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Gay and severe SA
Could severe SA and fear of intimate contact with the opposite sex lead you to think you are gay?
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Re: Gay and severe SA
I think youd' only think you were gay if you were attracted to the same sex.
Those things (sA and fear of intimate) made me thing I was Asexual and aromantic instead. i think i was simply repressing any feelings i had. However being in a relationship has made me realise that those things are probably not true abou tmyself. |
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Re: Gay and severe SA
I dont think so, being scared of the opposite sex but being attracted to them isnt the same as not wanting to be intimate and being attracted to same-sex, the two are very different imo.
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Re: Gay and severe SA
No.
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Not for me. I've never been attracted to men, so I've never wondered if I might be gay. But, have people assumed I was gay because of the way I've come across due to my anxiety? Oh yes!
I wonder too, if a person has extremly severe SA and is also fearful of intimacy, would they not be that way regardless of which sex they were attracted to? |
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Another thought. If the heterosexual person did have strong anxiety about the opposite sex generally, would they really feel less anxious sexually with their own sex? I mean it can't be easy having sex with a gender you are simply not turned on by. But anyway, your point, as you described it above, I see what you are saying. |
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Yes, fair points. Actually, when I was younger I had a lot more chances with gay men than with hetero' females. Now I come to think of it, even though I was not into it and didn't want to go there, the whole situation did seem less pressured. Maybe the expectations felt different. So if I did have intimacy issues with women, maybe I'd have found it a lot easier with gay men, and of course, this would lead me to question my sexuality even if i was pretty sure women were my real desire. |
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Re: Gay and severe SA
If what's been suggested is true for some people then that is very interesting. Personally I wouldn't have thought anxiety issues have any bearing on sexuality, as it's really a question of aesthetics isn't it?
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I've been accused of being gay, because I tend to avoid women...in some cases ones that are interested n me. This is due solely due to my social anxiety, but I've been accused of being gay multiple times. It's frustrating, because it's not true. I've learned to just ignore it for the most part. But no, being afraid to be around women doesn't make you gay...what makes you gay is being sexually aroused by the same sex...which should be easy to find out.
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firemonkey you could have Purely Obsessional OCD thinking what you do, like I think I may have. I tick a lot of the boxes and it overlaps with my social phobia and depression. |
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Anyway, I agree with you. Being afraid of women does not make you gay. Being only attracted to the same sex, does. Although I can see how boundaries may blur for some who feel so intimidated by the opposite sex, who they truly desire, and may seek an outlet with their own sex even if ultimately it's not what they really want. |