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Old 8th November 2018, 19:13
Pickle101 Pickle101 is offline
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I used to be a member about 17 years ago I think , I'm 43 now so that was quite a long time ago. I used to have terrible social anxiety but managed to remain partly social ( I had two good friends , others came and went) also had periods of unemployment and 'hermit' weeks/months. I'm married to my husband and work part time and am finally doing a degree which is great. But somehow I feel that I should have better social skills or more friends at my age, I feel like I can't hide behind the fašade of looking or being young, which I hid behind for quite a while - my age is now starting to show and somehow I feel very awkward about it , even though in other ways I don't care as much about how I come across if I get the chance to actually connect with people - its getting that chance that is the problem, I just don't have a lot in common with women of my age (no kids, I'm not a girly girl, don't drink or do girls nights out ) I feel like a bit of an anomaly. Anyway I've prattled on far too much for an introduction !

just looking for a bit of inspiration or just to feel like I'm among people like myself -ish!
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Old 9th November 2018, 08:56
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Welcome back to the forum Pickle I hope that's your cat in your avatar
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Old 9th November 2018, 09:24
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Thankyou Tink, yes he is indeed me and my husband's cat , he has chubby cheeks! Though I might have to change my avatar as I now realise this kind of gives my identity away, if anyone that knows of me happens to be in here , small chance but you never know !
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Old 9th November 2018, 20:20
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He's a very gorgeous cat! Looks very content in that picture.
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Old 13th November 2018, 21:48
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somehow I feel that I should have better social skills or more friends at my age, I feel like I can't hide behind the fašade of looking or being young, which I hid behind for quite a while - my age is now starting to show and somehow I feel very awkward about it
I could have written that!

I also joined a long time ago (2006) and have returned. Welcome back
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Old 13th November 2018, 21:50
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Welcome back
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Old 14th November 2018, 11:25
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Hi Pickle

Welcome back

I really relate to your post about age. I don't have any authority in my job and I still react to people the same as 20 years ago a lot of the time, with nervous laughter and smiling...
I feel like that's not so noticeable when you're a girl, but as a woman in my 40s it's just weird. I haven't had the life experiences for my personality or social skills to have kept pace with my peers.
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Old 14th November 2018, 22:13
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Hi Pickle I joined about the same time as you, way back in 2001 - has it really been 17 years!?

Anyway, welcome back. Hope you'll stick around!
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