Why do you not feel like socialising when you feel down?

[hollowone]

How come, that after being cooped-in, it's now BECOMING difficult to reach out, contact and messages people than it was before. How-come I feel less inclined?

Why is there this vicious circle where the more isolated you are, the less motivated you feel?

Is desire to socialise affected by hormones, could seasonal affective disorder be something to do with it? The question is, how do I get it back; my desire to socialise, to meet new people to push my comfort zone? It's like the 'comfort zone' is closing in around me and restricting me.

Why does your body do this when you get down? Why does it think that disabling you by draining your motivation is good for you? It seems so ****ing dumb. I wish I could smash it up with a big hammer. It's so frustrating.

[Clayman]

Why don't you want to reach out? What are the thoughts going through your head when you think about doint that?

[Silver]

Take small steps. Write yourself a task list and maybe set yourself a time limit to complete something. Thats the best thing you can do. I find if I can force myself to do one thing, often I feel better and find the motivation to do more. Its like the more you do, the more motivated you feel.

[Mr. Nobody]

I think you just get comfortable in your own personal space if not much has been happening,.
any change is felt to be a nuisance or annoyance because it's maybe seen as upsetting the status quo,.
it can be worse when the weather changes and it gets darker,. going out into the dark, the rain, the cold - can be seen as a disturbance to your cosy refuge,.

if you're on the go a lot and getting out a lot it becomes something of a habit, and then staying put indoors could feel wrong, or could feel suffocating,
but if it's been kind of long-term indoors then going out is a struggle because it's going to be perceived as a disturbance to your relative calm, peace, and assurance.

most of the time though,. once you're out there doing stuff you do feel better and it's nowhere near as disturbing as you may have imagined it'd be from the peace and comfort of your own space.
maybe the thing is to try and reinforce that knowledge whenever you come across it,. - that getting out and doing stuff is usually harmless and makes you feel happier and more alive.?

[hollowone]

Sorry, was a bit pissed-off when putting out the OP. What I meant to ask is; why do you feel so much more introverted in winter or when down? Why do you also feel less inclined to socialise?

[anxiouslondoner]

Probably because I feel less inclined to do anything at all when I'm feeling down, especially not something my brain is screaming at me not to do because of the apparent danger. When you are down you exaggerate the negative outcomes of things and downplay the positives, so if I think about going out my brain says "You'll act like a complete failure, everyone will laugh at you and think badly of you, you'll feel embarrassed and small and want to die!" and not "You'll chat with people and laugh and be witty and attractive and amazing!"