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Social Networking Sites
Hi everyone.
It's been recommended to me by my therapist that I join one or more social networking sites. I don't really know where to start with this, or what to do if/when I've joined. I don't know what I would put on Facebook or MySpace for example. My understanding is that you use these to keep in touch with friends etc. Unfortunately for me I don't have anyone to keep in touch with. Can these sort of sites be used to meet people? Does anybody use these, and if so what for? How do you find them? What are the benefits if any? Any help or info would be much appreciated. I'd especially like to hear about any positive experiences anyone has had. Thanks, Andy |
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Facebook bores me. You get people from your earlier life adding you in a heartbeat, only to have them never speak to you or anything. It's all about fatting out their friends list, because amount = winner.
Anyways, even if you have nobody to stay in touch with, just by signing up you'll get requests, as you're the 'new guy' and people looking for contacts will see you for a few days. Happened to me. Gotta say, its odd to hear social networking sites as a suggestion by a therapist... |
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You could say that SAUK is a sort of social networking site when you think about it.
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I don't know if these count as social networking, but if you dont feel comfortable with Facebook and Myspace and similar sites, you could always try joining more forums. Find a forum based on one of your interests and join that. People you meet will have something to talk about with you already because of your common interest and it's not as personal as a Myspace page or a Facebook page. (In my opinion anyway).
I've joined plenty. I feel more comfortable talking to people on forums, which is why I'm glad I joined here! |
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Can't believe they told you to join facebook :|
Don't! It's true what they others said, today i got a half arsed measage frm an old pal. I kinda thought 'coulda put more effort in' :| but i'll reply to it. Nobody actually talks to you unless they're yr best pal not one person i added from school messaged or inboxed me, well one did actually, but she was nice to me in school aswell. Also waste of time & popularity contest tbh. But it woud be good if you wanted to see what people are up to now, see their pics/how much they've changed etc. |
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I would say avoid it. I had one guy from uni add me..and then ignore 2 messages from me...I thought he was an ignorant individual and bumped him of my list. before that id always liked him at uni. |
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I don't get why your therapist told you to join social networking sites
How can they possibily benefit an indivdual who has social anxiety? If anything, it will add to the feeling of lonliness, seeing all the the people from your past who are having the time of their lives out there doing stuff. I have a facebook (but didn't stoop so low as to add everyone I ever knew in an attempt to compensate for my lack of real-friends) primarily to look at photos of my brother and his family who live in Sydney...thats the main reason I have it. Every once and a while I think...'oh I'll look for so-and-so from school' so I look and then feel perhaps a tinge of jealousy that they are having (or appear to be having) the most fantastic years of their lives...while I am trapped in a mindframe of when I was fourteen....these people are doing proper adult things. Well anyway thats just my opinion of it. Surely this site could be classed as a social networking site? And it would benefit you much more? |
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I permanently deleted my facebook account. It just got too much for me, couldn't handle it. It might be different for you though.
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There's no harm in having a Facebook page but it seems a bit strange to suggest to someone with SA. There half a dozen good web forum communities to join, but the only social networking community I can think of that's relevant is anxietytribe and they don't do anything different from the norm to help SA people meet one another...its all left down to you to make first contact.
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Thanks for all the responses so far. Incidently does anyone know how I can include the 'originally posted by...' blurb when I'm quoting from a previous post - feel a bit rude not doing this.
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I have actually joined a site called aNobii, with is a networking site based around books - I feel like I'd actually have something to contribute to this. Quote:
Cheers, Andy |
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I think facebook is pretty cool. True, alot of my old contacts on my friends list I don't speak to but it's still interesting to know what they're up to from their status updates etc.
I'm not that bothered about people reading my personal info to be honest - I'm one of the few with a public profile - though I have removed my date of birth. I see the internet as a tool to be alot more 'out there' then I am in the real world. If you wanna make new friends on facebook a good way is to join one of the many 'add me' or friendship groups - friends unlimited, meet new people, let's be friends etc, etc. Having said that many of the people in these groups just want to bulk up the numbers on their friends list or recruit people to be in their maffia wars (some kind of game that I know very little about) gang. However if you write on the wall of the group saying that you're only interested in adding new friends who actually talk once in a while you might be in luck. |
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It was bittersweet though. There's another potential problem with joining online site: some people are so much more insensitive online |
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I mean, i feel amazin because out of his 800 friends (who all look like teenage plastics) he still wants to know me ..quite amazin rly. |
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Big LOL @ teenage plastics - I have plenty of those types on my myspace friends list - not that I ever speak to any of them but their pics are worth a peek every now and then |
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It seems odd that s/he would encourage you to spend even more time staring at a computer screen- I'd have thought that the advice would be that you should get out more.
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I'd much rather have meaningful face to face contact (no offence to anyone), but these things take time. Being on this forum and interacting with people is a help. |