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Avoidant
I'm "avoidant" or I've been labelled as such.
As I'm avoidant I decided I've given too much info I would like to find some like minded people ... I was here a bit years ago... I'm just saying hi, hopefully I'll open up a bit more soon Blue bear |
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Re: Avoidant
Welcome
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Re: Avoidant
I meet every criterion for Avoidant Personality Disorder. I think that is my disorder, rather than Social Anxiety.
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I still don’t like giving too much info.
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Re: Avoidant
It’s rough Thanks for replying, biscuits.
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Re: Avoidant
Yes, my SA has morphed into something more like an avoidant personalty disorder, my particular reasons for it are varied. I was always like this to a certain extend. This is a symptom of many disorders, but I'm hoping my treatment helps me see things a bit more positively.
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Re: Avoidant
Thanks Utopia, let me know how the treatment goes
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Re: Avoidant
I will go back to my cave...
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Re: Avoidant
I have never been officially diagnosed, but I'm sure I have an avoidant personality disorder. The SA label never satisfied me. I always knew there was more going on. Now, I'd describe myself as having a shame-based avoidant personality disorder. Apparently, it often includes paranoia (tick) and co-dependency (tick).
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Re: Avoidant
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Re: Avoidant
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Shame plays big part in this for me. I feel intense shame at my life and my past, so I avoid intimacy. But avoiding makes me ashamed, which increases the avoidance, and so on. Plus, of course, the more you avoid the worse the social anxiety gets. |
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Re: Avoidant
Avoiding intimacy because of shame.. some schools of therapy think that a person needs to tell their therapist all their thoughts and feelings for the therapy to be effective... I have had “toxic shame” since childhood, which I wasn’t fully aware of. No wonder the therapy didn’t proceed as quickly as the inexperienced therapist had wanted. I wasn’t really able to engage in the “intimate” and yet distant relationship he wanted. So he became frustrated and took that frustration and anger out on me. The level of his negativity towards me was so severe that I do think he was a Narcissist. He tired of the supply I was giving him and turned into a “bad parent” in the therapy. This isn’t a “phantasy” of mine, I remember the many negative things he said (and did) clearly
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Re: Avoidant
Yeah, I haven't personally been diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder, but I have something similar to it. I don't think I would neatly fit into any particular one, I just have a collection of symptoms and avoidant is one of them, although in my case I do it because I haven't really had relationships that haven't ultimately ended in pain, so I do it to mostly insulate myself from this. I just expect people to judge me negatively. I'm really negative and critical of myself and others, but I wouldn't say it's low self esteem in my case -- I don't really care if people are critical of me -- but it can put me off them as people. I can never seem to please people anyway, so I just stopped caring. Whatever it is, it isn't normal or healthy, but I'm quite introverted anyway so I feel less motivated to mix with others that much.
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