Originally Posted by mhealer3

many things you decribed from childhood i can identify with.

i'd say we have almost a 'post traumatic stress' type disorder, really.

(considering how bad childhood memories & old thought patterns still control us).

it's very important to resolve our fears from the past or they come back 'to haunt us'.
(the patterns we can't resolve can even repeat in our own behavior).
like how i failed in my marriage without our even realizing what

Originally Posted by mhealer3

i agree that positive 'self-talk' is important.
it does take time & effort to see results though, so be patient.

many of our problems come from childhood & involve lots of old hurt.
did someone in your family tell you that you were a loser or a failure?
become kind to yourself. nobody is better than you, but we are each unique.

if u don't like u, who will?

Originally Posted by mhealer3

i think we change if we feel drawn to something different,
or to be like someone we admire.

our bodies r always renewing itself with new cells,
so it would seem right to have a fresh mindset occasionally.

it's ok to let past things go, as long as there are some new things to enjoy.

i have to remind myself constantly to enjoy my life now,
because for decades all i did was struggle at work.

moderation was not in

Originally Posted by mhealer3

bad family dynamics or parents with mental problems/alcohol abuse??

i strongly believe problems get 'passed down' to us,
--whether knowingly or not.

only since i'm older have i been able to see the 'whole-life' patterns that
trace from unmet needs, & fears from childhood.

my own parents had terrible childhoods, so i guess
they were doing the best they could for me, but it was still terrible.

i think there was improvement

Originally Posted by mhealer3

thanks 4 that
i'm glad you spin it so that people don't feel condemned
for 'zoning-out' awhile.

it's a lovely way of saying that we needn't have guilt for halted routines.