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Old 9th July 2018, 23:00
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The job centre guy today said to me 'you don't come across as anxious at all' (he wasn't being judgy - just conversational). It does annoy me a little though, it's like so you not on the edge of a nervous breakdown so you must be fine.

The nuances of SA really do seem lost on the wider public. The avoidance, the constant worry, the not being able to cope being around folk at times, the negative view of yourself. The visible anxiety is reigned in because of safety behaviours most of the time.
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Old 10th July 2018, 22:16
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Yeah, people have often asked me the same question. How come you are anxious with people when you are fine talking to us?
The thing is answers to questions such as these can never be given with satisfactorily. I find myself answering with 'I don't really know' or 'well it is in an environment I feel comfortable in'.
Yeah, off the top of my head I can never give a good answer. Often with me it can be the person, some ppl make me more anxious than others, also the context of the interaction - for instance i had to email my dental practice about my dissatisfaction of the treatment I had, I would not have been able to do this face to face or by phone. Asking for something, or for help I struggle with and so on and on. I can listen to others and talk about others but not so much about myself (I think cause it focuses attention on to me). It does vary from person to person, some folk - usually chatty, open folk I can be fine with.
Other things like say a doc appointment/mental health appointment I can sit and talk with little anxiety cause the interaction is predictable and 'structured'.

It's all these variables that make SA bloody annoying and kind of impossible for (some) other ppl to get.
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Old 15th July 2018, 01:24
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^ same here about ok talking at times and other days can hardly do it at all.

I've been avoiding Whatsapp for a few days because of this anxious introverted mood. I think I'll bite the bullet and answer the messages tomorrow or maybe Monday but soon it will be done!
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Old 11th August 2018, 20:07
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Thinking too much about the future. Loneliness and alone-ness and where I'm heading (probably nowhere). I was looking at pictures of me as a kid the other night (happened to be clearing out a cupboard) and can't help but wonder how it could have all gone so horribly wrong.
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Old 16th August 2018, 23:14
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Money money money :-(

I've recently left my job due to anxiety and whilst its great not having to worry about the social confrontations every single day... leaving work does present a new problem hahaha :-|
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Old 20th August 2018, 23:24
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Longing, sadness and guilt for unknowingly upsetting a special lady at work who has now unfriended me and can't forgive me. I mis-interpreted a hug from her and told her I adored her. She told me she adored me too. I hugged her and kissed her twice on the cheek. We looked longingly at one another and repeated each others names. But now she says I have betrayed her trust, she can't forgive me and she has unfriended me. It hurts so much and has been so for the nearly 3 months.
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Old 29th September 2018, 02:26
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amy mcdonald first album was the only decent thing she did, and she overdoes the black eye make up for 30 yr old woman
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Old 9th November 2018, 01:45
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I know I'm unliked but I don't even care.
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Old 9th November 2018, 10:17
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I don't think you're unliked, not here at least.
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Old 9th November 2018, 13:55
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Longing, sadness and guilt for unknowingly upsetting a special lady at work who has now unfriended me and can't forgive me. I mis-interpreted a hug from her and told her I adored her. She told me she adored me too. I hugged her and kissed her twice on the cheek. We looked longingly at one another and repeated each others names. But now she says I have betrayed her trust, she can't forgive me and she has unfriended me. It hurts so much and has been so for the nearly 3 months.
that sounds terrible,.
did you both have feelings for each other and SA has got in the way of that?
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Old 9th November 2018, 21:38
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Considering this charger is meant to be a fast charger, its seems pretty slow to me.
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Old 10th November 2018, 09:35
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^ Theres different levels of fast charging (just to make life even more confusing)

its also quicker depending on the type of USB connection, its a minefield
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Old 29th November 2018, 23:46
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I thought she shared the same feelings that I felt for her but I seem to have mis interpreted what I thought were the signs and signals showing that. I don't think my SA got in the way because for the first 5 years our relationship grew despite my 'handicap' for want of a better word. She suffers from depression and is in an unhappy marriage. She is due to take early retirement from work in January 2020 and move away to live with her married daughter and family. I know I will never see her again after this. In the meantime I have to pretend to her that we are just 'colleagues'. Since August the situation had improved a little in that a few weeks ago she felt we were 'getting there' in terms of a resumption of friendship. However on other days it seems further away than ever.
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