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View Poll Results: When did your problems start?
0-5 19 26.76%
6-10 12 16.90%
11-15 29 40.85%
16-20 7 9.86%
21-25 3 4.23%
26-30 0 0%
31-35 1 1.41%
36-40 0 0%
40+ 0 0%
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Old 4th March 2017, 22:43
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I would say there were first definite signs of my being different than my peers around the age of 8 . It may have been earlier though because my memories before the age of 8 are extremely hazy. What would come under the heading of overt psychiatric problems started just before I was 14 though I didn't see a pdoc till just before I was 17.
The psych problems I believe were due to negative peer reactions to being different than my peers.
As far back as I can remember I have been a little or more socially out of sync and had difficulty interacting with others.
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Old 4th March 2017, 23:06
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Well couple of guys who were up to no good. They started making trouble in my neighborhood. I got in one little fight and my mum got scared
She said, "You're movin' with your auntie and uncle in hell care.
From there really.
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Old 4th March 2017, 23:07
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I started having what I now know were mental health problems when I was 8 or 9. SA kicked in when I was about 12 and got progressively worse from then. I was 'diagnosed' with social phobia when I was 13.
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Old 4th March 2017, 23:09
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Always had appalling social interaction skills,
Anxiety and depression kicked in when I was a teenager, but have had periods of relative normality in between.
Borderline personality disorder was mentioned when I was about 22 along with OCD

So yeah, I have been pretty much condemned to be miserable from the start
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Old 4th March 2017, 23:16
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I voted 6-10.
SA at that time, had no meaning really, gp's never told me about any that stuff, I just thought everyone got nervous.
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Old 5th March 2017, 01:02
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Default Re: When did your problems start?

I voted 6-10. However it could have been earlier. My mother frequently described me as an awkward baby,toddler,child,teenager etc.
I have lost count of the number of times I was told how difficult I was to get off to sleep as a baby.
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Old 5th March 2017, 09:09
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I was around 14/15 I think. I was always quite shy and quiet before then but wouldn't have classed myself as having SA. It got progressively worse until my early twenties, when I went to Uni.
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Old 5th March 2017, 16:36
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Mine started when I went to High School at 14. I had always been shy, but the move to a school of over 1,200 kids just sent it through the roof. And because of that I was bullied mercilessly for the whole of that time.
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Old 5th March 2017, 18:48
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Tbh I cant remember a time when I didnt feel different, on the outside and anxious. Most of my earliest memories are of being anxious haha
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Old 6th March 2017, 22:30
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Well I was always different from my earliest memories, I don't think it mattered much in primary school, more in my teens when other kids were forming their sense of identity, socialising, going to youth clubs, then pubs and clubs. I managed to miss out on all that because of SA, though I wasn't desperately unhappy about it at the time. I just had a vague feeling that I might be missing out on something It was just a relief that I was successfully avoiding one thing after another, start of a lifetimes pattern really.
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Old 6th March 2017, 22:36
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Quote:
Originally Posted by E.J.Thribb
I don't recall a time without what I now recognise as anxiety. Just variations in the severity.
Same really
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Old 9th March 2017, 10:09
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I dont know but my mum said when I was a young boy I wouldnt play at the park if anyone else was there
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Old 9th March 2017, 11:37
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My SA became a major problem for me around the age of 25. I'd had difficulties with shyness and interaction since I was 18. I can remember being on meds at that age. I had difficulties at primary school with the head teacher who was a bully - I remember being visited by a psychiatrist when I was 8 years old for (according to my teacher) difficult, disruptive behaviour which was definitely not the case!
My relationship with my father was particularly volatile - he was verbally, mentally and physically abusive which makes me extremely anxious/nervous in male company.
The relationships I went into weren't good either - one disaster after another with most being violent and promiscuous. I was disowned when I was 15 after my parents discovered my sexuality and I have spent my teenage and adult life without my siblings, nieces and nephews - I know it was a culmination of these that has brought me to where I am today.
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Old 19th March 2017, 20:19
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Default Re: When did your problems start?

I would say 0-5 was mine, i've always been a shy person from a young age and mostly had SA all my life... its not as bad as when i was younger though but have bouts of it from time to time, and sometimes i can cope alot better now and try to deal with it head on...
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Old 24th March 2017, 09:05
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Huh that's interesting, I'm in the current majority in choosing 11-15.

I always felt like life got less carefree and more socially complex at puberty and I guess a lot of people who could go either way at that point had similar experiences and picked the same category.
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Old 26th March 2017, 21:05
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Probably around 13-14, I'd say. I'd always been shy, but when I was younger I had an energy and passion about me. So although I wasn't the best talker in the world, at that age being able to run about, act stupid for laughs, jump off things, and draw silly cartoons helped any short comings and helped me make friends somewhat. But when it came time to grow up a bit, and everybody stopped playing with toys and got more into drinking and going to parties and, from my perspective, chatting up girls, I got lost in the shuffle. Didn't help that I didn't have any older brothers or sisters or nearby cousins to help me - I was the oldest in my closest family, so I kind of had no-one to ask for advice really.

Also around this time I seemed to lose all energy and passion for things. I guess I went a bit depressive. How much of that was actual depression and how much of it was general teenager moodiness I don't know, but I became really insular around this time. I also became a lot worse at school. I went from being a decent student, to one that regularly ditched classes and never did any work. I wasn't an attempt to rebel in a posturing way or or anything - I'd always feel bad and apologise when I got told off for it - but I just couldn't face going in sometimes, and I had no motivation, so I didn't try even when I was there. If I could get away with doing the bare minimum, that's what I'd do.

Finally, around this time as well is when I started to hate my self image. Up that point I hadn't even cared what I looked like, but almost overnight I suddenly started looking at my face differently, and didn't like what I saw. I think the pressure of having to suddenly start think of myself as attractive to impress girls immediately opened a whole world of fears I'd never even considered up to that point. Didn't help I got loads of acne round this time too!

So yeah, this all happened around the age of 13-14. To be fair, I got better around my late teens/early 20s for a bit, but around the mid 20s is when it kicked in again, almost like a second wave, which has been more difficult to shift. even to this day.
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Old 26th March 2017, 22:04
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Default Re: When did your problems start?

Everything went downhill after my first period.
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