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View Poll Results: Are you in a Relationship?? | |||
Hetero Male: YES | 29 | 13.88% | |
Hetero Male: NO | 100 | 47.85% | |
Hetero Female: YES | 34 | 16.27% | |
Hetero Female: NO | 37 | 17.70% | |
Gay Male: YES | 1 | 0.48% | |
Gay Male: NO | 5 | 2.39% | |
Gay Female: YES | 1 | 0.48% | |
Gay Female: NO | 2 | 0.96% | |
Voters: 209. You may not vote on this poll |
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A lot of the great artists who used beautiful muses were not attractive themselves. PS I'm not just referring to people either. Do you appreciate the beauty of nature? |
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Classical beauty might be objective (if you accept the ideas about symmetrical faces being nicer and all that) but what about a more general definition of beauty that includes more than just appearances (e.g. includes personality, includes context, includes personal idiosyncracies). The cynical ones amongst you will be laughing but I've noticed that people who are very confident about their appearance think in this way. We (and yes I include myself in that group) see beauty in things that appeal to us speifically MORE than things that fit stereotypical norms like full lips, bug eyes and long soft hair (but those things are nice too ). Suddenly my crooked nose becomes beautiful to me because it reminds me of an Egyptian princess and it is uniquely me. Suddenly a stereotypically average or even ugly looking friend becomes beautiful when I realise what a warm, caring person he is towards me. Suddenly that doctor who was so nice to you when you revealed your SA becomes beautiful in your eyes because she treated you with respect. And likewise, even when I meet stunningly good looking people who have something very nasty in their souls I feel physically repulsed when I look at them. It's as if I've reprogrammed my brain to find more than aesthetics attractive. I hope I've explained it right because if I haven't it comes out like wishy washy clap trap bullshit. So you might not be able to change your actual looks or position on the' ladder', but you can work on your attractiveness level because SA really drags that down sometimes, and a litle confidence will boost it. |
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PS I'm in your group, I'm not stunning but have a bit of confidence even though my life is a mess. However, I have some good people in it, that is the crux of what matters to me. Art is a hobby/interest that brings me pleasure, that's all. |
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@Black mamba, that is a brilliant post, and I do think you are absolutely right. The silly thing is, I don't often like the look of famous people or anything myself, and I find all sorts of types aesthetically pleasing and/or attractive.
@ Zayed, I know you're not referring to me specifically, but I'd say that in my case, it definitely isn't jealousy, and strangely, even though I feel uncomfortable about the way I look sometimes, I still wouldn't wish that I looked like better looking girls or that they didn't have what they do. It's the attitude I come up against that seems to judge me in a sort of moral sense because I am not seen to have done everything in my power to correct my flaws. I've always kept myself clean and everything, but I didn't really care much about looks until people said some pretty cruel things to me. There's some other things I'v experienced that I don't want to go into detail about, that made me feel really bad about myself and more insecure about my looks. I got a lot better for a while but at the moment, I look and feel run down, Im struggling at uni, and so everything seems much worse than it actually is. So as Cavegirl suggested, I really should stay away from topics like this at the moment! Yes, I love nature, but it doesn't make me feel that I really should be doing something about my appearance. I don't think it's realistic for me at the moment to simply enjoy the beauty of all those women around me in everyday life looking so lovely and made up and with skin showing, without it making me feel that if so many ordinary women look like that, well there really ought to be something I should be doing to look better myself - even though at the moment if I did, Id end up bankrupt and would definitely fail my degree! |
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This is why I'm getting so anal about telling people TV f-cks you up - you start worrying that you're supposed to find these people on TV attractive or wonder if you need to look like them. The truth is what is shown on TV and even in mainstream movies is such a narrow representation of the real world and I find it unhealthy, esp if like most SAers we don't get enough real world social contact. |
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for a long time my TV was my best friend, lol. these days we don't see quite as much of each other as we once did though i did (sometimes still do) often compare myself to people i see on tv. definitely i feel like i need more muscle/toned body, but i seem to be too lazy to really do much about it |
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If you are not severely disfigured then obviously you don't need to do anything, hopefully things will improve for you soon and you will feel better |
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Man... I... I hate the ****ing TV... And what it does to little me... |
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[QUOTE=AutumnLeaves;1246764]Just read the last few posts and feel pretty depressed now. Just the talk of 'attractive' females as if there was a universal standard. Iv got some pretty obvious superficial flaws as well as SA and it makes me feel pretty gloomy about my future prospects of holding onto a man What chance do I have when there's so much competition from prettier, more interesting girls [/QUO
I think you are very pretty |
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