Would you get into a relationship with another SAer?

[BritishPeace]

I'd love to and I think I'd make a good boyfriend, the girl would know me and understand me.

[J Stabler]

Yeah definitely it's just finding that person. Honestly think it would go well with two people going through the same thing. People have always told me you attract broken people cause you are too but I would like to believe big hearts come together. You would the few people I have met with the same problems as me or similar have been amazing. Anyway yes I would.

[Schmosby]

Yeah sure.

[LongerTripBackHome]

I would have some reservations similar to aloneuntilidie's experience. If you both have bad SA then yes you can help, understand and support each other when it comes to situations outside the relationship. The issue is you will sometimes experience SA with each other, and the thing about SA is that we take everything on ourselves. So if one person is struggling they might be more quiet, and then the other person assumes they must have done something wrong which then increases their anxiety and you get into a vicious spiral.

Maybe that's just me in general - I feel incredibly hypocritical as someone with SA as my SA only lets me be around people that are relaxed, or I get too anxious myself. If I met a clone of myself I would avoid him like the plague.

[newbs16]

I think it's more about the person and not so much about social anxiety. Personally I think it's nice to do things together go on holidays, explore together but also be lazy in your pj's eating pizza and pringles.

If you find someone who understands that, you have good and bad days and they get you then I don't think them have social or both of you having it should put you off being in a relationship.

You never know if it's going to work unless you try.

[Ronnie_Pickering]

No one on here- too far away. But always thought it'll be nice, you know you're in a supermarket avoiding all the crowds and you come across someone else also avoiding the crowds. A mutual passion of avoidance. :D

[Indigo_]

Originally Posted by aloneuntilidie

Yes, I have and I am.

Same.

[Toxic]

Been there, done that

Wouldn't rule it out again, the reasons its no more have nothing to do with SA

[misska]

No they are really annoying people and difficult to deal with. I include myself in that

[Dougella]

Yes, I am too

[Rockysocks]

I think my partner does have it.

All I would be mindful of is becoming an enabler to someone and them to you - sometimes we drag other's down and they drag us down.

[Silent Treatment]

what difference would it make..I've just started dating someone who has SA..it's nice that they can empaphize with my problems but ultimately it just comes down to how compatible you are as in any relationship.

[Azalea]

No cos you're all way too young for me

[Jam]

I've had sex with an SAer before.
He was a gentle lover.

[ExSAguy]

yup and we have. Immense insecurity for both of us for ages. a few break ups over nonsense SA stuff.
But once that crap was out the way, things are great.

Only the distance is hard

[Tom Morello]

Of course but I can't do the long distance thing so that rules out a lot of people here.

[umm]

If I was in a position to, sure. There's not many here I feel I don't gel with.

Of course the fellow SAUK'er would have to be on board too.

[Unnecessarily Long Username_1]

I would. And I once did. Having SA wouldn't be a prerequisite, but I'm rarely attracted to people who don't display some SA-like characteristics. Which is a surprising amount of people.

[anxiouslondoner]

I don't think it would be a deciding factor in either direction (in the theoretical nine-dimensional universe where a theoretical mirror-version of me has relationships)

[Rick Sanchez]

Originally Posted by jam

I've had sex with an SAer before.
He was a gentle lover.

gentle?

well, you were unconscious through most of it, i suppose...

[Spectrelight]

Done it before and would do it again with the right person.

[Mat999]

Yes because now I am cured I woul love to help fix another too. Or at least there will be empathy

[ThatGuy11200]

I dated a woman with SA a few years ago. It was slow developing but it was good.

[Spider22324]

Yes, I'd quite like to and see how it goes. The chances of her understanding my personality would be pretty high.

[newbs16]

^ It's a shame that he left, it's sad that you didn't stay in touch.

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[Mo34]

Aww that's a shame jinny.

I can't see myself being in a relationship with another SAer (I can't see myself being in a relationship full stop to be fair). I think I would need someone who brought me out of myself more rather than someone with the same problems.
I always find it amazing so many ppl hook up from here. Good for them though.

[Mo34]

^
That is very true.
It's a moot point for me to be fair, i'm not looking espically. I don't think i'm actually capable of one anymore, lol.

[newbs16]

^ Lovely response Abc.

[AnnieLu]

Not purposely, and I think if given the choice I'd rather my partner not have SA. My ex wasn't SA when she met me but I think some of my SA tendencies rubbed off on her and she became incredibly enabling. As much as I might think I want someone to stay in and shut the world out with, I actually need someone to challenge me and push me to be a better person, to face my fears and get out there.

So no, I'd rather not.

[Hayman]

I feel someone with at least some symptoms of SA would be ideal for me – for reasons already discussed. A female SA sufferer would probably suit me down to the ground…

Ideally, I would like a lady who was a little more outgoing than myself, but not overly so. Someone who could perhaps push me a little further than I've done alone, but still have some sort of understanding for SA. Someone who knows how and when to push me – rather than continuously pushing. In the latter circumstances, I think I'd genuinely rather remain in my current plight of being a lifelong single man.