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Old 20th February 2020, 00:04
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I dunno I remember Sam Fox & Mick Fleetwood presenting (80s sometime),I think torture set in quite early with that I did put it on and have no clue who some of the people were though,which would be seen as an `old` thing by anyone `young` I assume. Ah,sod 'em
Oh yeah, I forgot about some of the awful old days of the Brits.

I don't mind some of the music but some of it is very samey and some of it is a bit.... of the times - self absorbed? a kind of reflection of the social media culture we live in. Not sure really what I mean to be honest, I can't quite put my finger on it but I just find some of it a bit annoying. I truly am turning into an old fart!
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Old 24th February 2020, 17:28
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You start to feel afraid of the future. And you start to worry about being old. I have never been happy, but I never really thought about, or worried about, the future either. Now I do. My neighbour cleans for old people, and she has told me horror stories of how some of them live. One 86-year-old, totally alone in a bungalow, had had diahorrea. When my neighbour arrived, it was everywhere, and this old woman had had to live with the smell for three days, with no one to clean her up or help. That’s the reality of growing old without children to care for you. I have also heard horror stories about what some carers can be like (though I’m sure many are lovely and kind). My neighbour stopped taking chocolate and other treats for her mum because the cleaners and carers would steal it.
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Old 24th February 2020, 19:30
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yep, Jimmy. did she have kids, or just none nearby

when you start saying "yeah I saw him on TV xx years ago" or "yeah I remember that happening xx years ago" when xx is more than 10. or a number.

"yeah I saw Gordon Ramsey on TV 10 years ago on HIGNFY (have I got news), he didn't swear then"

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Old 24th February 2020, 21:45
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That’s the reality of growing old without children to care for you.
Unfortunately this can be a reality for the elderly who do have children. My grandad had a similar experience and was living on his own until the age of 94. He has two children, my uncle lives miles away and rarely sees him and my mum tried to visit every two to three days whilst holding down a job. She'd come round to visit and clean him up after accidents, his carers would too.

The reality is, even if you do have children, there's no guarantee you will be cared for by them into your old age.

My grandad is in a care home now in the dementia wing. He had too many falls and was no longer mobile enough to live independently.
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Old 25th February 2020, 00:39
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The reality is, even if you do have children, there's no guarantee you will be cared for by them into your old age.
Sadly this is very true. It's not always that children of elderly relatives don't care, it can often be that they live far away, or have quite serious health issues of their own. The 'children' of 90 year olds are often 60 plus themselves. Tragically, some children don't even outlive their parents. And if an older parent has severe dementia it can get to the point where it isn't safe for them to remain in the family home.

As has been said here before, having children certainly isn't a guarantee of escaping a rather miserable and lonely old age.

Sorry to be so depressing
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Old 25th February 2020, 08:34
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^ Absolutely. My mum is 65. She did everything she could to care for my grandad, as he refused to live anywhere but on his own. She couldn't keep him safe though as she couldn't physically be there 24/7.
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Old 25th February 2020, 16:02
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Yep, my Nan lived until she was 86 and wanted to stay in her own home, so she had carers coming in twice a day to help her wash and dress etc and meals on wheels in the middle of the day....then at the weekends my Mum and my Uncle would take turns to stay over and do some housework and laundry for her, and also sort out any problems or issues with carers as they came up. It's a huge responsibility and for people who live a long way away from their parent or are an only child it just might not be possible. Then there's the people who simply have very difficult relationships with their parents!
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Old 25th February 2020, 17:45
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I moved from London to help look after my dad (who was housebound but tried to stay as independent as possible) for his last ten years - but not everyone can do that. I wasn't alone, he had district nurses too and a helpful neighbour, I still managed to work and live separately.

As aoon as I'm immobile, someone please take me out and shoot me (I reckon that'll be at least 25 years though)

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Old 25th February 2020, 17:46
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Actually, if immobile before I'm 81, I'll hang on to see what happens if I post here - then shoot me!

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When you start watching sitcoms from when you were young on 'Gold' and they are square shaped, so they don't even fit the tv 📺
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^ The sitcoms from my youth were in black and white, never mind 4:3!

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