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Old 15th October 2018, 21:44
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Default How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

Sometimes I have found social media fake. As in fake friends and fake content, it's why I quit my Facebook account.

However recently I feel like I want to change my Instagram account content a bit. In the past I posted photos, edited photos and even a bit of music. However, I never post myself. In a way it feels like my account is a bit cold and empty cause of the lack of human pictures. Tbh, I think my Instagram profile highlights how I am not completely confident with myself.

I look at people I follow who were cool when we went School together. Some of them only have 3 posts, delete their posts quite regularly. Others share their holidays and are still in touch with old mates. They are able to show part of their lives and who they are. I would like to feel confident enough to do that.

I feel at the moment, I don't want to get rid of my account but it doesn't feel personal, more like a business or promotion or something. I would like to be able to be more genuine, have less need to put up a facade. Looking at the trend of where some people I follow post little but share short live clips. I get why snapchat is popular.

I feel social media isn't as fake as I felt it was, it's more about how one uses it.
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Old 15th October 2018, 22:04
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It is a little shit. Its good to catch up with people and see what people have been doing. But, I think far too many people, myself included, use it to compare their lives with others, and it can be quite damaging if used in that way.

Yes, it does feel rather fake. But, I think that humans tend to be quite fake in person too.
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Old 16th October 2018, 12:51
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Default Re: How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

I don't really use social media: I've had several Facebook accounts and closed them because of stuff which I saw on my feeds - sometimes it's better not to know what people around me are thinking! The account I have currently is completely blank and hidden as much as possible, it serves purely for me to administer Facebook groups and so that I can find information on companies and events for which there is no website, only a Facebook page.

I did open an Instagram account as I thought it might be a good place to store photographs, but then realised that it's accessible only through my 'phone and not my laptop, so abandoned that idea as the process of uploading seemed too laborious; I have Twitter accounts, but only to publicise my meetup groups and I have no idea how Snapchat works, so my life is pretty much social media free (although I guess meetup counts as social media, in a sense).

I do think that social media can affect the way we see - and interact with - the world; these days, I go to concerts and there are people who seem to spend more time filming and taking selfies to show others that they were there, than actually being there - to the point where it does affect the atmosphere. It's the same with travel, selfie culture seems to be everywhere and it does seem that, for some people, the selfie in front of (for example) the Trevi Fountain is more important than actually taking in the Trevi Fountain. It just seems to me that some people are living their lives more for others than for themselves.
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Old 16th October 2018, 14:57
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Default Re: How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

Hmm it does make me feel inferior when I see all those good looking hot people haha but I still end up using it anyway
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Old 16th October 2018, 17:24
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i use fb alot mostly to keep in contact with family & so they can see photos of my kids, but im very aware how lonely i look. & i have alot of 'friends' on there that make me feel terrible & crappy about life, but that could just be fake. i would love to get rid of the fake friends but im too scared of how that would look to other people.
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Old 16th October 2018, 21:49
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It's all bollocks and full of people posting photos of their lunch

I see the point of it for people who use it to keep in touch with family members..but thats the minority, its all about dick waving.

-Edit

and how does it affect me? it doesn't bother me or have any impact on my life in the slightest because I don't have any accounts..nor do I have any need for them
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Old 17th October 2018, 11:29
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, its all about dick waving.

LOL
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Old 17th October 2018, 14:38
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Gave up on facebook many years (moons) ago. I'd probably prefer the set up of separate messenger now but the whole concept is quite pointless to an anti-social, hermit, like me. Back when I did use it, people were constantly offended by my ability to post on my wall or reply to other people's feeds but not message them back in a timely manner. It's the equivalent of somebody knocking at your door when the lights are on and in their minds giving them the finger and ignoring the door. I've never been an instant kinda girl and many people associate it as a real time experience, rather than what it is, an online platform to share your baggage, then pick up leave ready for the next visit. On second thoughts, the new messenger sounds abysmal- you're always on- call me a flight-i'm outta here.

As for insta, i've used it for a time and much prefer it- as I seldom add people I know thus I can go on and off relatively undisturbed and for me, it's mostly like browsing an online catalogue. It's much like a 'Next' catalogue full of beauties that make everything look better than it actually is- but the key is to remember this and thus it can't affect your psyche or expectation of what you should look like in the same outfit. Keeping a grasp on reality in a world of edited and staged insta pics is paramount to stabilising the users mental state. I like to further this with a few emotional quotes and poetry posts thrown in for good measure- you know to keep things in perspective. But, I could delete it and that's the point. It doesn't own me-yet- the way facebook so easily does. That said, too much of anything is bad.
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Old 17th October 2018, 16:46
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I had a dabble on face book years ago, but it really made my depression worse, when I compared my life to other people who I had been at school with. I found it very toxic and after a few months I deleted my account, which was the best thing I did. Now I no that I am a pathetic stupid loner, but it is not reinforced through FB.
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Old 17th October 2018, 17:03
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It's all bollocks and full of people posting photos of their lunch

I see the point of it for people who use it to keep in touch with family members..but thats the minority, its all about dick waving.
^ Totally agree and that's why I can't be bothered with any of it and why it therefore has no effect on me.

