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Old 21st May 2019, 17:46
Jimmy77 Jimmy77 is offline
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Default Are there any upsides to being an introvert?

I mean apart from being more sensitive, a good listener, etc. Those are things that are nice for other people.
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Old 21st May 2019, 18:21
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You find yourself a nice introverted partner and you mostly spend time socialising with each other and no one else
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Old 21st May 2019, 18:32
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People seem to say I have quite a lot of insight into different matters... so perhaps insight is and upside.
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Old 21st May 2019, 19:05
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A therapist once said to me "you seem to have a very rich inner life," which is true. I can sit for hours lost in my own thoughts. And when I'm in a good mood, that inner world can be a rich and happy place. I have literally walked four miles home immersed in fantasies and daydreams and hardly aware of the time or distance.
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Old 21st May 2019, 19:41
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^^^^Most definetly agree...but helps if you are both independent too because we all need space occasionally.
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Old 21st May 2019, 20:11
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You find yourself a nice introverted partner and you mostly spend time socialising with each other and no one else
Yes this
Also not needing to have people around all the time and being happy to keep myself occupied.
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Old 21st May 2019, 20:23
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I can sit for hours lost in my own thoughts.

I can do this too. Just zone out. It will often be quite a while before I get bored. It annoys the crap out of extroverts: "why aren't you talking!?"
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Old 21st May 2019, 20:30
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People assume your well-read and clever, when you're really not
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Old 21st May 2019, 20:34
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A Strong affiliation with cats.

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Old 21st May 2019, 20:35
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Default Re: Are there any upsides to being an introvert?

You don't get bored as easily.
You can probably cope with school/studying more easily.
You are less likely to get yourself injured doing extreme sports or other dare devilry.
You are less likely to cheat in a long term relationship (although whether that is due to less opportunity or less need for novelty I don't know.)

I also used to have platonic attractions to extroverts. It's a an awfully good shortcut to having a social circle, find one extrovert that likes you and take it from there. I should do that again.
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Old 21st May 2019, 20:58
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A Strong affiliation with cats.

Lol, that's a dog!
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Old 21st May 2019, 20:59
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You don't get bored as easily.
You can probably cope with school/studying more easily.
You are less likely to get yourself injured doing extreme sports or other dare devilry.
You are less likely to cheat in a long term relationship (although whether that is due to less opportunity or less need for novelty I don't know.)

I also used to have platonic attractions to extroverts. It's a an awfully good shortcut to having a social circle, find one extrovert that likes you and take it from there. I should do that again.

Very observant, choirgirl
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Old 21st May 2019, 21:09
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Lol, that's a dog!
Hmm but there is somebody in the top left playing with their pussy



Absolutely disgusting.
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Old 21st May 2019, 22:09
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^ haha I also noticed someone playing suggestively with a *ahem* tail.


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Lol, that's a dog!
haha yes, but it's the words
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Old 21st May 2019, 23:17
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I mean apart from being more sensitive, a good listener, etc. Those are things that are nice for other people.
More time to focus on attaining a talent
More likely to be highly reactive, that can make you more in tune with others emotions, your emotions, fuel artistry and creativity.

Less risk takers, so less likely to have accidents of all sorts.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 02:16
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Default Re: Are there any upsides to being an introvert?

Life potentially more stable and secure. Longer relationships, longer friendships, longer length of service at work and longer living in the same place.

Therefore introverted people without anxiety may ironically have a very solid social life and have long standing and deep friendships.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 07:52
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^^^^Most definetly agree...but helps if you are both independent too because we all need space occasionally.
We both work during the week so I think we have a good balance
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Old 22nd May 2019, 11:29
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I think introverts are generally very good listeners.
A lot of extroverts seem to like the sound of their own voice and will ramble on and on about this, that and the other. In comparison, introverts tend to be patient observers and listen intently. When an Introvert does speak what they say may be short but it is often well thought out and meaningful.

Introverts don't need to spend huge amounts of their time interacting with others and are quite happy to pursue a solitary hobby perhaps, as Melangell says, something that is Artistic and creative. They actually gain strength from being able to spend time in quiet contemplation.

When social interaction can cause intense anxiety it can lead people to believe that they are introverted when in fact some SA sufferers no doubt have a lot of extrovert traits and yearn to be able to be a lot more sociable.

