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5th May 2009, 13:10
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Nobody likes me!
 Have always been shy, my teen years were a nightmare. Stopped going out for a full 7 years!Since then I have never been able to make friends, have tried, especially during my thirties, always tried to be warm and friendly but it just didn't work. More difficult now that I'm 51, it's not like you can go to pubs and clubs anymore, would look daft, the oldest swinger in town! Where do over 50's socialise? Never married either, so that makes me stand out like a sore thumb. As soon as I tell people how old I am and that I have never been married, they look at me as if I have got 2 heads! HATE IT! Don't understand what it is about me that makes people instantly dislike me!!! Women have never liked me, one of the reason is because I always looked young for my age, but that's not my fault that's down to my genes. Now that I'm starting to look older maybe they will accept me more. Can live in hope! Men have always ignored me, or the ones that did notice me made derogatory remarks about my physical appearance. Dahh! Suppose I will be single for the rest of my life, if nobody fancied me in my 20's, 30's or 40's why the hell should anyone find me attractive in my 50's! The Doom & Gloom Master! |
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#2
5th May 2009, 15:48
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Re: Nobody likes me!
sorry you're feeling so bad, people can be very odd and it's very annoying when you feel you're trying your best but not getting anywhere. I'm sure there are people out there who wouldn't think it's odd that you've never been married, maybe you'll find some on this site
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#3
5th May 2009, 15:53
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Re: Nobody likes me!
i like u hunny
ive got no mates either yes i am married, cos he asked me, 18 years ago, but i havent got a proper marriage due to my avp unlike u i dont look good for my age, and the prospect of finding 'love' is even more limited for me dont stop looking hunny there are some lovely guys on here too nell xx 
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#4
5th May 2009, 16:45
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Re: Nobody likes me!
I am sorry that you feel the way you do. I'm a mere 44 and I know what you mean about clubs etc. My BG took me to her fav club once. It was packed except around this old git I had at least two feet of space around me the whole time. I found it amusing.
As for the fairer sex, I seem to have faired slightly better but not by much my friend. And as I get older it is getting worse but I am accustomed to not being attractive to females. I don't understand what I do or say - or resonate - towards people but I have always struggled to get friends. I wouldn't say I'm hated but I wouldn't say I was liked either. I know I can't blame it all on my SA. I'm hoping to make some friends of both sexes and all ages from this sight. I'm not looking for a lover or a wife just some friends. Please feel free to get in touch with me anytime on any of the links with my signiture or through this sight. Perhaphs we can find a way to help each other. |
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#6
4th September 2009, 15:10
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Re: Nobody likes me!
Hello,
I am sorry to hear of your struggles.I too find it really hard to get on with people.I do not know what the answer is.Some people are very lucky because they are able to socialise with ease and people seem to instantly like them.I am feeling very lonely today wish I could change my personality. I wish you luck in your search for some good friends.I have almost given up.Sorry for being gloomy
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#7
5th September 2009, 22:49
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Re: Nobody likes me!
I'm sure lots more people like you then u realize! Even if people reject you, they are not rejecting you - they are rejecting the sa, since thats what sa does to someone, it chokes you and holds back your real personality.
 ! I totally understand your loneliness tho. I wish i had a solution to tell you
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#8
6th September 2009, 15:08
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Re: Nobody likes me!
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Trouble is, women do not like competition so when they see someone who is attractive and youthfull they give whats known as the bitch stare. Saying that, men don't like competition either  . It's an old old way of trying to eliminate the competition. Doesn't mean that they don't like you, more like "oh my god she is so better looking than me". Try not to take it personally.i've had a look at your profile and if thats your proper pic then as a red blooded male I can honestly say you are one very very attractive lady and I'm very happy to admit to fancying you. You might be in your 50's but you can consider yourself noticed and you've just gained 1 new friend so, very pleased to make your acquaintance.
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#9
7th September 2009, 14:10
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Re: Nobody likes me!
Pimkie - have you ever had counseling? I am just wondering whether you could work on the skills you need - I have overcome my SA (to some extent anyway) later in life and I do now believe that you get back what you give - when I was very introverted and withdrawn and panicking just to 'be' somewhere - never mind talking! - the world seemed an unfriendly place. As I have been more relaxed and social - the world around me seems to have changed. How you present yourself has a huge impact on how the world reacts to you and those are skills that you can develop - although I can't say its been easy and I still have to stay with my anxiety everyday - so maybe that would be a place to start - Good Luck - don't give up hope!!!
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#10
8th October 2009, 19:04
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Re: Nobody likes me!
Hi Pimkie,
Im from Malton too. If you are free mornings through the week you can go to Next Steps, opposite the Derwent Arms in Norton. They are a Mental Health Support group type thing. I used to go years ago, I did some courses such as counselling skills, very very helpful. Still got some information somewhere if you are interested. If you would like to meet for a coffee sometime that would be good, its good to talk face to face especially with fellow SAers. Sam |