"Dick waving" - Nice one, Toxic. I'll make note of that expression for future use if you don't mind
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Old 17th October 2018, 17:12
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Default Re: How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

I'll never understand the willingness of the masses to devote so much time to social media.
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Old 17th October 2018, 21:25
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Default Re: How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

You may use Dick Waving if you wish

It really is though

"look look heres me on holiday" .."look look my new car" "ooh my new phone"

How did people used to show off before the internet?
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Old 17th October 2018, 22:01
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I don't spend a great deal on social media. I do have f/b, only for the last year or so. I keep it private and it's only people that I know, have known, family, and few online ppl that i'm friendly with. Most ppl in my feed aren't show off's or over sharers so it's fine. I find it a nice way to stay in contact with folk with very little pressure (now I've got used to it). It also a good source of local info.

I don't do twitter. But I like Instagram, I follow some ppl i'm friendly with online, a few local things and a few family members. But I like the format of it. A snapshot. I can't say I post a lot as i'm not interesting enough, lol.
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Old 30th October 2018, 17:23
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Default Re: How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

I think social media is taxing on anyone!

BUT especially on people suffering a mental health thing. I think anyone with SA, or depression, should really steer clear of social media, unless you have an incredible strength of self to not get pulled down into those feelings of self-doubt.
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Old 30th October 2018, 17:24
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Hmm it does make me feel inferior when I see all those good looking hot people haha but I still end up using it anyway
Ahhh, don't use it if it makes you feel this way!
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Old 30th October 2018, 17:26
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I'll never understand the willingness of the masses to devote so much time to social media.
Fear of missing out I think is very much an innate human trait.

Pressure to fit in socially is incredible. It's probably not as bad in older generations thankfully, but I'd say for anyone 20 years old or younger currently, to NOT have active instagram and snapchat accounts, would be considered abnormal.
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Old 6th November 2018, 01:09
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Default Re: How do you find Social Media? How does it affect you?

Me with Social Media. I post but have no followers that actively like or comment on my content, so it's almost like I am speaking to myself
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Old 6th November 2018, 17:23
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I was on Facebook once upon a time,. And was relatively okay with it,
then, I got some kind of narky comments, and then saw people doing stuff I'd suggested to them initially,
but leaving me out of the equation, and doing the very thing I'd had the idea of,... that annoyed me, and I just felt I didn't want to see stuff like that anymore,
those things just made me feel worse, and made me feel really unwelcome.

spin on a few years, and I've tried starting up a facebook account again,. but just can't face adding all these people as 'friends'... to me it just feels like begging,..
please be my friend,. please,.. will you add me as a friend please?
I'm not sure I want to accept that level of neediness ,. it just feels like a hurdle I can't bring myself to get over just now.

have thought about an Instagram account as a few people seem to have done well with it, and it's relatively anonymous compared to facebook anyway.

I don't use twitter or anything else, but I can totally understand that need to feel connected and included in stuff,.

I think I just need to get over myself, bite the bullet and join a few things...
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Old 6th November 2018, 18:02
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Get posting your art work Vasco
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Old 6th November 2018, 19:34
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But that's what it's for! To make you feel shitty about your life and buy shit to fill the void. Don't think for one minute anyone behind these things gives a flying **** about you and your loved ones staying connected.
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Old 6th November 2018, 23:59
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Full of twats, I went on today to my Facebook and someone had a rant about how veganism doesn’t work. I’m not a vegan but her arguments were completely wrong. It gives the unintelligent a sphere to air their views so I guess as a socialist I should support it lol.
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I am quitting my IG and Twitter for a month or more. Idk, what has stopped me from quitting them is that I have some acquaintances on them and they may think I am bad for quitting and also having lots of data on my account. In fact I just imagined it would be so hard to quit my Youtube account cause of all the playlists I have created.

But thinking of it I have messaged my old School friends on Instagram in the past, positive things, yet got no reply. I know they wouldn't have done this with bad intentions but it goes to show how much they really care about you. Also, though I feel masturbation is healthy and normal, I do admit I wonder how much social media has skewed and played with who I find sexually attractive. Instagram has lots of sexy girls and I can never quit porn without quitting social media and vice versa.
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