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Old 7th November 2019, 23:38
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I think I need to stop watching documentaries on the Universe. It does sort of lead your brain down the path to some odd existential crisis.

I do kind of hope when you die that you don't just wink out and the mystery of it all is revealed. I'm gonna be mighty pissed if not
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Old 8th November 2019, 20:42
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How social anxiety has ravaged my life. It's all very depressing. Luckily I can take pleasure in the small things.
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Old 8th November 2019, 23:58
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Old 11th November 2019, 21:05
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Thanks Dougella.
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Old 12th December 2019, 12:42
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that i'm an old fogey cause i can finally post in here
looking forward to being able to tut at the yoofs of today and say whatever i want cause old biddies can get away with it
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Old 23rd December 2019, 03:52
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How anxious and on edge I felt earlier today. As a passenger I felt very on edge, I'm not usually this bad, it's sad to see how this has become more of a issue recently, I was glad to get out of the car.

Also being around lots of people was an almighty struggle, socialising with lots of people at once is hard, Christmas is just a stressful time of year.
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Old 17th January 2020, 21:39
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I’m thinking why would I disclose where my cave is.
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Old 17th January 2020, 22:04
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Why would they be any different to who they are? I cannot change them and they cannot change me.
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Old 21st January 2020, 23:00
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That all my problems are tangled up in one huge ball and have been for years. And if I try and pull on one thread it just gets stuck. I need to deal with several threads at once. How?

Also I've been reflecting on my life and formative years in particular and I have concluded I need a shedload of person-centred therapy. I laugh in the face of CBT. It's not going to be cheap.
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Old 22nd January 2020, 02:39
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Quote:
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That blue bear is remarkably sweet.
Thank you HermannHesse.
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Old 22nd January 2020, 02:44
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That all my problems are tangled up in one huge ball and have been for years. And if I try and pull on one thread it just gets stuck. I need to deal with several threads at once. How?

Also I've been reflecting on my life and formative years in particular and I have concluded I need a shedload of person-centred therapy. I laugh in the face of CBT. It's not going to be cheap.
I can relate... My problems are definitely tanged up in a huge ball and I have no idea how to change (not sure its possible to change much of anything for me) (aside from skipping some obviously stupid behaviours I occasionally used to do and feel like absolute shit about it. I can be incredibly stupid sometimes) (although if I explained it to a therapist who was any good there would be an obvious link to an extremely dysfunctional and damaging upbringing)
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Old 30th January 2020, 22:48
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Out of curiosity, what happens when you hit 82?
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Old 31st January 2020, 19:49
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^ Maybe a special hidden board appears

I bet its full of debauchery!
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Old 14th February 2020, 23:39
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According to 192, one of my friends from uni was still living in the same city three years ago so I'm guessing he's probably still there. I just need to borrow someone's Facebook account now. With the other one, the trail goes cold about ten years ago. I assume she either married or left the country. What would I do if I found them? I would still be too embarrassed to make contact.
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Old 15th February 2020, 00:48
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^ Hope you don't mind me asking, but why are you embarrassed to make contact with your old friends?

If it's anything to do with feeling embarrassed that they may have 'progressed' further in life than you then you really mustn't let such thoughts stand in your way.
In the distant past I've allowed one or two friendships to fall by the wayside because while they were going to Uni, getting great jobs, getting married and having families, at the time I hadn't even moved from first base and I felt too ashamed to admit this to them.

Looking back, I realise friends worth having wouldn't have thought badly of me for any of that, plus the folk who appear to be successful and have it all are often feeling as inadequate and miserable as the rest of us.

If this isn't the reason why you are worried about contacting your old friends then please disregard everything I've just written


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^ Maybe a special hidden board appears

I bet its full of debauchery!


No offence to SAUK, but (if I'm still alive) I seriously hope I'm not coming here at 82!
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Old 15th February 2020, 06:24
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^Consolida, it's so kind of you to post this when you have your own worries, especially with the uncertainty over your mum's health.

Yes, it's the they have progressed further in life embarrassment. And even if they don't care, I care. And they were already progressing further in life back then. And I liked your post on how you'd lost contact out of shame because I could totally identify with it. Basically the only friends I've kept in contact with are living near by.

I'm not bothered about not ticking all the boxes of life. I knew back then when I lost contact I wouldn't be ticking the marriage and children boxes in case you're wondering, although there is more than one reason for that. But I at least wanted to be a functional adult, with a semi-decent job and my own place. And not be so damn boring as I have become. I wanted to at least tick some boxes! Actually, when I was a teenager, that was as far as I got with envisioning my adult life except I thought I would be able to manage it by 30. Ha! Nope! And for some reason I cared about having fun.

And I semi-ghosted one (so I was being delusional on the ghosting thread and I feel guilty) and I was semi-ghosted by the other, so yeah. Ugh. I was just at a very low point for many reasons when I lost contact, and then I have felt ashamed ever since.
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Old 15th February 2020, 10:08
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I never rebuilt my life when I should have done in my early 20's. Then I met someone, that lead to some amazing experiences, financial stability and even fighting off a potentially life ending illness.

It is deeply upsetting that it is now over. But I never rebuilt mylife, I had all my eggs in that one basket. What is on my mind is how I am going to do this and where is it going to take me, how do stay stable and grow on what I do have left when it feels I could so easily get that down in the dumps that I do something silly and loose everything.
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