I would say I have a combination of introvert and extrovert traits. An Ambivert in-fact. Although I think I would greatly enjoy communicating with others if I could keep a lid on the anxiety, I also like to be alone or only with my loved ones immersing myself in quiet pursuits such as gardening, quiet countryside walks or Art and Poetry.

I would certainly never see being Introvert as something negative. Many of the greatest Artists and thinkers were Introverts!
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Old 22nd May 2019, 12:12
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Default Re: Are there any upsides to being an introvert?

You're not reliant on other people's company for entertainment.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 13:36
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I know I can definitely think for myself a lot more. Non-introverts tend to take on a bit of a hive mentality. You don't get directly involved with as much of the lovely drama that comes with lots of relationships.

I would say I am unusually introverted, and my talents (strengths) were in science and math rather than arts. I never really put as much effort into relationships and basically have a form of high functioning autism. I do find people impossible to deal with.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 13:50
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Default Re: Are there any upsides to being an introvert?

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Non-introverts tend to take on a bit of a hive mentality. You don't get directly involved with as much of the lovely drama that comes with lots of relationships.
That's an interesting point. I've always found girlfriend's social lives bewilderingly drama-filled and complicated and I've always assumed women were just like that. But it's probably because I'm much, much more introverted and self-contained than any of my partners have been. Shows how dumb I am that I really hadn't thought of that before.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 15:11
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You are less afraid to die alone.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 16:04
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8x^ Well happy for you Indigo so great to hear your relationship working for you both
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Old 22nd May 2019, 17:05
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You can commit atrocities cos you're a weird loner and nobody will be surprised.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 17:52
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^^
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Old 22nd May 2019, 17:54
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You can eat socially unacceptable foods like garlic bread and cheese and onion crisps because you're not gonna be inflicting your breath on others.
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Old 22nd May 2019, 23:21
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This is not to say that all introverts wan't to be isolated or they don't want to be accepted, it's just they like being alone, so they might have hobbies like reading or sewing, rather than sports or they might prefer single player, rather than multi-player games.
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Old 23rd May 2019, 20:30
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Does anyone else escape into fantasy? I mean their own, private, inner fantasies about the ideal life they'd like to have lived? I do this all the time. Sometimes, they become so vivid I hardly notice where I am. Reality is so horrible that I'd go mad if I couldn't escape in this way. Sigh...if only drugs were good for you!!
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Old 23rd May 2019, 22:55
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^ Moi, I'm inclined to go into the realms of fantasy quite often
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Old 24th May 2019, 03:18
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I don't even know if most of my behavior is influenced by introversion or social anxiety. I have long hidden under the veil of introversion but the happiest years of my life were when I was 12 and 18, both of which were abnormally outgoing times for me.

My school report from when I was 12 reads, "Thaifoodparadise is an extremely bright student who is popular among all his classmates." When I was 18, I had a group of 5 friends and a very good looking girlfriend who was out of my league.

I remember crying a lot when I was 12 and I was coming towards the end of primary school like I had some intuitive understanding that this was the pinnacle of my life; the happiest things would ever get. I remember the bell ringing on the final day and everyone practically skipped out of school. I joined in to act like I was happy but I felt incredibly sad inside knowing this period of my life was ending.

When I left secondary school at 18, I also knew that it was the end of a really happy time in my life. I struggled badly at uni to meet people and make friends; what didn't help was being on a campus full of thousands of people and seeing everyone socialize so easily. The low self-esteem from hating uni then affected my relationship with the aforementioned girl. She eventually dumped me after 3 years together by text message. That was 7 years ago now and it still stings to this day. I reacted poorly to being dumped by such an impersonal means and I sent her a barrage of abusive messages to the point that her parents called me and warned me to stop. Neither of us will ever speak to each other again, yet she crosses my mind at least once every day.

I know people change over time, and there's a good chance those extroverted stages were just anomalies in my quiet, withdrawn, life. But they confirm what I've always believed; that extroverted people are generally happier and have way more fun in life. I wish I could be grateful that I at least experienced some happiness, but I spend half of my life longing for the nostalgia of those days; the being in love with a girl who I thought I'd be with forever, having friends I could laugh and joke with. I don't believe I'll experience such happiness again. Sigh.
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