're wondering, although there is more than one reason for that. But I at least wanted to be a functional adult, with a semi-decent job and my own place. And not be so damn boring as I have become. I wanted to at least tick some boxes! Actually, when I was a teenager, that was as far as I got with envisioning my adult life except I thought I would be able to manage it by 30. Ha! Nope! And for some reason I cared about having fun. And I semi-ghosted one (so I was being delusional on the ghosting thread and I feel guilty) and I was semi-ghosted by the other, so yeah. Ugh. I was just at a very low point for many reasons when I lost contact, and then I have felt ashamed ever since. |
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I never rebuilt my life when I should have done in my early 20's. Then I met someone, that lead to some amazing experiences, financial stability and even fighting off a potentially life ending illness.
It is deeply upsetting that it is now over. But I never rebuilt mylife, I had all my eggs in that one basket. What is on my mind is how I am going to do this and where is it going to take me, how do stay stable and grow on what I do have left when it feels I could so easily get that down in the dumps that I do something silly and loose everything. |
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My dad just passed away after a long and courageous battle with MS. I wish I had been able to express my love for him much more than I did. I have lost both of my parents now. It’s all too easy to blame our parents on the way we’ve turned out, but what I’m thinking right now is how loving my parents were and while they didn’t always get things right in hindsight perhaps, my dad and my mum did their absolute best for me. I’ll miss you Dad, like I miss Mum terribly. I’m sorry I didn’t turn out a better person.
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