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Need a hug
What do you do when you just need a hug from someone to help you feel that little bit better. When you need someone just to be there to comfort you. But you realise there is no one to hug. No family, no friends, no partner and you are completely and utterly alone in the world. Anxiety has pushed away all the people who cared for me. My anxiety of being completely alone has made it come true. I thought I was beating it. But it seems it tricked me and just found other ways to come out other than the attacks.
I know I should try to go out and make friends but that isn't going to help right now. And I know there are people on line that will say they are here for me but unfortunately, it's not the same as having someone in real life to have that contact with. I have never felt so alone :-( |
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Re: Need a hug
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I don't know how to help - I just know how you feel. Even though I have friends, they almost never hug me. I must give off a vibe. And I never initiate because it feels too awkward for my body.
The other day I was talking to my friend who lives abroad and telling her how lonely I felt and how, like you, I really need contact from someone who cares. I started crying as I messaged her, saying I just wanted a hug but no one ever hugs me. You're not alone in this feeling...but hopefully it will at least come and go and there will be times when you can be ok. |
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I feel very lonely when i'm feeling down, which then makes me think of how little i have in life, but i try to fill my time with an interest of mine. Any way to keep yourself from thinking a lot and hopefully lift your mood. I hope you feel a bit better in yourself soon.
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I hug my dog sometimes, but he soon wants to get away and sees any attention as a chance to get some more food out of me.
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I feel the same. Apart from my two kids I never get hugs and it just isn't the same, obviously as a tight squeeze from another grown up. Sometimes it's so bad I have to hug my pillows.
Hope this feeling passes for you Brokengirl, or some nice kind empathetic soul gives you a huge hug. Take care |
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I can't offer an easy solution to this, but I notice some posts talk about watching films and TV as a distraction from loneliness. Just speaking personally I find that's fine, but it's very passive, and if there's anything a bit more creative, or physical, or engaged that you can do, it can make you feel more fulfilled. You don't need to be good at this thing, just interested enough to give it a go. At the end of the day you can say to yourself, well I started learning to draw/to learn Spanish/join a gym/do that online course on climate change/volunteer at that hospital etc. etc. etc. It makes a day feel less lost and wasted, and I believe it takes some of the sting out of loneliness. And if might lead to great things!
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Thanks everyone for trying to help. I really do appreciate it. But actually I don't deserve it. Any of it. I'm aware now it's because of me. Because of the way I behave. I've booked myself in for counselling even though I cant really afford it right now. And it's not till next Tuesday so I just hope I don't go completely crazy before then.
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You do deserve all the nice things people have said, because it's not YOU that behaves a certain way, it's the ANXIETY.
I had a friend that pushed me away and I would still be friends again if they wanted to because I know they were just scared and frightened of being hurt. Don't blame yourself for Brokengirl, and you will always find support here. Take care |
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Distractions basically
Half of me wants to act all manly (whatever that actually means) and say I don't need no damn hugging I don't have any feelings or anything like that! The other half of me is trying to accept I'm very very very lacking on human interaction, and I'd frankly not mind receiving some hugs as I don't remember the last year I had one. But, I don't really see how So yeah, distractions |
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That's a good positive step booking in for a counselling session. I hope it goes well and that it helps you feel clearer on how to move forward. Your wellbeing is the most important thing over anything else at the moment, and finding the best way to lessen/combat the anxiety. One step at a time.
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I didn't know about them either until I Google them to find the number. And something else I didn't know about them, I always thought they were there for people that were suicidal. But they aren't. They are there for everyone who is just generally feeling low and needs to talk to someone. I wish I had known that before.
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I'd started having a kinda whatsapp friendship with someone who was similar to myself (same position, same feelings) and that was great for a while Hope you find your hugee |