Do you find other people boring?

[WeiJingsheng]

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[girlinterrupted]

When I`ve been feeling at my worst then I get very insular,very cynical even bitter and tbh far too exhausted to even have the mental or emotional energy to have an interest in anyone or anything,or to maintain any kind of friendship or connection. The whole idea can seem overwhelming and I end up pushing people away and deliberately avoiding anyone new.
Depression obviously is well known to have that effect but even when I`m not clinically depressed,bad anxiety or even just being horribly stressed does the same thing.

EDIT: No idea how to vote on the poll as my answer would be different every few months if the last year or two are anything to go by. Currently I`m somewhere in the middle in an "I have no idea anymore" stage.

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

I'm boring and yes, I find other people boring a lot too.

BTW Miss Interrupted, I WAS joking in the other thread.

[Progress]

Good idea to turn it around.
Yes, I'm afraid I'm guilty as charged. I do find a lot of stuff boring, and I can get irritated sometimes if someone goes on about a lot of stuff that bores me. Can even get quite angry. I need to just back off and let people be, and not let it bother me.
It probably stems from the fact that I'm not really interested in others for the most part, I'm quite self centred, or thought centred. But I'm an all or nothing person, and if something about someone does spark my interest I will probably be very intensely interested.

Maybe I'm OK with this, but I feel I ought to be more interested in others. I think one of the most important things a woman can find attractive in a man is if he is genuinely interested in her.

[indiegirl1980]

Mainly because I've been going through a tough time at work, but I find a lot of what people talk about boring. Its often a conversation about some Facebook game where you have to buy dragons or something, and we had an hour about something else where you have to move up levels etc,

I'm afraid I think: 'Is that really all you've got to think about?'

Also the snob in me thinks :' Whatever happened to reading a BOOK or taking a WALK?!'

[girlinterrupted]

Originally Posted by Frusty

BTW Miss Interrupted, I WAS joking in the other thread.

Pffttt. It`s ok though,I wasn`t actually going to hit you in the head with a big wooden mallet either

[!>Y\e5l-%h-NMw>cH]

Originally Posted by girlinterrupted

Pffttt. It`s ok though,I wasn`t actually going to hit you in the head with a big wooden mallet either

[Captain Nemo]

Originally Posted by indiegirl1980

Its often a conversation about some Facebook game where you have to buy dragons or something

^ Beautifully put!

And I'm a bit like you indiegirl, I'm quite into the arts generally and by comparison what most people talk about doesn't seem to be of much real interest or importance. I guess we should be grateful that we have better things to be thinking about, but I also think 'I am a bit of a culture snob?' Lol

Some people's interests in life seem painfully trivial to me, but then I suppose human beings are just a varied bunch (I'm sure many people my age would consider my life pointless!)

[We_Hate_You]

When all someone can talk about is the weather, it's hard to find them interesting.

[enilorac]

Unfortunately people find me boring

But that's ok because I happen to find a few people boring as well. I never seem to be in touch with most peope my age, as theytend to talk about and do things I'm not really interested in. Getting drunk, smoking,drugs and basically being all into themselves and how totally awesome they are dude lol
People think I'm boring because I don't drink(once in a blue moon) smoke and I've never been able to master slang or know all the latest words and whats in vogue at the time. I guess it could be because of the whole SAD thing but I would like to think even if I didn't have SAD I would still be me.

[ßazza]

Do you find other people boring?

To me its a bit of a battle. I can confidently say NO I dont necessarily find people boring. I definitely find many people fascinating most of the time. However I do find them very misinformed and unaware of things. I find that quite intolerable at times.

Are you becoming cynical of the idea of socialising?

I have my ups and downs as it can be tough. However I do still like socialising. I find sauk people more tolerable than non-sauk people aswell. They a bit more open minded - Though not as a rule.

I think most people can and do find atleast something fascinating about me - Even if its a dislike lol. Though thats rare in rl circumstances that someone would dislike me. I tend to keep my mouth shut when I realise someone is an idiot to purposely reduce the likelihood of them disliking me. I attempt to keep it neutral instead and avoid them.

[maybellinesmom]

I don't find people boring, quite the opposite and very interesting really, probably doesn't help with my SA though, constantly analysing peoples behaviours and actions

[girlinterrupted]

Originally Posted by VinceMasuka

Yup, I would assume a lot of it is down to Depression (lack of motivation/pleasure). I just think the cynicism of others' worth seems to be an SA trait. I think it's natural that when certain behaviour is fairly unconcious (fear/avoidance), we try and rationalise it as if we consciously made the decision. Maybe it's something that could be worked on to ease anxiety, improve motivation for therapy...etcetc.

*Don't know*

^ Probably makes no sense whatsoever but yeah.

I know in the past I`ve written off people I haven`t actually known that well,it`s probably some form of self-protection. It can`t hurt so bad to be rejected (or how it seems at the time) by them if I convince myself I want nothing to do with them anyway. In my head I`ve already rejected them anyway,so when they all hate me (as my SA used to tell me they would) that`s ok,doesn`t hurt. I guess it helped as a kind of shield in the short-term,long term it really didn`t though,the only person I hurt was me.

“Bitterness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die" ~ attributed to various sources

That`s a derail into bitterness and cynicism though more than boring,sorry

[Sleepless]

I dunno really. I just can't relate with most people, feel like a bit of a freak. I really it hate when people talk too much and I'm sat there nodding my head lol. And usually the only thing I can come up with is "hmmm" and "yeah".

