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Old 8th January 2016, 02:32
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Chanced upon this article and found myself agreeing with a lot. In particular a preference for one or two drinks in a quiet pub and no interest in going anywhere that involves too much standing up or queueing! I was watching thousands celebrating Hogmanay in Edinburgh and could only think "nice fireworks, but I'd hate to need the loo and have to use one of those Portaloos". I guess it's only a matter of time before elasticated trouser waistbands seem practical and sensible to me as well, there's no hope for me


http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/wom...year-olds.html
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Old 8th January 2016, 07:45
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Hahaah yep, 41 in March and can related to everything on that list!
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Old 8th January 2016, 10:12
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A friend said it best when he hit double-top; he said "it's great, people already expect less of me!"
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Old 8th January 2016, 14:48
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^ Ah yes nail on head
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Old 10th January 2016, 05:59
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Jeez I think of those and I'm 31 lol old before my time
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Old 10th January 2016, 08:22
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I'm not 40 yet (37) I dread it

The statement though:
"I'm vastly more tolerant and nice, but because I can simply no longer be arsed."
is so me!
Once upon a time I'd happily argue the day away. Now I'm like 'nah'. It's why for the most part I don't post, or even read at times, much in the basement other than fun threads.
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Old 13th January 2016, 13:18
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It's the same in your fifties, except you ache more.
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Old 16th May 2017, 20:14
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Has anyone started a new hobby after 40 (or 35) which gave them a lot of enjoyment? I keep thinking I should join a book group, but have never got round to it. I wish I had the chance to meet more people approximately my age (I'm 47) but it seems like lots of them are couple up or having children so we have little in common.
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Old 16th May 2017, 21:07
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Walking / rambling groups could be a way to go?
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Old 17th May 2017, 05:57
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Walking/ rambling I am pretty sure would attract the right demographic, I don't feel attracted to hillwalking but maybe a health walking group that walks round parks might be good for me.
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Old 20th May 2017, 12:42
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Hot flushes, having to get up in the middle of the night to go for a wee and also, 'I sneeze, there goes my sensitive bladder'.

Oh joy.
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Old 22nd May 2017, 01:05
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maybe too much caffeine before bedtime?
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Old 26th May 2017, 19:49
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Lots of people don't have coffees or colas after 6 pm as I think it takes six hours for caffeine to go from your system, but I confess sometimes it's like 8 pm or 9 pm and I just really want a Diet Coke, tap water just doesn't appeal instead. Burning the candle at both ends or what, YOLO!
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Old 26th May 2017, 21:03
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I'm actually quite worried about those thoughts taking over me when I hit forty, too. Milestone birthdays feel so much more significant and it's hard not to look back on your life to date and judge yourself.
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Old 26th May 2017, 22:47
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^ Yep. People will say that 40 is just a number and that it doesn't really mean anything, which is true of course, but everyone needs some way of marking time, and birthdays are the conventional way to do it. I didn't celebrate my 30th, or any of my birthdays since I was about 21, and now I have let my last big milestone go past without celebrating that either. I've gone through my whole life telling myself that things don't mean anything, and so unsurprisingly my life has amounted to nothing, and I've been left with nothing.

I hope you will be in a good place when you have your 40th birthday, but if you're not I think it is a good idea to be making positive plans for the future instead of looking backwards.
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Old 27th May 2017, 02:15
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I don't really relate to that article at all - if anything, I've been more active over the past couple of years than at almost any time in my life (I admit that I'm attending less festivals - Sunday's will be only my third so far this year - but that's down to cost rather than not being able to stand in a field or camp for the weekend) and I've started travelling, walking and cycling again, in addition to everything I do with meetup.

I've relished - but not celebrated (as I've had nobody with whom to celebrate) all those landmark birthdays, although the next one (60) will probably make me begin to feel older; having read that article though makes me concerned that my fiancée, who will be forty in a little under three years, may want to stop leading the active lifestyle we enjoy so much together.
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Old 27th May 2017, 12:23
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Well, I'm now 14 years older than 40 and can relate to some of the article posted in the OP though not all.

Gigs have to be seated and close to home? Nah, I've just done a 360 mile round trip to see a still obscure band. I stood right at the front and loved every minute of it.

Aches and pains? Ah yes, I have them. Age, as well as old sporting and work injuries see to that.

Fewer but better friends? Definitely! Quality over quantity any day for me.

Irrational crushes? Nope.

Death becomes a preoccupation? Well, I was preoccupied with that even as a teenager. These days the death of those I love is on my mind daily. I make memories every day and try to make sure I have no later regrets by making sure I do right by people now.

Can say sorry? Yes, but I always could and often had to.
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Old 27th May 2017, 13:26
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I've found I like sitting down a lot more. Biscuits are nicer too.
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Old 27th September 2017, 13:22
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I have three more years to go before reaching the age of 40 and reading that article,some of it makes sense,although I am becoming more outgoing as I get older and accepting more challenges than I would've done before. i think i'm now seeing what could be possible and having more courage to go for things.
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Old 27th September 2017, 23:35
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It's not true life begins at forty, mine went down hill and that's no lie.
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Old 28th September 2017, 02:47
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My big toe really hurts. That's the only difference so far but it's still early.
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Old 28th September 2017, 03:57
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^John, I've started doing things in my 50s; I didn't miss out on relationships, but I had no social life, no friends, didn't go on holiday - that all began for me at 53. You've never missed your chance, there are new chances every day.
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Old 28th September 2017, 04:27
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^^ That's amazing how things have changed for you.
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Old 28th September 2017, 04:28
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^^Why would you think that? Often, when someone is socially anxious, they invest everything in the relationship to the exclusion of all else (not that I actually had a choice, because I was totally rejected socially); that's why all my relationships started on the internet.

Edit: thanks, Newbs.
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Old 28th September 2017, 04:30
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^ How did you meet people to start a relationship?
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Old 28th September 2017, 04:32
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^Internet dating (and personal ads before that, because I'm older than the internet)
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Old 28th September 2017, 04:36
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^Internet dating (and personal ads before that, because I'm older than the internet)
Like an ad in the paper
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Old 28th September 2017, 04:43
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^Well, they're very different. When you're socialising, you're not learning intimate secrets about each other and the attention isn't all on one person; with dating, there is an attraction which you don't have with friends.

As these relationships all started on the internet, there were messages exchanged before meeting in person, which removes a lot of the awkwardness.
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Old 28th September 2017, 18:41
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I'm actually quite worried about those thoughts taking over me when I hit forty, too. Milestone birthdays feel so much more significant and it's hard not to look back on your life to date and judge yourself.
No way are you 40! I thought you were early 30's at the latest. You don't look so old.
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Old 28th September 2017, 18:43
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My big toe really hurts. That's the only difference so far but it's still early.
Thats how it starts, by the end of the year you will be moaning about your feet every single day. Or that may just be me.

I am off to soak my feet.
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