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Having difficulty staying in a job/employment
Over the last couple of years, I've worked for about 6 different companies. Something or someone will make me anxious within the first few weeks of starting a new job which makes me want to leave ASAP. I also start thinking negative things and making excuses of why I should leave because I HATE working in general (being around people etc). I literally have no idea how people stay for years and years in a company. That would be my dream, even to stay somewhere for one year in the same place.
Now I am in a difficult situation because I have lots of CV gaps, have to keep lying to prospective employers (because I don't want them to contact my previous employer for a reference), and I think it will look weird if I keep moving jobs Can anyone advise how they stayed so long in a job? |
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I also struggled considerably in an office. But that was over 15 years ago and I might be a bit better now. I've left several temp roles because I couldn't handle either the social or the work. Or someone has said something negative about me and that has sparked a whole shooting-match in my mind that EVERYONE there didn't like me, even when the evidence was telling me different (does anyone else get this?). I also do much better 1-2-1 or in small groups. The larger the group, the quieter I become, as a general rule of thumb. I'm also looking to change career but it's proving UTMOST DIFFICULT as I'm stuck in a career rut and I've only not worked for myself by myself for about 2 years. God knows what is going to happen. |
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I know what you're saying. I also start to feel ill if I'm around ppl for too long - too much cortisol etc. I've always looked for work that allows me some space while at work. I'm currently driving a tipper truck which really suits me. I have enough ppl contact to keep my social skills from rusting but most of my time I'm alone with the radio
Have you tried agency work? It pays ok and I found I was never in a place long enough to worry why I wasn't making friends at work. Working from home sounds cool ! Does anyone fond that some days you feel you're making progress socially and then another days you seem to be back to square one ? Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk |
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Thanks for the replies everyone. I actually had wanted to make this thread to hear other people's experiences of struggling to stay in employment. It is nice to know I am not alone.
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Re: quote above, I get this all the time! Some days I am very chatty and some days I am not. I think problem is that I work in an industry where it's almost always open planned office. I am very quiet when there are lots of people around and very chatty when it is quiet. |
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But ...the pay was laughable. I could have pushed myself a bit harder, but I wanted the articles to be good and so took my time. Consequently, I earned around £7,000 a year. Thankfully, I live with my mother and don't have a mortgage or kids or a car. Also, it ate up all my time and energy. I stopped dating, gave up the boxing class I'd just started, stopped meeting new people...everything. That said, I do think working from home is great. People shouldn't feel guilty about struggling with offices, etc. Some of us are introverts, some extroverts. That's just the way it is. Introverts find working with others exhausting. And they get less done than when they work from home. With extroverts it's the opposite (extroverts gain energy from being around others, while introverts lose it). |
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^ Usually other people being horrible and SA people being more sensitive and less able to brush it off.
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Small company
I don't think I could hack it in a large company with the monday morning circle jerk of meetings, officey type environment Small company is literally the only way I've stayed here for 5 years. They know I'm odd..they know it would be better if the dog answered the phone than me answering it (it took them about 3-4 years to realise me and phones were never meant to be) However for the reasons I'm actually employed, I'm pretty good at it..and a lot of it no one else can do (which is a bastard when I have time off) it does however put me in a bit more of a flexible position, I can generally do what I want (within reason) turn up late/leave early, I have a fair amount of authority, I have keys but I tend not to be the last one there to lock up much anymore now, they just don't really want to rock the boat I moan about it a lot and the money isnt fantastic but I feel I've probably done alright as I know theres a lot of places I wouldn't last a week. I'd say the working for yourself/at home would be a good choice but its having a good skill/a decent business idea/start up. I always think I want to do something outside of work for "me" as a side venture so I don't keep coming home, vegging out and having random naps at 9pm ..which I think is fully down to being round people all day - the social interaction knackers me. |
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Opposite problem here. I***8217;ve been in the same job (or more specifically, company) for 18 years now! I***8217;m 46. Thing is, I absolutely hate interviews. Every single job (which has only been about 3!) I***8217;ve had since 17 has been one where I***8217;ve known someone who already works there and has ***8220;recommended***8221; me.
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I'm also not great with group chat, i can cope one to one. Good luck Sent from my SM-G930F using Tapatalk |
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