[The_Fr33_Man]

This is the unfortunate outcome when you start asking questions about yourself and the world you live in. You start to isolate yourself from the things people consider "important", so while 5 years ago i might find a conversation about Life as a whole boring but one about wrestling fascinating, it would be the opposite today.

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Originally Posted by VinceMasuka

Are you becoming cynical of the idea of socialising?

No, because I have one friend who I see at least weekly, and I always have a great evening with him, we have a good laugh and I always feel better afterwards. So I understand how good socialising is, I just need more of it.

[Detox]

As for finding other people boring, I rarely do as they have things to actually talk about.
Me on the hand I'm quite boring unless its about games and stuff. I'm boring enough to be pushed aside by people as has happened recently, but what can you do. :p

[951thompson]

Yeah sure I find some people boring, tho some of those people might find me boring! (This is true)

[Ajax Amsterdam]

Generally I don't think I do. Much of that may have to do with the fact that I tend to have people around me that I want to be around me, so I'm not really going to find those people boring. I can't actually think of anyone I know who I'd hang the 'boring' label on. Some may want to hang it on me though.

Also, the older I've got the more interesting I find people. I'm always wondering why do they think this? and why do they do that? So I find understanding people quite an interesting thing, probably even more so the people I don't initially 'get'. A lot of the time a person may come over as boring because of certain factors that sort of hamper them articulating themselves. Obviously, SA is one such factor. But scratch the surface and who knows what lies underneath. I think that if you can get a rapport with someone and interact on a level with a little depth to it, few people are really boring. They may not be our cup of tea of course, but still.

Anyway, when I do socialise I do it with people I like to be around, so I'll enjoy it because of that, and because I like those people and find them interesting.

[Pandapop]

I find a lot of people boring tbh, I don't think I am though :D

[Caribou]

In general, no. However, I do find people who never shut up about themselves or just talk too much in general, very tedious to say the least.

[Captain Nemo]

Originally Posted by VinceMasuka

Pretty much.
What are you referring to with 'the arts'? Wide spectrum stuff, especially with the addition of 'generally'...etcetc.

Mostly I'm talking about music and literature, I mean I'm not a ridiculously arty person but in recent years I've immersed myself in these things more deeply. That's good in that I've got passions in life and plenty to keep me occupied, but because for me these things are easier to enjoy than anything around people, I find it hard to be motivated to make the effort. I'm sure that the escapism offered by these things is a large part of their appeal.

Originally Posted by The_Fr33_Man
This is the unfortunate outcome when you start asking questions about yourself and the world you live in. You start to isolate yourself from the things people consider "important", so while 5 years ago i might find a conversation about Life as a whole boring but one about wrestling fascinating, it would be the opposite today.

Interesting point.

[mhealer3]

i may not have a lot in common with another person, but
that wouldn't make them boring to me.

i like hearing about other peoples' jobs,where the come from, ect.

the exception is-- for serious relationships,(or marriage)--
i do think people need to have a lot in common for success there.

i found out the hard way. it's really boring to be married to a person
who shares none of your interests. (and couldn't care less to try).

[Toxic]

yes i do

most people anyway

i dont care about 90% of "popular topics of conversation" ..at least 90%

if thats all they have to talk about then yeah ..cant be arsed

however id say im quite selective on who i remain friends with..therefore the few friends i do have left..they dont bore me..if they did i wouldnt speak to them anymore..

so i shall vote yes

[Ajax Amsterdam]

Originally Posted by CaveGirl

My main interests- Art , books ,social history , looking at pictures on sites like Flickr and SCC, medical stuff , foreign films and countries , ridiculous music , languages- are probably considered the most boring of hobbies.

You actually sound rather interesting there.

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Originally Posted by VinceMasuka

What does interest you?

I'm becoming interested in quite a lot more things these days - I'll show an interest in anything if the story grabs me. But I think I need to get more actively into one or two more things, not enough going on in my life. It's strange when I hear some are so stressed out with too many things to do, and here's me a lazy/uninterested bugger who can't be bothered sometimes.
My main problem is probably that I glaze over a bit if someone goes on about their job or something day to day.

[Rich Notts]

Thing is theres alot you can be interested in but you can appear very boring.

I mean if you like really good films, comedy and art then thats great but for me I find it hard to express my likes and alot of things like cavegirl's are passive like good movies and books its hard to say anything about them other then their story and what you liked about it and the other person has no point of reference so you might come off as boring.
If you went rock climbing and could tell a funny anecdote about it that would be "interesting" despite how in reality you might be looking at a rock face for 5 hours straight lol

Unfortunatly things that I find boring are my first topic starters, like yesterday at a meet I was asking people about their jobs and stuff when in reality most people hate their jobs and don't want to talk about them but I hear other people talking about them and thats a "safe" almost universal topic of conversation even though its very dull

[Mr Ploppy]

It depends, I tend to turn my nose up at those who have little beyond football, the pub and shopping.

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Originally Posted by enilorac

I never seem to be in touch with most peope my age, as theytend to talk about and do things I'm not really interested in. Getting drunk, smoking,drugs and basically being all into themselves and how totally awesome they are dude

But those things are boring, there's far more interesting things to do.

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Originally Posted by We_Hate_You

When all someone can talk about is the weather, it's hard to find them interesting.

Even a meteorologist?

It's cloudy here by the way