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4th November 2010, 07:14
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enjoying talking to people more
I am in a new charity shop now (still on forced work experience). And the manageress and volunteers are really nice. We have just got a new assistant mangaeress and she is really nice too. I like it better here. I have reached a level with social anxiety i never thought i would get to. I will try to explain it as best i can. Before starting there, i was worried that other people could tell i was anxious and see that i was anxious. So it was more about physical symptoms of anxiety. This is still with me. The only thing now is that i find it difficult knowing what to say/talk about with colleagues. When i am working i am normally concentrating on the job anyway and dont speak much. People there seem to have a good ability at being able to do their job and converse. However even at breaks, i dont really know what to say.
i have got to say, this is very much like what i am like at home in front of parents. I mean i dont say much around my family. The only thing i ever do seem to ask is whether they are ok. I would say i dont worry AS much about physical symptoms of anxiety around family as i do around work colleagues for some reason. |
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4th November 2010, 07:15
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Re: enjoying talking to people more
I mean to change further would mean changing what i am like at home and i am relaxed at home. I have noticed though that now i am for the first time EVER wanting to talk to talk to people and try to make friends.
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#3
8th November 2010, 00:45
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Re: enjoying talking to people more
I can completely relate to this....I too am most relaxed when around my family...and I don't feel I have to force myslef to talk. That said I'm not happy the way I am and I know there needs to be change because when u get out in the real world it's not like that. I mean it depends, if your family don't tend to socialise much then its likely you turn out that way as you've found out- the real test is deciding who you want to be, whether u want to change who u are. It could be perhaps u feel less anxious around family because you know that they love and accept you as you unconditionally and unwithholdingly but u feel more anxious because ur scared of possible rejection?
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#4
18th November 2010, 14:38
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Re: enjoying talking to people more
this is my main problem with SA so i can really relate and feel for you.
does your mind go completely blank where you're around these people or can you think of something to say but can't get it out due not wanting to look or sound stupid? mine is a mix of the both, usually my mind goes blank. the worst is when I'm around someone I'm attracted to, ugh. well done on the new place though, whatever happens you're taking the right steps and with time things will get easier! keep it up |
