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View Poll Results: Would you like to see a new dating section ? | |||
Yes | 21 | 30.00% | |
No | 37 | 52.86% | |
Unsure | 12 | 17.14% | |
Voters: 70. You may not vote on this poll |
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Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
Yes its that old favourite back again, how about a new date section in absence of all that other stuff that was there before. I know this debate comes about, probably too often but now there is a whole batch of new members with new opinions, I reckon its worth opening this up to the voters again to gauge opinion.
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
Speaking as a new(ish) member... It's seems to only be a month since this last came up. afx's post pretty much sums up how I feel about it too - http://www.social-anxiety-community....23&postcount=3
Maybe after discussion with mods etc it would be possible to start a thread in the Penpals section similar to the Myspace/Facebook thread but for members who do wish to show their PlentyOfFish etc profiles but personally I don't think it's needed. Still banned by the FAQ as it stands though... Certainly don't think a whole section is needed for it - you don't cleanup to make more mess, you cleanup because things have got too messy |
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
Whilst a dating section here seems highly unlikely to happen, I think if people are looking for possible relationships, they should be allowed to state this in posts made in the Penpals forum. Over the years, some members have been allowed to do this, whilst other members have not. There has been little consistency in my opinion.
All correspondence should then be carried out off the forum, i.e. private messages / e-mail / instant messaging. This then takes the onus off the moderators being responsible for running a dating section, and they can simply delete any forum responses and/or lock the posts - effectively making them read only. |
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After thinking about it I think it's a bad idea. Say I put all my details up and got not one reply. It'd enhance the belief that i'm not attractive and i'm sure the same principle applies to all here
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
I don't think it's a good idea, it could end up very messy and spread to the rest of the board.
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
Sorry but it's not going to happen. The owner of the site simply doesn't want a dating section, as has been explained many times.
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
No offence meant at any individual but I'm sick and tired off people asking for a dating section on the SA UK forums when there have been countless threads on it through out the years.
Maybe the moderators could post a sticky as a permanent reminder? |
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I don't see the point.
100 male members and 1 female member. |
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Arn't there some SA dating sites?
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I have found there is a little hypocrisy here, as any bloke who has had more than one gf here, seems to be viewed as an opportunistic predator. However the sizeable number of women who have had more than one partner from the site, dont seem to attract the same criticism. Anyway if a 'couple' here wouldnt work out, I could pretty much guarentee the "fallout" would descend into a maelstrom of whispers and innuendo amongst the regulars, and that would be a head zap for all concerned. I think a dating section here is a terrible idea, and a virtual certainty to make the board implode. |
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I dont think there ever will be a dating section cos of the concerns mentioned. I dont see any harm in someone putting their own thread up asking for relationships long as they do it on their own back and accept the risks.
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
Even sticking up requests for relationships is a risky thing since it can create an air of suspition, there's also the fact that it almost certainetly wouldn't work and would leave the thread starter feeling worse then when he/she first put the thread up.
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Re: Dating Section - plug the gap after the site tidy up ?
No one has yet to say anything positive and beneficial about implementing a dating section on SAUK yet apart from the small minority who say something along the lines of "Yeah, it's a good idea"! :rolleyes:
A dating section is such a terrible idea I agree, the worst idea in the history of SAUK and I can't be bothered to reiterate why anymore. |
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I know that many people are very shy about posting on the boards, but they don't even have to get involved in conversation. You can post your picture up in the photo section, same as you would in a dating section, you don't even have to write anything but unless you're John Merrick II a few people are going to take notice. And of course, correctly pointed out by Cynic, you have the Pen Pals section. You can effectively write out a full profile if you wish, just so long as it's not specifically requesting a romantic relationship as far as I'm aware. And to be honest, I think most people on here would benefit from looking for friendship with the potential of finding a relationship rather than jumping straight into desperate ideas. It does take some initiative. I've been here a long time, I'm quite talkative on here and yet the people that have took to PMing on a semi-regular basis I could count on one hand. People added to my MSN list is, I think, a grand total of one. Actually no, it's two, but the other one I've never spoken to on there so I'm not sure that counts. But then I've never been here looking for a relationship or anything else. You do have to take the initiate though if you want to interact with people, there's no way around it. Whether that be typing up a dating profile, or asking for email / facebook / msn buddies, or just PMing someone you get on with or admire on the boards and saying 'hello'. It's all the same thing. And the thing is with this place, it's structured almost like a real community. It's a fairly safe environment and it works very well. I don't see any reason to change it. It's quite healthy as it is. If you want a dating, join a dating site. Make some friends, and if you're lucky, they'll bring you fruit. |
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Youre best off 'phishing' (indirectly!) by starting off chats with people who appeal to you. if they want to talk to you then cool, if not then no big whoop. But thats how relationships start.. somebody initiates dialogue, people get on and things kick on from there. put a big profile public up though which says "THIS IS ME!!!" and youre liable to get shot down big time... the guys/girls ratio on those things leave you REALLY bad odds... but even knowing that might not be enough to offset the (very likely) total lack of joy and the consequences for many of you who probably suffer from weak self esteem and confidence as it is. |
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I don't think the males here outnumber the females 100-1 although the majority are male. It more seems to be that the females on here are already dating whilst the men aren't. Kinda obvious really because women don't ask men out despite the 'new age equality' so whilst it's seen as acceptable for a girl to ask a guy out, it never happens. Because of this SA ladies still get asked out and SA guys don't.
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