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Old 19th October 2017, 11:07
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Anything you have picked up over the years that you would tell yourself when you were a teenager?
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Old 19th October 2017, 11:19
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Nice thread, can't wait to read what you guys come up with... as I think that at 14 I'm the youngest person on here! Sure you all have some fantastic advice!
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Old 19th October 2017, 11:38
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Don't be afraid of saying no, even if you think it might get you into trouble or labelled as a 'difficult teenager'.

People are always going to make judgements so just do what you want to anyway, you'll be happier that way.
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Old 19th October 2017, 11:44
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that's a good one, there's a quote that goes:
'those who matter don't mind, those who mind don't matter'. That's one quote I wish I had known when I was younger.
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Old 19th October 2017, 11:50
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Try to get a specific qualification which might allow you to work for yourself, or at least will give you your own place and expertise if you work in an organisation. This will limit the amount of hassle and stress you get at work. A lot of university and college courses are very enjoyable but don't provide anything very useful to you in the workplace, particularly if you have SA. You can always pursue your own interests in your spare time.

I wish someone had told me this.
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Old 19th October 2017, 12:50
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There's a few things that I'd tell my younger self because I know there were mistakes I made back in my teenage years.

I'd tell myself to try my best to put social/going out fears to the back of my mind and to go out more at the end of my teens with the few friends I had left. Basically make the effort I've done in recent years, as I suspect certain elements of my life which did lead onto depression for me in my twenties wouldn't have either have cropped up at all, or the effects would have been more limited. I'm reasonably convinced of that.

Be less trusting of certain friends (of which I won't mention names) as they were known to joke about me and spread rumours. This basically triggered a notable spike in my social anxiety.
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Old 19th October 2017, 14:33
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I'd tell my younger self don't avoid so much even if it's tremendously hard not to, your just making a rod for your own back. I avoided so much when I was younger - It doesn't do you any favours in the long run, it's just short term relief.
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Old 19th October 2017, 14:48
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The psychological prediction of an event does not equal what the real event might be.
So it could be a party - and your brain chips in 'it's going to be a nightmare', the reality is you don't know what it will be like. All you have is a psychological prediction which does not mean a lot.
Same for example, a meeting with the boss. The mind already ahead of you 'it's going to be bad', 'it's going to be scorning, he/she is going to be an ass', but reality is you don't actually know.
So yeah the doom of the psychological.
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Old 19th October 2017, 15:43
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Don’t be afraid or ashamed of screwing up in anything, it’s the best way to learn and develop. The younger you understand and act on this, the more grateful your older self will be!
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Old 19th October 2017, 21:21
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You should have decked that guy when you was 14 instead of just letting him hit you over and over..it started a turn of events during secondary school I really didn't need to go through.

and for the love of god, don't go to university..but if you must..pick 1 of the small handful of actually useful courses..coz your gonna get incredibly depressed with yourself when your 25/26 still struggling to find work

..you probably should have got another driving instructor when you was 17 and put up with it instead of having a few lessons, freaking out and then not revisiting it for 10 years because you end up in your 30's being absolutely useless at it

(these may not be particularly helpful for anyone else)
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Old 20th October 2017, 03:36
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Get money get hoes
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Old 20th October 2017, 07:35
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I would say, don't move out, just live with your parents, refuse to pay anything and save save save. By the time you are 35-40 you should have enough to buy a property and to support yourself during the period until your pension kicks in, so just enjoy the easy life

There are over 7 billion people in the world so don't waste too much life trying to resolve issues with partners, if things are not working and it's making you less happy, move on.
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Old 20th October 2017, 08:04
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Start saving as soon as you can.

Buy a property earlier because house prices will only go up.

As you age you will begin realise who your true friends are.

Stop over eating all the time because it never made you happy.

If people like you they will be there for you when you need them.

Get help for medicals problems because as you get older things seem to get worse.

You can't like, or be liked by everyone you might. Some people are just arseholes and would steal the sugar out of you tea if they could
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Old 20th October 2017, 10:58
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If I could give my younger self advice it would be to not have such an open heart, as people would take advantage of that and befriend you when they need you but forget you when they donít.

