Do you talk to your neighbous?

[Annie]

I nod and say hello to the neighbous but I do not know their names or anything about them. I went outsideto cean he windows and I was surprised how much anxiety I experianced. I was on go go go I did them as quickly as possible so no one would see me.

I'd really like to talk to them and maybe have a cup of teaor try out the local pub,i just don't kno how to go about it. How do you strike up a conversation?

Particulary here is a woman living directly above me, I think she lives on her own and as I am bored on yet another sunday afternoon, I wonder what sheis doing but I am just too nervous to find out

Has anyone got any ideas.

I followed her ou the other day, I was going to the bus stop but because she stopped there I smiled at her and them kept walking

How can a break the ice and start conversation?

[Concept]

I inadvertently offended my neighbours a few days ago, so as you might imagine, we're on exceptional speaking terms.

[Ben1981]

I live in a block of 6 and exchange hellos and nods with all of them but dont really interact. I try and avoid the people below me as they tend to be really talkative types and I find that too overpowering. Id really like to socialise with some of them but have no idea how so Im probably in the same situation as you Annie. Sorry I cant help out

[Concept]

Originally Posted by Annie

Has anyone got any ideas.

I followed her ou the other day, I was going to the bus stop but because she stopped there I smiled at her and them kept walking

How can a break the ice and start conversation?

Just talk about triviality, such as a common connection for where you both live (such as a location/happening). Or something.

[Cellardweller]

I live in a complex of 12 newly built flats and consider myself to be the only normal one who lives here. Ive been involved with the twats in the past and its been trouble and in the end i ended up egging a family of morons who had been warned not to nock my door which was quite funny.

Thay,ve accussed my of everthing from a drug dealer to a kiddy fiddler and the destress was so bad that i had to get the police and the housing association involved and sorted things out that way.

****ing idiots.

[Winnie57]

I put nodding terms but I do actually know their names but have only very rarely exchanged more than a couple of words with them.

[Wheelie Bin Bird]

i put yes on good tems with them, i used to be we've owned this house since it was built in 1938 and my grandparents always got along well with them all but i think i've turned them off over the past year or so coz i don't speak to them really, and apart from that their all weird (really)

[Andist]

I'm on good terms with with one of my neighbours. I've known her all my life. Last year she knocked at my door because she was locked out and asked me to help. I had to climb up her drainpipes to the 4th floor as it was the only window which was open.

By the time I got back out of her front door, her son was was there and he started accusing me of breaking in. I won't repeat what I remember of the verbal exchange we had but once he realised who I was he calmed down.

[scarlet_diva]

Wish I could give some advice on that but I really first of all don't have contact or talk to neighbours and am total rubbish at striking up friendships. Really rubbish.
Only contact I've had with neighbours was having to complain to heffalump upstairs & that's about it. I'm not remotely interested in who lives around me; as far as I'm concerned, the less contact with neighbours, the better.
I live in a massive block of flats, it's very anonymous and impersonal generally. You don't even nod at people if you get in the lift with them; in fact you need to affect an air of studied disinterest and stare blankly at the walls if you want to be considered normal. I guess it could be a central London thing, not sure.
I mentioned once that Brad Pitt could live next door and I wouldn't even know about it. As soon as I enter the building I race to my flat & quickly shut the door and always heave a big sigh of relief, that I'm finally on my own with no one bugging me, and that's the truth!
Wow I sound like a right unsociable git.

[tghe-retford]

I don't speak much to my neighbours. Since I lived on my own, all (and I mean all) of my neighbours have been known to put loud music on at night.

Regarding my current neighbours, one of them I suspect keeps using my bin, and even though my mate put a padlock on it, the lock has been broken and the neighbour concerned has gone back to using my bin instead of theirs. I don't speak to my other neighbours.

[EnJay]

I nod/smile/wave to my landlord but thats about it. I HATE having to stop and have a pointless conversation with someone for no other reason than i'm expected to.

My neighbours are elderly and quite friendly.
I will say hello if I see them (I never ignore people) however I try to avoid them as much as possible because I never feel comfortable saying any more than a few words.
The lady next-door is very talkative and has often stopped me to talk, which makes me feel trapped and panicky- I've never felt comfortable with or had any desire to make small-talk.

[Amber Fyre]

Hmmmm... well at my mums' house (where I've lived for 19 years) don't know any neighbours at all. At my flat... I nod occasionally at a couple of neighbours and don't know the rest. Don't feel I need to. Don't know if people in London ever know their neighbours!

[Wheelie Bin Bird]

the worst thing i had happen with my neighbours was about 4 years ago, i live in a small close of only 12 houses, and i was worried about my ajoining neighbour, so had to go round all the houses and ask to see if they had seen him, (he's in his 50's and lives alone)
lol, i collected 2 others and we decided to call the police (i had to), i thought he had died in his house!, they came and broke in, and found nothing,
he came back about 5 days later from a walking holiday in south africa, only to find a scathing letter from the police to inform his neighbours of his movements.
i had to explain to him why i had called them and felt like i right muppet.:embarass:
don't think i've said two words to him since.

[Serenity River]

no i dont talk to them at all

Serenity

[hardy]

nod to one side neighbour . The other side we ignore each other. I suppose I could establish contact but just don't know what to say.