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Old 27th January 2016, 23:55
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I'm really struggling with BDD issues today. I'm fixated on my eyes being puffy in the mornings. I've spent pretty much all day staring in the mirror and tearing myself apart.
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Old 28th January 2016, 00:36
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^ You know what would help? Not having a mirror. I don't
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Old 28th January 2016, 00:49
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^ OR just buy the crappiest mirror you can find. I have one from Poundland and I swear, it makes me look like I've been airbrushed. Lol
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Old 28th January 2016, 01:28
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Mirror, mirror, on the wall...
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Old 29th January 2016, 01:48
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^ OR just buy the crappiest mirror you can find. I have one from Poundland and I swear, it makes me look like I've been airbrushed. Lol
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Or, never wash your mirror and apply your makeup in the dark.

I'm ****ing gorgeous.
Yay for foggy mirrors and dark rooms! Poundland here I come!
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Old 29th January 2016, 02:06
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^^
Steer clear from Elizabeth Arden mirrors, folks....they'll make you sit there for hours picking at your skin.
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I thought they used slimming mirrors in changing rooms?

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Old 1st February 2016, 14:32
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^ I travel for 2 hours back to my hometown to go to the same barbers I have used for a decade. They have a TV on the wall that I watch the entire time
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Old 2nd February 2016, 00:50
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My face is making me think I'm unpassable again lately. ><
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Old 2nd February 2016, 08:53
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Yay for foggy mirrors and dark rooms! Poundland here I come!
Dimples you're lovely please stop looking in the mirror esp if it upsets you x
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Old 2nd February 2016, 09:43
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I seem to get obsessed about skin colouration. Mine seems to change so quickly. One moment I'm pale, then I'm red, then pale again. I think its a feeling like I've no control.

Concept, wouldn't agree with that statement at all.
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Old 7th February 2016, 20:28
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I feel like scratching my face off lately.

I remember my Nan used to tell me that she caught my cousin trying to scratch his freckles off. I know how he felt. I cannot stand my freckles.
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Old 7th February 2016, 20:59
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I don't think that the secret is to learn to love your appearance. I think it's more about being a peace with the person that you are, so that you realise that your outer shell doesn't really matter. You have to learn what it is that you have to offer as a human being, which is ultimately more important than what we look like.

I went a couple of years with not thinking about my appearance at all (being okay with it) and thought I was cured. It's only recently where I seem to have gone back to hating my appearance and obsessing about aspects of it and blaming it for certain things.

I'm not sure if there is a treatment for it, it might be that they were trying to use a treatment for eating disorders with you, which is a totally different distortion of appearance.
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Old 7th February 2016, 21:04
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^^ If you stumble across anything come back and let us know.

I don't even care about SA anymore, it's the BDD which is isolating me/ruining a chance at life.
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Old 7th February 2016, 23:52
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Dr David Veale

Not sure if private only
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Old 8th February 2016, 20:30
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This page has some useful info on getting help.

http://bddfoundation.org/helping-you...elp-in-the-uk/
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Old 8th February 2016, 22:17
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^^ Is he who you went to, Legion?

Looks like an interesting resource, out of my price range personally, although - the CBT/intense exposure therapy thing offered on his site wouldn't be the kind of thing which would meaningfully impact my BDD anyway.

Exposure therapy only works on some types. I think it mght be very useful for people who have extreme agoraphobia due to BDD or who can't leave the house without a full-face of makeup, stuff like that.

The only kind of exposure therapy which could benefit me would be of the relationship kind, which is obviously not possible..
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Old 8th February 2016, 22:26
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No, I thought I would try to tackle SA /depression first via NHS. Didn't work, fml.
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Old 8th February 2016, 22:29
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^ Ah, yes, I see.
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Old 8th February 2016, 22:31
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I suppose I didn't want to overwhelm the counsellor with a multitude of different problems. She probably had enough to sink her teeth into, given that during the second session I told her I wanted to be lobotomised.
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Old 9th February 2016, 18:21
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From what I learnt, high doses of SSRI's have been shown to have a beneficial effect. Also, specialised CBT. Patients reported significant decrease of symptoms and thought far less about their appearance. Look up BDD foundation on YouTube. There are some cutting edge lectures regarding it.
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Old 1st March 2016, 22:45
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I can barely look at myself at the moment. I had a little cry last night. I can cope with things that life throws at me, things that can be dealt with and that have possible solutions, however hard they may be.

