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Zoning out in conversations
Hello,
Does anone ever "zone out" when someone is talking to you? I have trouble staying focused, and often find my mind drifts mid-converstation, usually only momentariy, but then I realise I haven't taken in what the other person has said. I'll nod and go "mmm" and "yeah", but sometimes my mind is elsewhere! If anyone has any advice, or knows of any ways of becoming more focused then please let me know, as this is causing some fairly significant issues in my relationship with my fiancée. |
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Re: Zoning out in conversations
I do this a lot,and then tend to jolt back into the conversation with the person looking at me expectantly while I have no idea what response is appropriate Another thing is after I`ve finished zoning out I`ll be internally questioning whether someone/I did just actually say that out loud(w/e it is) or if it was part of the daydream.
Stress or tiredness can affect concentration I think so maybe if it`s that casuing it try and make sure you get more sleep,deal with the stress etc? Other than that I`d be interested in any tips anyone has too! |
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Re: Zoning out in conversations
Thanks for the replies.
I've just found this... http://www.successconsciousness.com/index_000005.htm Would be interested to know what people think of the exercises, and if anyone can actually do any of them. Some of the ones towards the end seem insanely difficult! |
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Re: Zoning out in conversations
I do this all the time too. Especially if I'm tired, if there are a lot of people involved in the conversation, too much noise or too much going on around me.
Exercising regularly (feel more alert / better concentration) helps me. Also, when I notice that I start losing track of conversations in social situations, taking breaks from time to time to clear my mind helps a bit. Other than that... I don't really have any amazing advice unfortunately. Quote:
These exercises aim to train you gradually so it makes more sense to me. I'll try them. |
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I have no tips :/ but i'll keep an eye on this thread for any given! |
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Re: Zoning out in conversations
I'm the same, an undesirable quality when trying to approach women.
(I sometimes wonder if it's possible to attract someone without saying a word?) |
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Massive problem for me. I don't even realise it's happening. Worst thing is it can make me really self-conscious when it happens and it's not particular congruent with how I'm acting most of the time. One thing I do notice though is that if I'm really relaxed and feeling very unself-conscious it tends not to happen. Say I'm in a really good mood, having a great time, laughing and joking. Well it never happens during those times. I think it's about living in the moment.
The minute I start to get distracted by anything else, be it the surrounding environment, my own thoughts well that's when it can happen. How to stop it? I don't really know because if I knew how to be in a good mood all the time I'd be a billionaire by now. |
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i do this so often for a split second and as soon as i realise i have done it i feel guilty and i start worrying if anyone around is looking at me (us) or if im looking like im not paying attention, then i can begin to fidget and the other person looks around or looks at me funny, then i get more paranoid that they are annoyed with me, fidget more, then they do get annoyed, ask whats wrong and i just want to cry
Horrible horrible evil circle of stupid brain thoughts. |