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The Age of Loneliness

Posted 12th February 2016 at 17:23 by indigo777

I watched The Age of Loneliness tonight which had been on the BBC a couple of weeks ago. It was very sad and had me in tears a couple of times. I hate to see that kind of desperation and sadness. Many of the people were old and alone having lost a partner after many years together. However some were not and of course mental health and social anxiety are key ingredients of loneliness. In fact I canít really think of many conditions which keep a person lonely for the majority of their life other than social anxiety. Hardly anyone for instance goes a lifetime without even having a partner but many with anxiety do as I can testify. It makes you think that you are weird beyond belief and that you must be evil or bad in some way but of course that is complete crap as I have said before many of the nastiest and most morally repugnant people almost all still have relationships and friends, just bad ones like them. Itís hard to admit to this stuff due to the fear of ridicule and social stigma and I remember having to lie when I was at work as every weekend was spent at home doing nothing apart from watching TV just like every birthday and every New Years Eve. Now I sometimes go weeks without speaking to another human in real life apart from shop staff. Now even these can see the look of madness and pain on my face and almost squirm away from me while making small talk with the next customers with ease.

However the biggest problems with social anxiety compared to many types of loneliness is mainly when you do force yourself out and about and try to meet people through meet ups or clubs is that you come across so badly that people think you are mental, unfriendly or just downright weird. The slightest thing would then set my paranoia into overdrive and I would give up or hide away again. Success from continuously doing stuff does not happen unless you learn to adapt and improve and constant awkwardness and not knowing what to say or what to do just made the anxiety worse. I remember still being young and watching the other young people at work flirting and getting on so easily even the new starters after just a couple of days. I was so jealous and confused. I still am in many ways. It was like a nightmare seeing them and knowing that I could never be one of them despite the fact that I knew that some of them were not good people at all. Some people are lonely at the end of life after many good memories but not many are lonely for almost all their lives. And of course we now know that long period of loneliness increase anxiety, depression and other physical conditions and are likely to lead to an earlier death. Thatís why social anxiety is so serious. Then other people(even on here) try to mock you for simply not getting out more and trying harder like its all your won fault. F**King CLUELESS IDIOTS!
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