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Do these positive affirmation things really help?

Posted 3rd June 2015 at 12:47 by indigo777

I have never particularly liked the obsession with positive affirmations as if they work for everybody and the almost insinuation that people who dont like them are just being negative or wallowing in self pity.

I read this the other day on a shyness blog;

[I][B]In fact, every scientific study recently done on affirmations has consistently shown that they don’t work, and can even make you feel worse![/B][/I]

[B][I]The researchers asked people with low self-esteem to say “I am a lovable person.” They then measured the participants’ moods and their feelings about themselves. The low-esteem group felt worse afterwards compared with others who did not. However, people with high self-esteem felt better after repeating the positive affirmation–but only slightly.[/I][/B]

Yes, thats definitely true for me as they always made me feel worse. Such as the classic one on forums of thinking of 3 good things that happened to you each day. I went through their entire lists of examples and found out I could not do even one as I was,am totally isolated and never speak to another human for weeks or do anything enjoyable for weeks so it made me even more depressed and felt worse.

Lots of online advice for anxiety has proved to be completely useless though.
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    Agreed- there's nothing more depressing than enforced 'positivity'- fungus the bogeyman all the way!
    Posted 3rd June 2015 at 20:29 by Belinda Belinda is offline
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    Feel the fear and learn to love yourself anyway!

    Yes, then there is almost an anger with such people as if you are just being deliberately negative. You can't just flick a switch and love yourself after years of feeling other people hate and dislike you.
    Posted 4th June 2015 at 12:52 by indigo777 indigo777 is offline
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    I agree, it's the worst feeling ever when people blame you for not being positive enough. I'm pretty suspicious of the concept of 'loving' yourself- what does it really mean anyway? I think learning to tolerate yourself is a more realistic goal.
    Posted 4th June 2015 at 20:48 by Belinda Belinda is offline
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    I always thought of people that loved themselves as being mentally ill or at least highly irritating anyway. I think that acceptance is much more preferable to loving yourself in finding inner peace.
    Posted 5th June 2015 at 22:42 by indigo777 indigo777 is offline

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