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Old 3rd December 2006, 11:22
Shyguy64 Shyguy64 is offline
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Default Re: Anyone else here with no social life?

I mainly just stay at home and play video games all day. I get so lonely that I sometimes talk to a spider that lives by the window.

God I need help
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Old 3rd December 2006, 12:01
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I mainly just stay at home and play video games all day. I get so lonely that I sometimes talk to a spider that lives by the window.

God I need help
I bet some people would be jealous of you playing computer games all day. What games do you like playing, I'm not up to date with the latest games maybe you can fill me in.
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Old 3rd December 2006, 16:01
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This is the area that my particular SA is strongest.
I’m mostly fine at work and even in a social context at work too – being known for my amiable, easy going , jokey stylee.

But outside work… uh oh!

I’ve not had a social life since the early 90’s when after few years of regular socialising with my mates in local and city centre pubs from Friday to Sunday, we started to drift apart due to the natural progression into acquiring girlfriends etc.
Being the odd one out, it meant I was going out less and less until it stopped altogether.

Even when I did go out in the latter stages, they always tended to be awkward, strained affairs if g/f’s were present, as this always heightened my stress levels significantly.

Several years later in ‘97 on a whim I (foolishly as it turned out) accepted an invitation to a 30th birthday party. Unfortunately for me, this precipitated a full scale breakdown afterwards and a spell in hospital.

Three years later I reluctantly celebrated, for want of a more appropriate word, my own 30th in a local pub with my last remaining friend from my old social life. It was ok, just him and I in a relatively quiet, relaxed atmosphere, but never the less, it’s not something I particularly enjoyed and so am in no hurry to repeat the experience.

All In all, I’m quite happy and content in not going out, it’s just a shame that it’s not seen as being ‘normal’ and so I have to put up with being perceived as a… bit odd – never going out and never having any know associations with the opposite sex.
It’s not really mentioned much now thankfully, it’s just the odd throw away comment or awkward silence or glance occasionally.

There were murmerings the other week about trying to get me out on the annual works Christmas p**s up, but as usual I’ve saved a couple of days holiday to tag onto front of my Christmas holidays, so I break off earlier than most and thus avoid any last minute invitational pressures.

In many ways I do wish things were different; in the sense that like many, I yearn to feel ‘normal’. But the reality is deep down, this is how I am and have never known any difference.



filo – anti social and socially anxious.
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Old 3rd December 2006, 16:03
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I miss having friends, it makes me quite sometimes. I had a lot of friends in my final years of school (when I was 17/18- I'm now 24). I had panic attacks from the age of 16 which were really bad, but because I had really good friends it didn't stop me socialising- I used to get really anxiously ill before parties and things but at least I had friends and parties to go to.

Then, uni happened and basically was the ending of my social life ironically! My PAs got worse because I didn't know anybody, it seemed everyone just wanted to get blind drunk (not my thing at all) and I ended up having a breakdown and being very depressed.

Although I am heaps better now, I went from having so many friends and fun despite my symtoms, to having a reduction in symptoms but also in friends, so I just end up staying in- now I don't mind staying in a lot because I don't wanna be out ALL the time, but it would be good to do more things- grrr. I am a friendly person despite my anxiety so it just doesn't feel right to be so isolated!

I did however pass my driving test recently so hopefully soon (I say soon coz I also get seasonal affective disorder and am very un-motivated in winter to go anywhere) I will join some clubs such as conservation clubs and walking clubs and I might make some more friends then- which would be nice.

Might make some here too- which would be nice!
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Old 3rd December 2006, 18:47
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I have one friend who has been my best friend for almost ten years and I rarely go out at all. I tend to go out maybe once, in the car and just to somewhere like the supermarket with my parents, a week or fortnight. I rarely have the opportunity to meet new people.

I suppose I'm fortunate for having a twin sister, but it somehow doesn't feel the same being out with her. I don't mean that in a nasty way.

My most recent social activities: going to a bar for my friend's birthday in september, going to blackpool and meeting my sister's friends, going to friend's housewarming party. At all these I felt queasy, slurred and stumbled over my words, acted giddily, laughed at absolutely everything and ended up feel incredibly tired and miserable towards the end. Oh, and I got abysmally drunk at my friend's birthday and ended up practically passed out on the pavement, and my mum had to be called to come over in a taxi to get me home. But the fact that these three occasions were pretty major for me has left me feeling a bit more confident than I was all summer.
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Old 3rd December 2006, 23:13
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Sometimes I have a social life and sometimes not . for the past year I've just been seeing a few friends individually . cant be bothered to build a social life.
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Old 4th December 2006, 15:13
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I wish i had a social life but i dont and its something i know i cant just acquire its something i have to work at,same as my sa.
I spend most my time with my b.f,and other social contact would be with my sister and thats about it.
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Old 4th December 2006, 22:20
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I had a bit of one in 1988 but nothing since then.
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Old 4th December 2006, 22:59
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I have no social life these days
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Old 4th December 2006, 23:21
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I have no social life but am not sure I want one anymore. I have got so used to hiding myself from the world.
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