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Old 29th September 2018, 01:31
Deadbeatunderadustymoon Deadbeatunderadustymoon is offline
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Default if i could do it all again

i would tell mr black to beep off

i would tell x and y to beep off

i would smak b in the face

i would ve travelled earlier,

i wouldve studied harder

i would learned to play the guitar

not worked at x

not give s- about anything or anyone.
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Old 29th September 2018, 13:48
Dougella Dougella is offline
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I wouldn't want to do it again, once was quite enough!


But I should have told a lot more people to f*** off and said no to a lot more people.
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Old 29th September 2018, 14:04
Mr. Nobody Mr. Nobody is offline
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Default Re: if i could do it all again

^

Yip, saying no is SO difficult,
I think I'm bad for not saying no or challenging people because I need people to like me,
If the very few people I know didn't kind of approve of me, I'm not sure if I'd cope,
Like it or not, personal approval goes a long way for people with fragile mental health.
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Old 30th September 2018, 16:42
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There'd be no point. The problems were just too severe and ran too deep. I wish I could re-live my life without the social anxiety/avoidant personality disorder and paralyzing shame though.
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Old 30th September 2018, 17:02
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Barring the whole socially anxious side

I only have 2 fairly large regrets coming to the top of my head, one of them was bloody uni and the other one was a relationship that caused me a hell of a lot more drama/problems/issues..than anything remotely positive

If I could do it again and avoid them 2 things, that'd be grand

Actually I would have gone to a different secondary school too, that was shite.
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Old 30th September 2018, 17:08
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I'd leave home and try to get adopted at age 5.
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Old 30th September 2018, 19:25
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Default Re: if i could do it all again

As I get older, I care less and less about what other people think of me, and it's somewhat liberating. Wish I had done so earlier.
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Old 30th September 2018, 20:47
gregarious_introvert gregarious_introvert is offline
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Default Re: if i could do it all again

It's interesting to see that some would like to have said "No" more, as my difficulty has always been in saying "Yes". There are many things I would have done differently at the time, but if I had, I wouldn't be where I am today, so I wouldn't change a thing .
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Old 30th September 2018, 23:33
PurpleBrioche97 PurpleBrioche97 is offline
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Default Re: if i could do it all again

- I regret not being open with mental health professionals when I was in my teens. I was even sectioned, but managed to keep the bullying and anxiety away from them.

I didn't realise I had depression until I was 16, and didn't fully acknowledge my anxiety/social anxiety until I turned 19. This was in part due to the fact that I'm autistic, so anxiety has always been there. Depression is nasty, and creeps up on you. I'm almost 21.

- I kind of regret not telling the teachers about the bullying I had endured. I doubt they would have done much about it, but at least they would have a better explanation for the long absences, which eventually led to me dropping out at 14.

Edit: Oops! It's the over 30s forum, LOL.
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Old 18th October 2018, 11:36
DanielleGaresh DanielleGaresh is offline
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Default Re: if i could do it all again

Live for me, tell my self I can achieve anything I want.

Do not work in boring jobs just because it's what you do
Do not go university just because it's what you do

Not alienate people because of my SA, force my self into more situations where i can practice holding conversations

Turn more acquaintances into friends

Live for me
Live for me
Live for me
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Old 25th October 2018, 22:03
indiegirl1980 indiegirl1980 is offline
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I would have told a certain guy at uni that I liked him rather than be put off by a mutual friend, who was sort of seeing someone back home anyway.

Yes, she would've been peed off at the time but 10 years down the line I think she would have got over it.

I would also have stood up for myself a lot more and not tried to please other people so much.
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Old 7th March 2019, 17:02
Just.Fin Just.Fin is offline
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Can we do it all again but where i get to have a go at being someone else?

If not then I guess Id just liked to have been braver and had some kind of strong role model/mentor to inspire and guide. Rather than the endless procession of damaged, unhappy and spiteful adults that made up the world I lived in as a child. It might have encouraged me to reach/struggle more for a brighter existence rather than just morn/resign myself to the inevitable dark place I saw the future to be as a young person.
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