top 100 things you should never say to someone with SA! - Page 3

Medea · #61 2nd March 2009, 17:03

39. Why don't you go and say hello to uncle x? (um, no!)

40. If you give me a call in x days we'll arrange something. (this is usually said by a shrink/counsellor who I've just spent an hour talking to about my problems, including phones!)

41. What's so hard about answering a phone? You can always hang up.

threadbare · #62 2nd March 2009, 17:22

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrPSB

This may be just me, but generally anything which accompanies a camera appearing

no that's not just you...

Louise Marie · #63 2nd March 2009, 17:34

Quote:

Originally Posted by mousey

Cat got your tongue?...Yes, I'm not talking because a cat has stolen my tongue!?...Grrr

well...you are a mouse!!!!!!! LOL he he

#64 2nd March 2009, 17:37

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Stu24 · #65 2nd March 2009, 18:05

I remember one of my teachers calling me arrogant and did it front of everyone

b1814 · #66 2nd March 2009, 18:20

"I understand that you're quiet but you spend alot of time with "x", what do you talk to them about?"

Making me realise i can never really talk to anyone..no matter how much time i spend with them

Louise Marie · #67 2nd March 2009, 18:22

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Originally Posted by Stu24

I remember one of my teachers calling me arrogant and did it front of everyone

thinking back...must of my horrible experiences started when teachers did stupid things like that. Poor stu

monty_rp · #68 2nd March 2009, 18:22

'I think as a next step you're going to have to work on your confidence in order to carry on with...'

Louise Marie · #69 2nd March 2009, 18:24

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Originally Posted by monty_rp

'I think as a next step you're going to have to work on your confidence in order to carry on with...'

good one monty....what do say to that 'thanks for the advice, i'll get on to that right away?!'

LOL

#70 2nd March 2009, 18:27

I did my work experience in a primary school and I loved it, I was so happy. At the end the teacher whose class I was working in had to give me a review, she said I did well but she didn't think I had the confidence needed to succeed in that line of work. It really crushed me

Louise Marie · #71 2nd March 2009, 18:29

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Originally Posted by mousey

I did my work experience in a primary school and I loved it, I was so happy. At the end the teacher whose class I was working in had to give me a review, she said I did well but she didn't think I had the confidence needed to succeed in that line of work. It really crushed me

mousey, that's horrific. I'm a primary school teacher and I would never had said that to you!!! You can come to my school anyday!!!!!!!!!!!

b1814 · #72 2nd March 2009, 18:31

Quote:

Originally Posted by mousey

I did my work experience in a primary school and I loved it, I was so happy. At the end the teacher whose class I was working in had to give me a review, she said I did well but she didn't think I had the confidence needed to succeed in that line of work. It really crushed me

That sucks, its comments like that, that make you lose confidence, like you get a glimmer of hope, then get shot down, but if it makes you happy, go for it anyway

monty_rp · #73 2nd March 2009, 18:31

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Originally Posted by Louise Marie

good one monty....what do say to that 'thanks for the advice, i'll get on to that right away?!'

LOL

'I think you've got to work on your face'

I just think that one

#74 2nd March 2009, 18:32

lol probably a bit late now but thankyou

Louise Marie · #75 2nd March 2009, 18:37

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Originally Posted by monty_rp

'I think you've got to work on your face'

I just think that one

genious....would so love to say that to someone!!!

Stu24 · #76 2nd March 2009, 19:03

Quote:

Originally Posted by Louise Marie

thinking back...must of my horrible experiences started when teachers did stupid things like that. Poor stu

hmmm...school wasn't really a happy time tbh

I could be accused of being some things but I don't think arrogant was really one of them

Spectrelight · #77 2nd March 2009, 19:05

You're a bit shy aren't you?

W!llow · #78 2nd March 2009, 19:18

I don't know why really but comments like 'we are all friends here' I don't find that helpful. It makes me feel worse or guilty even that I should be feeling so nervous. I know they are just trying to be helpful.

EasygoingGuy · #79 2nd March 2009, 19:35

'Just be yourself..you'll be fine'

Duffley · #80 2nd March 2009, 19:49

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Originally Posted by mousey

I did my work experience in a primary school and I loved it, I was so happy. At the end the teacher whose class I was working in had to give me a review, she said I did well but she didn't think I had the confidence needed to succeed in that line of work. It really crushed me

Similar happened with me..
I did my work experience in a residential home. Although I was quiet and nervey, and I did struggle, but I thought by the end of it I had done fairly well and felt proud of myself, I really enjoyed it there, however my report said that I lacked confidence and would do better in the future when I had gained confidence and a vocation more suited to me. I was really hurt by this. I thought why would she even put this? Is this report not destined for my record of acheivement and aimed at helping me get a job? So many things like this happened throughout my childhood and adolescence that I think I decided to never try.

Duffley · #81 2nd March 2009, 19:56

More recently I went out with my bf's sis, bcoz of the alcohol i didn't notice at the time, but she kept saying "don't worry we'll make you one of us" I had a great night but thinking of this the next day felt a fool, I thought they were my friends (some memebers of his family) but clearly my lack of fitting in had been noted ... I know she was trying to help but..

citizen_erased · #82 2nd March 2009, 23:34

"Tell me a bit about yourself"

"Don't look so scared!"

Billyonastick · #83 3rd March 2009, 00:07

I use to do gymnastics at school and the teacher said in front of all the class when i had done something wrong, you arnt good enough for this class, what is wrong with you why are you so red is there something wrong with you? I was only nine, that really upset me and i dont join in much now.

Medea · #84 3rd March 2009, 01:05

"SA is one of these things made up by medical companies"

W!llow · #85 3rd March 2009, 10:06

'No need to be nervous!' Right well that's fixed that one then!

Ruby1 · #86 3rd March 2009, 10:13

Briiiiiiiiliant thready me likes

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Originally Posted by AnonymousLaura

40. If you give me a call in x days we'll arrange something. (this is usually said by a shrink/counsellor who I've just spent an hour talking to about my problems, including phones!)

Yes yes i can soooo relate miss Ren *pulls toe hair out*

"Hey i've just stuck your name down for karaoke, you don't mind do you?"

And

"Ooh you're really quite nice when you let people get to know you, i used to think you were a right snob"

Marianne · #87 3rd March 2009, 11:18

Can I just say I love this thread

One I seem to get a lot is 'she's shy' - spoken aloud in my presence as if I'm not even there stood right next to them and as if that doesn't make everything a hundred times more unbearable.

iloverain · #88 3rd March 2009, 12:08

"are you from around these parts?".......err yes i'm your neighbour and have been for the last 4 years

Louise Marie · #89 3rd March 2009, 12:15

Guys some of these are brill...well done and glad you like the thread!!!!!

I started writing a novel a few months ago centred around SA and the funny things people say to you, thats where i got the idea for the thread. When i've finished first chapter, might post it up to give you a laugh.

Lou xxxxxxxxxxxx Thanks for the responses

Louise Marie · #90 3rd March 2009, 12:37

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lol