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Being introvert effects prospects at work
Did anyone see this on BBC Breakfast this morning? I only caught the tail end of it but it seemed to say what we always knew but everyone else didn't that being a good worker counts for very little if you are introvert. When I worked I never progressed anywhere due to this and my recent redundancy also backs this up, have you experienced this?
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Yep. I come across as quite confident at work and am hard working. But have always been told that I don't talk myself up enough or I don't push myself forward enough.
I took redundancy in October and went travelling, been job hunting since February and getting nowhere fast. Last week I sent my CV off to various review sites and the feedback I have got is " too bland, doesn't stand out, not ambitious enough,need to outline achievements etc etc" Thing is I am too shy and hate promoting myself in that way and I don't want to oversell myself. I wish people could just accept the work that I've done. If we looked at everyone's CV's this would look like a country of CEO'S. Why can't people accept that being pushy is not appropriate at all levels. |
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This doesn't surprise me. I should probably think myself lucky that I've got a good job at the moment but I worry about the future. Right now I do computer programming mostly, but there seems to be a push to getting people into management instead of actually writing code as they get older (both in general and at my workplace). I'm dreading it if I ever have to make that jump... I know I wouldn't be any good at managing people and even if I could force myself to do it I would find it stressful and horrible.
I'd much rather stay in the role I'm in for life as I'm good at it, I find it interesting and the pay's not bad, but it seem like that's not the "done thing" anymore... I just get the impression the older ones who are still at the same level as me are regarded as failures who the company would rather get rid of if they could, and I don't really want to end up like that, but the alternative doesn't look good either ... why can't people just do what they're good at these days? Why is everyone supposed to aspire to becoming some sort of uber-social go-getting manager or be seen as a failure? |
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brown nosing the way up a company and selling yourself sounds like my idea of hell
i wish i could just find a job doing something i enjoy..and thats it..no fighting for promotion, no having to big myself up, but then i also dont fancy a boring 9-5 routine..i cant be pleased I understand though, no one would bloody employ me based on my CV, its truthful but it lacks bullshit..so it'll be dull/ignored. I dont know why we cant just be honest without the extra coating of BS to get anywhere in life |
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I completely agree with all the above. I wonder when all this emphasis on extroversion in the workplace began? It's ghastly.
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I think you could be a fantastic person/worker with many skills and qualities, but unless you can exhibit them, parade them and get them seen, you will often be overlooked. I longsince realised that presentation trumps quality in this world. If you have the front to bullshit, you'll probably do ok. I'm actually going to conduct a little experiment over the next few months. I've been applying for work and have been honest, up front and used integrity on my applications. Despite that, I've had one rejection and the rest couldn't be arsed replying. From now on I'm going to totally bullshit on applications and see what happens. I'll make out that the sun shines through my backside and see what happens, because they sure don't value honesty and a caring approach (the jobs are in support/care). I think good jobs are often full of people who simply know how to bullshit others and sell themselves well. It can be a pack of lies, but if it sounds good, you're in. This obviously leaves the introvert, the lacking in confidence, the anxious at a distinct disadvantage. I've never been a self-promoter. My counselling supervisor tears his hair out listening to me because I'm so slow to pat myself on the back when I get it right. In my world, quality speaks for itself and has humility. So if I do anything well I let it do the talking for me. But in this world people who can shout loudest in the selling themselves stakes tend to go far, whether they have the quality or not. Maybe it's the Halo Effect. Maybe because a person can put themselves over well, other qualities are automatically attributed to them too. I'm currently about to update my ageing CV, and I'm going to put a shed load of bollocks on that too. Suppose you just have to tell them what they want to hear. |
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I did sort of suss this out some years ago when doing care work. The most valued staff were not those who cared most and did a thorough job. It was the ones who'd put the most hours in, get in and out of 'jobs' quickly (I hate calling clients ''jobs''). So, basically the corner-cutters. There were even complaints from clients against certain members of staff, and I could see what was going on. My opinion was asked by management, but because it painted the 'golden boy/girl' staff members in a bad light it was glossed over and ignored. I pretty much learned back then that honesty counts for little at times, and what was valued was brown-nosing and getting the job done regardless of whether or not you do it well, or simply cut corners in order to complete it. Time and money over quality and approach. |
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I don't think it's about bullshitting, but you do have to sell yourself - you're expecting people to select you out of 100s of potential candidates, and you really need to let your best qualities show. It feels fecking uncomfortable sometimes, but I think that's true for most people (especially the British, where self-promotion is frowned upon).