But my face... I can't do anything about that. At the moment I feel truly hideous.
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Old 4th March 2016, 09:20
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It acts like a virus. You get over one thing and then it migrates to another part of your body.
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Old 14th March 2016, 01:45
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The bullying from your school years as messed you up and you can't see that you're no longer a spotty teenager, and have developed into a good looking bloke.

And I'm sure you don't look miserable and grumpy when you're talking to someone and they make you laugh.
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Old 15th March 2016, 01:01
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It sounds like you had a really terrible counsellor last time. What Cairn says is true, but I know it doesn't help being told that.
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Old 16th March 2016, 01:51
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I think I may have traits of this, but it's hard to tell what is vanity and the modern preoccupation with appearance and what is an actual disorder.

The moments it seems to border onto a disorder is when I feel compelled to keep looking closer and closer at my skin, searching imperfections and the general, rather sad belief that people are worth only how they look.

Sometimes I spend all day grooming but I am mostly in control of the actions.
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Old 18th March 2016, 14:45
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I feel like I look terrible most of the time -- used to spend nights crying about how unattractive I was. I do get compliments though, but I have an inability to truly believe them myself? I've somehow processed it as "well, alright you (complimenter) think so, but that doesn't make it true ". And there are times where I do get over it, but I transfer insecurities about other things onto my looks because they are the most convenient thing to attack. Sadly it's preferable to think I'm ugly 'on the outside' than 'on the inside' which is my real fear. So if I'm feeling particularly stupid that day (not difficult), I'll feel ugly as well.

I had a terrible counsellor back home in Singapore. I went and told her I felt ugly, and she said (I kid you not) 'what, are you crazy?' my response was, of course, 'if I felt so sane, do you think I'd be talking to you right now?' and she was like 'O, that's such an english major response' (...............)
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Old 10th April 2016, 12:01
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I've been noticing more and more how my perception of my body goes absolutely insane whenever I'm outside or around people. I'll feel like my feet are sticking a metre out in front of me, that I'm bordering on looking like a hunchback if I slouch at all, my clothes are all lopsided and hanging awkwardly on me, I'm abnormally short in comparison to everyone else, I have a face like something from a fancy dress shop. My self-perception seems to turn into a funhouse mirror, and I'm constantly paranoid that that's how others are seeing me too.

If I'm alone and look in the mirror, I recognise I'm no oil painting to say the least, but I don't think I look quite so freakish and inhuman. My body seems more unremarkable, my clothes look fairly normal. But outside, where there are people... urgh. And somehow, even if I've just taken a bath, I'll feel dirty, and I'll believe other people think I'm dirty too. 'Dirty' how, exactly? I don't even know. Just dirty.
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Old 10th April 2016, 12:22
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I often walk around and couldn't even tell you what someone is wearing. Most people walk around in their own little world detracted by their phone, things they have to do, their own worries.

Occasionally I might notice if someone had funky trousers on or was wearing a top I liked but you sound pretty normal to me and I'm most people do not take any notice
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Old 10th April 2016, 15:41
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^ I am the same. If I do ever look at someone I don't know for longer than what is deemed a normal amount, it is because I've noticed something that I particularly like. Without actually saying it out loud though it's probably assumed negatively which is a sad thought.

From what I've read about BDD though, mainly on this site, no amount of positive encouragement from other people really helps, it's an inner belief about yourself which cannot so easily be shifted. I can't begin to imagine how it feels to be honest.
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Old 11th April 2016, 23:43
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I got told that I'm 'getting fat' today. I feel especially down about my appearance lately. It's comforting to know that most people won't vocalise their negative opinions about my appearance and when people actually do, it makes me think that what I think must be true.

I hate having these horrible thoughts about my appearance all the time. I'm not sure what to do about it.
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