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Why do people get married?
Does anyone know?
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#2
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Re: Why do people get married?
For most people I think it's to make a long term commitment to their partner, but some people do just seem to want a big party.
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#3
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Re: Why do people get married?
I guess marriage is not for everyone but I'd recommend it, Waine.
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#4
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Re: Why do people get married?
There's really no reason to get married unless you want to.
People get married for lots of different reasons, hopefully one of the reasons is love, but not always. Some get married for practical; financial or religious reasons, where love takes a back seat, if it exists at all. Personally I got married to ease my broken heart (I married the father of my dead son), I think I did love him but it was more to seal the bond we shared over the death of our child, looking back I know it was a huge mistake. Needless to say we are divorced now and haven't spoken for many years. So marriages end too for lots of different reasons. I would marry my current partner, if he ever asked me, which I dont think he will. It does bother me a little bit as I quite like the idea of being his wife rather than girlfriend/partner, but we have no actual reason to get married other than it being a romantic gesture and an excuse for a good old shindig! |
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I feel marriage is rather outdated. The only reason I would get married is for legal benefits etc.
That doesn't mean I'm unromantic. I'd still be fairly romantic in a relationship I think (I've yet to find out if that's true though) |
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Re: Why do people get married?
Cake?
I dunno, I'm not convinced a piece of paper really makes the slightest bit of difference I too would also find the whole..standing at the front, having to speak out loud with people watching me an absolute nightmare, however this would be outweighed by the fact I don't actually have a single person to invite besides my parents... The concept of being with someone for good doesn't exactly bother me, it even sounds quite nice..I'm just not convinced that person exists! |
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Re: Why do people get married?
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When I got married in 1987 it was just what people did if they wanted a family. I didn't really want a wedding with everyone looking at me but just had to get through it, it was more for my mum I think and I couldn't really deny her planning her only surviving child's wedding even though I hated every minute of it. The divorce was much easier |
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I guess there's a few main reasons for choosing to get married: love, religion, practical or financial benefits, emotional security or just because it's the done thing. I do wish people would be more respectful of the fact that not everyone wants, or feels the need, to get married. I know people in long-term relationships that are often asked when they're going to make an "honest woman" out of their girlfriend, and it must get annoying for them! |
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As someone who remains dateless at the age of 31 (32 in April) and certainly not through choice, it's rather academic for me to answer this really, but I'll give it my best shot***8230;!
I have no problem with marriage. I actually support it in principle but it***8217;s becoming something I'd rather not do. Firstly, you have the expense of getting married. I know one of my cousins spent well over £20k on his back in 2009. All for getting a bit of positive attention and having a signed piece of paper to say you're married. With or without that piece of paper, you should still love your partner in the same way***8230; I know there are cheaper options available (his was at a very decent hotel with all the facilities on site) but it's still an unnecessary expense. I feel too much is now as stake if it all goes wrong ***8211; which unfortunately is an increasing trend. Especially where children are involved. As things stand, I'd rather have a mutual romantic relationship without marriage ***8211; but that really is just my humble opinion. You still have all those good times together without the expense or the legal wrangles. Again, I have absolutely no issue with married people (heck, my parents have been married for almost 42 years) or people getting married. It's their own choice and sometimes the old fashioned way is what I prefer. I do have quite an old fashioned mindset. However, it's not something I'd recommend these days ***8211; certainly not until we see a fair 50/50 split in assets when it comes to the potential divorce. Things aren't so simple any more... |
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Re: Why do people get married?
Son no 2 had 2 kids then got married spending a fortune. They are still saving for their own house and live with his mother in law.
Daughter and her boyfriend saved up the deposit then bought a house. They may get married one day but it will be a small cheap wedding. I think they have the right idea tbh, why "waste" all that money when it can be used as a house deposit? |
#13
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I was supposed to marry my sons mother, but I called it off, she still hasn't forgiven me, and it was nearly 5 years ago now, it's like Jesus woman, get over it.
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Re: Why do people get married?
Because they want to be with each other and make a big gesture to prove it to everyone.
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Re: Why do people get married?
Little point in marrying if you aint going to have kids at some point.
But the other main reason would be legal: "Most people wrongly believe that unmarried couples who had lived together for some time had a common law marriage, giving them the same rights as married couples. However, common law marriage does not exist in UK law and some cohabiting partners discover too late that they have no right to arrange their own partner***8217;s funeral, own the ashes or inherit from the deceased***8217;s estate, if there is no legal arrangement in place." So if not married then your partner has to write a will so you can inherit, maybe carry a next of kin card for the NHS incase of an accident. Name you as the person who will arrange any funeral. Otherwise if your partners family dont like you they could dispute your status. If you going to do all that you might as well make it official at the registry office. Also your spouse will inherit your estate tax free, but a non married partner will have to pay tax on it if its worth more than £325K, which with house prices being so high it could be. |
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Re: Why do people get married?
I keep getting married because I love the air freshener they use in the local registry office,
just can't get enough of it, I mean like, once I'm married I just can't wait to get divorced and then get married again so I can get a whiff of that fragrance,.. it really is that good. I even tried getting a job there but they said I wasn't suitable, but then I suppose I did spend most of the interview sniffing the air like a prairie hound in heat,.. I really wish they could change the fragrance to something horrible, because all these divorces are costing me a fortune. on the plus side, I do get more Christmas cards now, mainly from lawyers right enough, rather than ex's, and I have had a few decent honeymoons. |
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I've been married for almost ten years now and i still haven't figured out why.
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#18
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Re: Why do people get married?
Cause slavery is outlawed lol
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