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And that 'life is too short'
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How to ‘just stop’ worrying?
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Yes, I can worry about the stupidest things, and also make myself bad through worrying, but can't help myself.
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I worry constantly about everything, whether it be genuine concerns or even more annoyingly, about hypothetical things that probably wont ever happen. I'm forever in my own head in another world :
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Sometimes I worry that I worry too little. Who knows what unimagined troubles await...
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^Haha, I think I know what you mean. For me it's like letting my guard down if I dare not to worry about something. In fact there have been a few significant incidents in my life when briefly, oh so very briefly, I didn't worry and then felt like I got kicked in the teeth for my complacency. I understand now of course that constant worrying is my superpower that helps keep misfortune at bay.
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^/^^ Me too
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^^^ Nice to see you back, mossieman!
The OP states "life is too short" and I agree with that, which is why I try not to worry about things, especially those outside my control. I don't think I worry excessively - in general, maybe I worry slightly too little; perhaps I have too much faith in myself that I can deal with any situation which might arise (although this appears to be true more often than not)? In contrast, I can occasionally worry a great deal about things which don't really matter. |
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I worry I worry too much.
Would the worriers in there say that their worrying is the same or similar to catastrophic thinking or catastrophizing? I worry bad things are going to happen from small things. Which I guess is catastrophising. https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-catastrophizing/ Quote:
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I worry a ridiculous amount too,
the worst time is when I wake up, and I basically know that,. yip,. it's not a bad dream, this shizz is actually happening ![]() I'm terrible at making decisions and confronting issues,. so stuff inevitably piles up and feels insurmountable, life is way too short,.. I think I should really be living for a good few thousand years,.. although, that is a lot of hoovering and washing up to consider ![]() I suppose the only answer I can imagine to make all this go away is to do a lot more with my time and probably try and address a few issues I have in a proper way. trouble is,. I seem to get very emotional over any issues,. as long as my life is moving in a smooth predictable way, I seem relatively unruffled,.. but it doesn't take much to get my feelings churning, and then that reveals the fact that my 'calmness' was just a surface phenomenon that I was protecting, protected by having a boring predictable lifestyle that I could easily manage. with things like Autistic spectrum behaviours, I think any deviation from a calm, predictable norm can make things feel like they're land-sliding out of control,. and I just feel awful,. shaky, upset, angry, chaotic. ![]() |
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I've made my life very small to avoid the things that make me uncomfortable. That has lulled me into a false sense of security as most days are easy. As things are easy, I don't do any work on myself (eg meditation, reading up on social anxiety, self esteem, and confidence, going to therapy etc) Then something happens out of the blue, such as an email from an old friend or an invite to something social and it knocks me right off my perch! Depending on the thing, my mind can run wild and leave me overthinking, worrying, anxious, and stressed. This, like you say, shows how badly I'm doing but not aware due to my artificially small life. The alternative could be throwing myself into things that make me feel uncomfortable every day. But even if you did that, there would always be things that make you feel even more uncomfortable. Say I was out and about meeting people all day, so that became my new normal. I would still get knocked off my perch by bigger things, like having to do a presentation, etc. So what's the point in trying to get better, as there will always be things that are harder/going to be difficult? ![]() |
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^ Congratulations on getting the phrase "new normal" into a post which isn't about Coronavirus!
The point in trying to "get better" is that we can learn to deal with everyday situations, like meeting people, socialising, telephone calls etc. Anxiety is normal for everyone to some extent and most people would become anxious about something like doing a presentation - but increasing the extent of one's comfort zone means that extraordinary things, like presentations, are not as far out of the comfort zone and therefore a little less daunting than previously. For me, the point in getting better was that I was unhappy with the live I was living and needed to change things; I haven't suddenly become immune to anxiety, it's still there and always will be, but I have managed to reduce the level and exert some control over how I respond to it in most situations (I have no idea what might be the "normal" level of anxiety people without social anxiety disorder would experience, but I am probably only slightly above that, if not within the range), which has enabled me to cope with - and enjoy - situations which, previously, I found close to impossible. In answer to your previous post, Tonkin, in my experience the only way to stop catastrophising (which is, essentially, what anxiety is) is to experience the things about which you have catastrophic thinking and realising that the reality isn't as bad as you thought it would be (with any luck!). |
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^ Excellent post GI and more power to your elbow
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I worry to much, if it can go wrong it usually will go wrong. its ridiculous at times as I think about different scenarios and how it could go wrong and then if it doesnt happen or proved wrong, start worrying about something else.
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cheers Nanuq,
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