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I meant more the conformist, overly conservative type who will drink themselves stupid on champagne but will recoil in horror at the thought of smoking a joint. |
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Oh and fake tan.
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Just to clarify; straight man
What turns me off; (the important stuff) shallowness, insensitivity, walking over people, lack of empathy (now the shallow stuff which is forgiveable) tattoos, piercings, sounding hard, tough, overly aggressive and assertive, obese; read on. A note about weight; I detest the rhetoric that overweight people are lazy, lacking in willpower and self-discipline and are to blame. I think that rhetoric like that is partly responsible for our obesity epidemic. It's much more complicated than calories in, calories, out. There are a myriad of reasons, mostly psychological, such as comfort eating, bereavement and other social circumstances. On the whole, people who are overweight generally strive to improve things, just as guys like me and other on this board who are socially anxious, and see themselves as the boring, unmasculine nerd that no-one wants, strive to improve their lot. Be yourself (the self that SA has been preventing). What is not right is KNOCKING SOMEONE'S EFFORTS to change, by labelling them as lazy. Sorry to go off on one. I do not advocate that people who might not identify as society's ideal of attractiveness to the opposite sex deserve any rejection, ill treatment or loneliness they might have suffered. At the same time, I'm not a PC apologist. We must acknowledge that on the whole, people DO have their preferences on what they find attractive(that doesn't mean all), no-one is wrong for doing so. Men do find slimmer women attractive. ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN women find confident men who don't give a **** (though not necessarily in a sociopathic, me at the expense of everyone kind of manner) more attractive than men who play it safe all the time (anyone done any research on 'safety behaviours). This is what I've been realising as I've been getting older. This is not PUA snake oil, it's the truth. SA stops you from being you! |
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Just to clarify; straight man
What turns me off; (the important stuff) shallowness, insensitivity, walking over people, lack of empathy (now the shallow stuff which is forgiveable) tattoos, piercings, sounding hard, tough, overly aggressive and assertive, obese; read on. A note about weight; I detest the rhetoric that overweight people are lazy, lacking in willpower and self-discipline and are to blame. I think that rhetoric like that is partly responsible for our obesity epidemic. It's much more complicated than calories in, calories, out. There are a myriad of reasons, mostly psychological, such as comfort eating, bereavement and other social cirtcumstances. On the whole, people who are overweight generally strive to improve things, just as guys like me and other on this board who are socially anxious, and see themselves as the boring, unmasculine nerd that no-one wants, strive to improve their lot. Be yourself (the self that SA has been preventing). What is not right is KNOCKING SOMEONE'S EFFORTS to change, by labelling them as lazy. Sorry to go off on one. I do not advocate that people who might not identify as society's ideal of attractiveness to the opposite sex deserve any rejection, ill treatment or loneliness they might have suffered. At the same time, I'm not a PC apologist. We must acknowledge that on the whole, people DO have their preferences on what they find attractive, no-one is wrong for doing so. Men do find slimmer women attractive. ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN women find confident men who don't give a **** attractive (though not necessarily in a sociopathic, me at the expense of everyone kind of manner) more attractive than men who play it safe all the time (anyone done any research on 'safety behaviours). This is what I've been realising as I've been getting older. This is not PUA snake oil, it's the truth. SA stops you from being you! |
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Is it I 'can't be arsed because I'm a lazy sod' or 'wont because of fear of being seen as emasculated'? If the former has been the case that's what I'd be concerned about and what I'd consider worth bringing-up. If the latter has been the case, you're either unlucky, or your 'confirmation bias' is playing-up; what you've experienced in men prior that might have fitted this pattern, might be projected onto all men you might meet. Be careful my dear of the thinking patterns. |
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There are no turn-offs for the opposite sex, all women are lovely and I'd be happy to spend the rest of my life with any woman who showed any interest in me (well probably not any woman but most).
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And my dating profile doesn't contain anything because I don't have one. I'm currently in a relationship-- and yes, he does in fact tick all the boxes. I didn't ask for your commentary and I certainly didn't ask for your advice. You say very few men would be emasculated by being asked to take on their share of the burden. Firstly, I'm not projecting any sort of confirmation bias onto men I meet. Where I'm from, this is a very common mentality among men...my dear. |
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I'm with Mrs Jones on this. I think the majority of people have turn ons and turn offs others might find trivial. I know I have mine. It's never stopped me having relationships though. Far from it.
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Not that I'm very much attracted to the opposite sex, but any inkling of bigotry and right-wing ****wittery, then I want nothing to do with them. So basically most people.
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If a group of people have a preference for something (height for instance) it doesn't exactly translate into an active dislike for those who don't have that preferred quality. People tend to view others as a whole - a conglomeration of qualities and characteristics - rather than a limited set of characteristics. |
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I'll get my coat |
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I just mean to say that nobody should rule out having a relationship just because they're short, which I see quite a lot. |
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^ Just to add - I'm 5'1" and my other half is about 5'4" I think. I like his height.
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My brother has had loads of girlfriends, was married, got two kids, women love him. He's 5'9" and gets pissed off because I'm 6'....
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I don't much like beards, tattoos or piercings but if I clicked with someone with any of these I know that these so called 'turn offs' would very quickly become irrelevant.
As for short guys being at a disadvantage in attracting a mate merely because of their height, well, I find that very difficult to believe. My husband is the same height as me at 5"4 and to me he is the most attractive man in the world because he is comfortable in his own skin. He has never found it difficult to attract females, in fact most women found his short stature 'cute'. Guys that say they aren't able to meet someone purely because of their height are definitely deluding themselves and it is far more likely other issues such as poor self esteem that is the main barrier to meeting a partner. |
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I just want to apologise for this, I was pretty drunk at the time of writing on Friday/early saturday and reading what I've written is quite embarrassing. On seeing that I'm thinking is that really me!?
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I'd pay for sex with a babestation wench.
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