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Old 16th August 2019, 02:59
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Haha, very good!
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Old 16th August 2019, 03:04
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Why not invite the ages 4 to 10, maybe they are already here
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Old 16th August 2019, 03:11
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Anyone else never “answered back” as a child?

Maybe I’d have “grown up more normal” if I had done..
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Old 16th August 2019, 03:18
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I’m so freakin hungry. My honey pot is empty
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Old 4th October 2019, 16:45
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Blowin in the wind ...
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Old 4th October 2019, 16:50
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Where have all the flowers gone?
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Old 4th October 2019, 17:02
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^^Maybe quite apt for this old folks section...

https://youtu.be/ZgXNVA9ngx8

I shall have this tune in my head for the rest of the day now.
I totally blame you for this Bluebear
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Old 4th October 2019, 17:04
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Maybe quite apt for this old folks section...

https://youtu.be/ZgXNVA9ngx8

I shall have this tune in my head for the rest of the day now.
I totally blame you for this Bluebear
Yeah it’s a catchy song
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Old 4th October 2019, 17:05
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If 30 is ‘old’ this world is completely bonkers..
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Old 5th October 2019, 02:59
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If you're a worrier do you think it gets worse with time, or as you get older.
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Old 5th October 2019, 03:40
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^ I guess it depends on the individual newbs.

I've always been a worrier but it's got a lot worse over time. I will worry about anything and everything. I definitely worried more after having a child and it doesn't lessen as they get older.

Although I've only been officially diagnosed with having SA I wonder if I am also suffering with a general anxiety disorder because I can't imagine 'normal' people worrying this much.

Do you feel that you worry more than you used to newbs?
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Old 7th October 2019, 17:54
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If you're a worrier do you think it gets worse with time, or as you get older.
I guess it depends on the individual and their life experiences.
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Old 7th October 2019, 18:18
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I'm thinking how boring and juvenile cliques which judge and exclude others are. I guess that's why I find this forum useful as there are so many kind people here who are supportive to all.
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Old 7th November 2019, 22:38
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I think I need to stop watching documentaries on the Universe. It does sort of lead your brain down the path to some odd existential crisis.

I do kind of hope when you die that you don't just wink out and the mystery of it all is revealed. I'm gonna be mighty pissed if not
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Old 8th November 2019, 19:42
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How social anxiety has ravaged my life. It's all very depressing. Luckily I can take pleasure in the small things.
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Old 8th November 2019, 22:58
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Old 11th November 2019, 20:05
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Thanks Dougella.
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Old 23rd December 2019, 02:52
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How anxious and on edge I felt earlier today. As a passenger I felt very on edge, I'm not usually this bad, it's sad to see how this has become more of a issue recently, I was glad to get out of the car.

Also being around lots of people was an almighty struggle, socialising with lots of people at once is hard, Christmas is just a stressful time of year.
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Old 17th January 2020, 20:39
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I’m thinking why would I disclose where my cave is.
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Old 17th January 2020, 21:04
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Why would they be any different to who they are? I cannot change them and they cannot change me.
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Old 21st January 2020, 22:00
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That all my problems are tangled up in one huge ball and have been for years. And if I try and pull on one thread it just gets stuck. I need to deal with several threads at once. How?

Also I've been reflecting on my life and formative years in particular and I have concluded I need a shedload of person-centred therapy. I laugh in the face of CBT. It's not going to be cheap.
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Old 22nd January 2020, 01:39
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That blue bear is remarkably sweet.
Thank you HermannHesse.
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Old 22nd January 2020, 01:44
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That all my problems are tangled up in one huge ball and have been for years. And if I try and pull on one thread it just gets stuck. I need to deal with several threads at once. How?

Also I've been reflecting on my life and formative years in particular and I have concluded I need a shedload of person-centred therapy. I laugh in the face of CBT. It's not going to be cheap.
I can relate... My problems are definitely tanged up in a huge ball and I have no idea how to change (not sure its possible to change much of anything for me) (aside from skipping some obviously stupid behaviours I occasionally used to do and feel like absolute shit about it. I can be incredibly stupid sometimes) (although if I explained it to a therapist who was any good there would be an obvious link to an extremely dysfunctional and damaging upbringing)
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Old 30th January 2020, 21:48
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Out of curiosity, what happens when you hit 82?
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Old 31st January 2020, 18:49
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^ Maybe a special hidden board appears

I bet its full of debauchery!
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Old 14th February 2020, 22:39
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According to 192, one of my friends from uni was still living in the same city three years ago so I'm guessing he's probably still there. I just need to borrow someone's Facebook account now. With the other one, the trail goes cold about ten years ago. I assume she either married or left the country. What would I do if I found them? I would still be too embarrassed to make contact.
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Old 14th February 2020, 23:48
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^ Hope you don't mind me asking, but why are you embarrassed to make contact with your old friends?

If it's anything to do with feeling embarrassed that they may have 'progressed' further in life than you then you really mustn't let such thoughts stand in your way.
In the distant past I've allowed one or two friendships to fall by the wayside because while they were going to Uni, getting great jobs, getting married and having families, at the time I hadn't even moved from first base and I felt too ashamed to admit this to them.

Looking back, I realise friends worth having wouldn't have thought badly of me for any of that, plus the folk who appear to be successful and have it all are often feeling as inadequate and miserable as the rest of us.

If this isn't the reason why you are worried about contacting your old friends then please disregard everything I've just written


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^ Maybe a special hidden board appears

I bet its full of debauchery!


No offence to SAUK, but (if I'm still alive) I seriously hope I'm not coming here at 82!
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Old 15th February 2020, 05:24
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^Consolida, it's so kind of you to post this when you have your own worries, especially with the uncertainty over your mum's health.

Yes, it's the they have progressed further in life embarrassment. And even if they don't care, I care. And they were already progressing further in life back then. And I liked your post on how you'd lost contact out of shame because I could totally identify with it. Basically the only friends I've kept in contact with are living near by.

I'm not bothered about not ticking all the boxes of life. I knew back then when I lost contact I wouldn't be ticking the marriage and children boxes in case you're wondering, although there is more than one reason for that. But I at least wanted to be a functional adult, with a semi-decent job and my own place. And not be so damn boring as I have become. I wanted to at least tick some boxes! Actually, when I was a teenager, that was as far as I got with envisioning my adult life except I thought I would be able to manage it by 30. Ha! Nope! And for some reason I cared about having fun.

And I semi-ghosted one (so I was being delusional on the ghosting thread and I feel guilty) and I was semi-ghosted by the other, so yeah. Ugh. I was just at a very low point for many reasons when I lost contact, and then I have felt ashamed ever since.
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Old 15th February 2020, 09:08
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I never rebuilt my life when I should have done in my early 20's. Then I met someone, that lead to some amazing experiences, financial stability and even fighting off a potentially life ending illness.

It is deeply upsetting that it is now over. But I never rebuilt mylife, I had all my eggs in that one basket. What is on my mind is how I am going to do this and where is it going to take me, how do stay stable and grow on what I do have left when it feels I could so easily get that down in the dumps that I do something silly and loose everything.
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Old 15th May 2020, 12:40
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My dad just passed away after a long and courageous battle with MS. I wish I had been able to express my love for him much more than I did. I have lost both of my parents now. It’s all too easy to blame our parents on the way we’ve turned out, but what I’m thinking right now is how loving my parents were and while they didn’t always get things right in hindsight perhaps, my dad and my mum did their absolute best for me. I’ll miss you Dad, like I miss Mum terribly. I’m sorry I didn’t turn out a better person.
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