But I can certainly see that in some jobs, introversion might hold you back. |
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Introversion doesn't have anything to do with it, social anxiety does. Introverts aren't inherently asocial, nor are extroverts inherently ***8216;uber-social***8217; or ***8216;go-getting***8217;.
Society isn't biased against introverts, nor is it biased towards extroverts. Intuition, eloquence, decisiveness, and motivation are the qualities that make success ***8211; not just in our ***8216;Western***8217; society that everybody whines about so much, but in all cultures, societies, and activities ***8211; and they are not qualities exclusive to extroverts. Stop blaming the rest of the world for your problems, and especially stop regurgitating the same old misanthropic, angsty ***8216;lolz extroverts are hyper-social and obnoxious and introverts are quiet***8217; and ***8216;omgz society hates shyness***8217; lines. Last edited by Caribou; 4th April 2012 at 04:18. Reason: aggressive, shouting capitals |
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I would agree that itis important to exaggerate your CV in order to get a job or feign confidence at an interview. But once you get the job I don't believe self-promotion is as necessary in the long run. Over time, your boss will see if you have integrity or not, whether you are prepared to go the extra mile, your enthusiasm will shine throiugh or lack of. No need for self-promotion. Which reminds me, I need to show more enthusiasm at work and go the extra mile. |
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i don't know if this affects other introverts at work but the fact i may well be overlooked, thought of as an idiot, incompetent or irrelevant has only inured my sense of integrity in the sense that i don't pass the buck, lie, gossip or any other thing that will compensate for the fact that i may be thought of unkindly. it may count for little in terms of career prospects but the fact i genuinely hold these things to be important makes me feel like a better person.
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I wasn't saying extroversion (or introversion) was a bad thing. I agree that they both have their place and both are (or should be) valued. I was just voicing something that's been making me a bit uneasy for a while, namely that there seems to be a tendency in my workplace (and from what I've heard, in other similar ones too) to try and push people towards management roles just because they've reached a certain age, and that this worries me because I don't think I'm ever going to be well suited to that. I've got nothing at all against the people who are, they just have different strengths to me and I would rather be left alone to work in an area where I do have strengths than be forced into doing something I'm not naturally good at. Thinking again, this doesn't really fit with the thread topic and was probably the wrong place to bring it up. Sorry . |
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Basically one needs to be fake to succeed in a place of work today, just like going to a job interview, we need to fake it.
I'm sure a lot (if not the majority) of people have their "work persona" and "when not in work persona", though of course depends on type of job. It seems like we are conditioned to act what we are really not, no wonder mental health illnesses are rife in western societies. |
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The future does not look good with being a older techie. I dont know what to do. |
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I am the same. I work hard all day but i'm rubbish at showing enthusiasm to managers. I find managers to be intimidating authoritarian even if they are just trying to show constructive criticism. Supervisors i can get on with normal.
I tend to avoid the staff though apart from saying hello or if they start a conversation. The ones who are really agressively confident and forthcoming are the ones that tend to succeed in any job. No matter what nationality. Now i also believe that there may be places out there where a person who is shy at one place may be way more forthcoming and in the groove at a different job in the right environment for them. But yes, i have never been promoted. I always stay in the same position, which is assistant or staff member. This is across a few industries, it was the same when i was helping programming, eventually i was backed into a corner and left. I've worked in a kitchen and never reached past kitchen porter over three years. I worked in publishing, it was the same story. The biggest issue is that I seem to be given the tasks that nobody else wants to do. That are high risk and mindlessly easy at the same time but still require alot of hard work. |
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The best jobs i've ever had were small businesses, 2-3 people. Down to earth conversations, a bit of jokey banter in between the work. Pleasant. The best!!! |
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Best Theo Last edited by Cleo; 5th April 2012 at 10:21. Reason: Badly thought out. |
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With me, fake persona last only for a week and then I get back into quiet mode whether they like it or not. |