I would tell myself to stop caring about the opinions of others. To say no and stand by that decision if I didnít feel like going to a party or something. To stop forcing myself to drink alcohol because it made me so anxious the next day, without worrying about what people would think. Most of all I would tell myself to have fun! Enjoy what I could about life and to never rely on anyone else for my own happiness. That last one is the most important take from this. Be your own best friend.


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Old 20th October 2017, 16:37
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Get rich or die trying.
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Old 20th October 2017, 16:42
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Ditch the guilt, you aren't responsible, you don't owe anybody anything other than what they give to you in turn.

Make an effort with your appearance.
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Old 20th October 2017, 16:48
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Don't think about getting older faster.


I heard it happens with lots of people, including me. I want to get younger now.
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Old 20th October 2017, 17:49
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When I was at uni this guy seriously went out of his way to get to know me and I was so shy and it was my blushing days. He'd text my friends to ask where I'd be and if I was going to the pub. I used to avoid him because I didn't want the attention. It was overwhelming. He was from Essex (the accent is such a turn on for me) and really in your face, but he was also funny, kind and lovely. He'd volunteer with children who had special needs. I sometimes wonder what would have been if I wasn't too shy and avoidant to have given him a chance. I don't mean I pine for him or anything crazy like that! It was forever ago! And I really was too messed up and depressed back then.

So my advice would be...stop being a dick about everything.
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Old 20th October 2017, 19:59
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^ Maybe you could look him up on Facebook
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Old 20th October 2017, 23:05
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^ Nah! It was so long ago. I never really think about it, not sure why this thread made the memory come back. I didn't have feelings for him or anything like that!
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Old 21st October 2017, 01:24
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Act now. Tomorrow you may wake up and realise 20 years have gone by in the blink of an eye.
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Old 21st October 2017, 21:04
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It's true what they say, the older you get the faster time goes by. So don't put off things in your 20's & 30's that you want to do. Because by the time you get to 50 their just won't be the hours in the days to do them.

And why didn't I pursue my love of working in the theatre when I had the chance, instead of sticking with the safe and comfortable, because I was too scared to take the risk.
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Old 23rd October 2017, 11:31
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work hard
set realistic goals
do something you like and that you feel capable of
don't stop doing stuff because you feel bits of you are broken
stop trying to please other people, try and work out what pleases you
don't wallow
be interested in the world and look outside of yourself

I think I still need my own advice
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Old 23rd October 2017, 14:06
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This is what I would tell myself, looking back:
  • Join a gym or start doing press ups at home - being on OK shape makes a world of difference
  • Start working online/making money online sooner - the freedom of being your own boss cannot be overlooked
  • You can't know what other people are thinking (about you) so don't waste time trying to guess
  • Stick around instead of running away (to a new place) trying to find the right place
  • Don't get a credit card
  • Start saving 10%
  • Start reading books sooner!
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Old 24th October 2017, 22:26
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My main advice would be, as several others have already said, DO NOT GO TO UNIVERSITY unless you actually want to practice medicine or a very few occupations that really do insist on a degree. Even with medicine there are any number of ways of contributing to that field without a degree, unless you specifically want to be a doctor.
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Old 25th October 2017, 19:12
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I don't think anything I could say , now would have prepared me for getting bi polar disorder. It was inevitable as It runs in my genes. I don't care about the research that says it's the environment your brought up in.
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Old 25th October 2017, 21:23
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Don't take advice blindly. Be careful about who you look up to. Assume that everyone is likely to be wrong about everything.
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Old 29th October 2017, 18:32
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Real friends won't stab you in the back
Stop trying to be cool and just be you
You are not as lost as you think.
Complain Anonymously you moody ninkumpook
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Old 29th October 2017, 22:52
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one good advice is relax. There are quotes like:
'the mind makes things seem more serious than they are'.
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Old 6th November 2017, 19:32
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Mo34
I'd tell my younger self don't avoid so much even if it's tremendously hard not to, your just making a rod for your own back. I avoided so much when I was younger - It doesn't do you any favours in the long run, it's just short term relief.
This is just so true, If I had a time machine I would go back and give my younger self a slap for hiding away and avoiding so much.
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